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Old 06-30-2019, 06:54 PM
 
Location: Salt Lake City
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Originally Posted by VTsnowbird View Post
I Googled "help leaving...." and Mormon church was the second result.


https://quitmormon.com/
Good grief. You don't need a lawyer to leave the LDS Church. You just stop going. Looks like someone is trying to make a buck here.

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Old 06-30-2019, 07:02 PM
 
Location: Salt Lake City
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All of my relatives and siblings that I know are LDS, so no matter where I go I feel all the pressure and force from everyone trying to stay on the "righteous path". I am going to community college which they aren't paying for because I have a scholarship, but I will be living at home since I can't support myself financially yet and because my parents will do anything to keep me from moving away. Its just going to be a lot harder to be able to save up while going to school and keeping a scholarship so my parents can't hang school over my head
Look, I'm LDS. My husband and I raised our two kids LDS. During their teenage years, they decided they no longer wanted to be a part of the Church. When they graduated from high school, they found roommates and got jobs and moved out. Sure, my husband and I would have preferred that they remain LDS, but it was their choice to leave. When they did, the world didn't end -- not for us and not for them. They've been on their own ever since, and no longer have anything to do with the Church. We still have a good relationship with them. Your situation is not the slightest bit unusual. It may take a bit longer for you to be able to move out, but meanwhile, you're an adult living in the home of other adults who have the right to make the rules, even if those rules don't suit you. I just hope all of you can work through this and still remain close, because it is possible and it would be the best thing for everyone concerned.
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Old 06-30-2019, 07:05 PM
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Location: Memphis - home of the king
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Good grief. You don't need a lawyer to leave the LDS Church. You just stop going. Looks like someone is trying to make a buck here.
Maybe that's all there is to it for adults who aren't in harsh environments. Beyond the more typical, you do realize that some Mormons live in isolated polygamist communities and may need legal help to get out.
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Old 06-30-2019, 07:06 PM
 
Location: Salt Lake City
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this is exactly what the bible meant when it said jesus said I will tear apart families.

when families have misguided people in them, you, as a rational person, don't have to follow them.

you are learning that most people are no different than anything else that runs on instinct. i call them sleepers. they are sleep walking and you are wake.

good luck, I mean that.
"Rational" is in the mind of the beholder, Arach Angle. We've heard just one side of the story here and yet you're convinced that there is no other side that matters. Maybe the OP's parents are as controlling and zealous as she says they are. On the other hand, maybe they'd present an entirely different story if we were to be able to talk to them.
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Old 06-30-2019, 09:48 PM
 
Location: Sun City West, Arizona
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OP, I look back to my years after high school until I got my first full-time job after college. I hung around home during my college years because it seemed easy. It wasn't. I was dominated way too much. I should gone out and found a job with more hours, found a roommate, and gotten out of that house. I was too timid.

My advice, get out at practically any cost. Get a job as a waitress or at Walmart. You can work and do college. Find a roommate.

Otherwise, you're just moaning and groaning.
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Old 06-30-2019, 11:33 PM
 
Location: Valencia, Spain
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They don't want me to move out so they do anything to make sure I can't. Since I recently turned 18 I'm able to get an insurance check from an accident I was in and basically all the money I'm getting that could be used for me to move out is going to my parents ....
What the hell is stopping you opening a bank account and having your money paid into that so that they can't get it>
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Old 07-01-2019, 12:54 AM
 
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What the hell is stopping you opening a bank account and having your money paid into that so that they can't get it>
It does have to be a total break. That happened when I got a London job and something like accommodation. It has to be total.
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Old 07-01-2019, 02:49 AM
 
Location: Valencia, Spain
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It does have to be a total break. That happened when I got a London job and something like accommodation. It has to be total.
Quite so, but she can't escape when the parent have control of her dosh. First she needs to be in charge of her finances and then she can move out.

I have a cunning plan old fruit...and it's as cunning as a fox that has just been appointed professor of cunning at Cunning university in Cunningtown!

Me being an old duffer of 70 that is just beginning to babble incoherently, foam at the mouth and lose bladder control...why don't we hire me to the OP to take home to her parents and tell them that she is going to marry me. This will surely result in them disowning her and then she can move out to her own pad! You can act as my carer - usual 10% commission of course.

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Old 07-01-2019, 03:02 AM
 
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If you can't find a way now, be patient and Pray hard to God about it everyday day and night to make a way for you. God's way will be the best way for you to go.

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Old 07-01-2019, 04:11 AM
 
Location: Valencia, Spain
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If you can't find a way now, be patient and Pray hard to God about it everyday day and night to make a way for you. God's way will be the best way for you to go.
Perhaps she should be asking your god why it has put her in the position she is in, huh?
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