Does God purposefully set humans up for failure?

[damnuluck]

Originally Posted by Tzaphkiel

what you are describing does not add up. sorry. if he did not want to marry you (i see on other posts you are a female) what makes you think he would want to have kids with you? and for a woman to want to have kids with someone who is not even committed enough to the relationship to get married seems like putting yourself and your kids in a very difficult dubious vulnerable position physically, emotionally, and financially.

a lot of guys don't want to commit. if you want marriage and children and the stability of raising a family together with a husband, then it sounds like a different man would suit you better. that holds true for a woman whether she is religious or not.

You think I didn't give chances to other men, men from my own faith? I did, and it never worked out. In certain cases, I couldn't envision myself with some of them and in other cases I got rejected.


I don't think I can blame him for not wanting to commit since he went through betrayal in his previous marriage. We were both sensible enough to acknowledge that being together was going to be fraught with difficulties since we came from different religion, race and culture. I had hoped for him to convert and he expected me to be less religious. So I ended it and let's suppose it was the right thing to do, due to his lack of commitment, why do I feel so lost? Why has this made me lose faith in God, in religion and in the logic behind it all.


I guess, my confusion is that if me falling in love with that person was a 'test', from the optics of it I made the right choice, but from the perspective of faith, I have failed and what did God get out of it? No more faith in Him!