Christian Conflicted About Homosexuality. (priest, Baptist, bible, quote)

[Colddiamond102]

I am a 21 year old straight, reasonably religious female, and I've had a bit of a internal conflict going on with myself for a while. I hope ya'll can give me some input.
My best friend (male) is gay. We were friends in middle school ( hadnt a clue as to his sexual orientation then) and he came out to me in our freshman year of high school. We've still remained extremely good friends, and in this lies my internal conflict.

I am well aware of what the Bible says about homosexuality being an abomination to God. What I am not aware of is what the Bible says for us to do if we are friends with a homosexual. Am I doing "wrong" by remaining close friends with him?

My reasoning all those years ago to do so was this:
1. He was my friend before I knew his sexual preference, so why should I abandon him just because of it?

2. A bible verse rang in my head at the time as well. "A good friend loveth at all times" and a verse (I cant remember the exact words) that went along the lines of "Judge not, or ye shall be judged"

I want to do whats right, soI'd really like ya'lls input on this please. It would be greatly appreciated.

[Reads2MUCH]

There is no reason you cannot hold to your beliefs while still remaining friends with this person. If you disagree with the lifestyle choices he has chosen, then don't get involved with that part of his life. And if you think he will take it alright, explain to him your conflicting feelings and get his input. If he is any kind of a friend he will respect your beliefs and understand your point of view. Your differences do not have to mean an end to your friendship. But it would definitely be prudent to be upfront with him about how you feel. Otherwise, you will give yourself away with your actions and he will feel betrayed by his good friend. And one thing definitely stands true in all of life's situations. Good friends are hard to come by and you should cherish the real friends that you have.

[Hoosier]

As a former homosexual gone straight, love the guy. Continue to be his friend. You don't have to agree with the life he's leading, but you can still remain friends and love him. Sounds like he needs a friend like you in his life. I lost all my Christian friends when I came out. I wish they would've hung in there with me. It's when I really needed them the most...even when I'd say I didn't need them, I really did. Love on the guy and show the love of Christ through your actions. You sound like an amazing friend, and one he can't afford to lose.

[Lakewooder]

Originally Posted by Colddiamond102

I am a 21 year old straight, reasonably religious female, and I've had a bit of a internal conflict going on with myself for a while. I hope ya'll can give me some input.
My best friend (male) is gay. We were friends in middle school ( hadnt a clue as to his sexual orientation then) and he came out to me in our freshman year of high school. We've still remained extremely good friends, and in this lies my internal conflict.

I am well aware of what the Bible says about homosexuality being an abomination to God. What I am not aware of is what the Bible says for us to do if we are friends with a homosexual. Am I doing "wrong" by remaining close friends with him?

My reasoning all those years ago to do so was this:
1. He was my friend before I knew his sexual preference, so why should I abandon him just because of it?

2. A bible verse rang in my head at the time as well. "A good friend loveth at all times" and a verse (I cant remember the exact words) that went along the lines of "Judge not, or ye shall be judged"

I want to do whats right, soI'd really like ya'lls input on this please. It would be greatly appreciated.

How about "Love Never Faileth"

I doubt he would quote Bible verses against you for wearing pearls or gold jewelry.

[Tricky D]

Ask yourself this: Would you during the years of segregation have befriended someone of another race?
Would skin colour or sexuality truly be a reason to end a friendship?
Would you really have refused the help of a homosexual if you were in dire need of it but no one else is willing to lend you a hand?

[Macbeth2003]

Originally Posted by Reads2MUCH

If you disagree with the lifestyle choices he has chosen, then don't get involved with that part of his life.

That part, I don't think really works. If you are friends sooner or later he is going to bring his boyfriend with him when you go out. I would decide right now if this is something you are comfortable with, and talk honestly about that with him. Then go from there.
Myself I don't think there is anything wrong with homosexuality, my priest is gay, but I've faced similar situation with friend doing things I find immoral, it's a weird situation.

[Colddiamond102]

Originally Posted by Macbeth2003

That part, I don't think really works. If you are friends sooner or later he is going to bring his boyfriend with him when you go out. I would decide right now if this is something you are comfortable with, and talk honestly about that with him. Then go from there.
Myself I don't think there is anything wrong with homosexuality, my priest is gay, but I've faced similar situation with friend doing things I find immoral, it's a weird situation.

Yeah, he's brought boyfriends and such around (Ive even chased quite a few jerks away from him) and Ive talked to him about how I feel. He understands, but it doesnt stop me from questioning myself you know? I was raised Baptist, and such things in growing up were taboo. So in the back of my mind I question if Im doing things right.

[june 7th]

Originally Posted by Colddiamond102

My best friend

When those three words stand alone, therein lies your answer.


-And having a best friend, or for that matter, a friend is in and of itself a gift.


Cherish the friendship. Don't let either his being gay, or any religion ever detract from that.


Take gentle care.

[Macbeth2003]

Originally Posted by Colddiamond102

So in the back of my mind I question if Im doing things right.

I think if everyone did this constantly about everything, the world would be much better. Seems to me that even if you think homosexuality is wrong, if we started eliminating all our friends who did things we find wrong, we;d all be friendless. We could look at lots of religious issues. IF for example as a Southern Baptist, you started eliminating, those who dance, those who drink, those who practice infant baptism, I imagine you would have few friends. The same would hold true for me, if I insisted on my friends sharing my beliefs, and practices. He's your friend, you care for him, you seem to be able to deal with seeing him with boyfriends, sounds like things are ok.

[Colddiamond102]

Originally Posted by Macbeth2003

I think if everyone did this constantly about everything, the world would be much better. Seems to me that even if you think homosexuality is wrong, if we started eliminating all our friends who did things we find wrong, we;d all be friendless. We could look at lots of religious issues. IF for example as a Southern Baptist, you started eliminating, those who dance, those who drink, those who practice infant baptism, I imagine you would have few friends. The same would hold true for me, if I insisted on my friends sharing my beliefs, and practices. He's your friend, you care for him, you seem to be able to deal with seeing him with boyfriends, sounds like things are ok.

Thanks ya'll. I really appreciate the feedback. Dont get me wrong...I'm STILL not used to him using the term "boyfriend" lol