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They are one and the same, as far as I'm concerned. Marrying outside the faith is sad. It indicates that they don't take their faith seriously. It reallly doesn't matter if the person they're marrying is a different religion, or is an atheist -- it's that they don't share the thing that SHOULD be the most important thing in their lives.
Rarely have I seen a marriage between a Christian and a non-Christian thrive, while the Christian maintains a strong faith. It just doesn't happen. It's incredibly sad to see a woman sitting alone in church, knowing her husband is at home in bed and he doesn't share that with her. Worse yet is when I see such a woman stop coming to church because it's just easier to stay in bed on Sunday morning because none of her family cares to come with her.
That, I can understand because of Vizio's religion.
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Originally Posted by Katzpur
I just want my kids to be happy. My son (a non-practicing Mormon) is currently very serious with a non-practicing Hindu young woman. If they come to me one day and tell me they're engaged, I will be on cloud 9. If he were with the same girl but she were an atheist, I'd also be delighted to call her my daughter-in-law. In a perfect world, he and she would both be practicing Mormons, but hey, this isn't a perfect world.
That I can understand because of Katzpur's religion...and her personality.
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Originally Posted by Willistonite
None of my kids married within the same religions and it is working out fine. If they wanted to marry an Atheist I would have had a huge problem with that.
You though...you stand out like a neon pink elephant.
Why? why, why, why, why, why?
Unless your offspring did something like convert from Methodists to Presbyterians I can't even guess what your reasoning is.
None of my kids married within the same religions and it is working out fine. If they wanted to marry an Atheist I would have had a huge problem with that.
It's ok to marry the Jewish belief system, Christian belief system, Muslim belief system, some type of tribal belief, or even a humanist belief system but if they married the atheist belief system you would have a problem?
Really? Then who exactly is the god that atheists worship? Your statement makes no sense at all. Atheism is the realization that god and supernatural beings are products of the human imagination and nothing more. I don't believe in any invisible beings with magical powers.
Then, I guess their "god" is the human imagination and nothing more. . That's sad, isn't it?
It is none of my business who my children marry. They are adults and make their own decisions. I only wish happiness for them. Interesting, though, their mother and I had an extremely contentious relationship (she has schizophrenia), and all 3 of them live with their s/o's outside of marriage. After what they've seen, I can't blame them.
I worked well for us.
I am an atheist. My wife was a staunch believer, so were her parents. We made compromises. I endured the religious marriage ceremony with a smile and she went to church on her own without giving me a hard time about it.
Our kids are baptized and went to church with her, but when they wanted to stop going, they stopped going.
I didn't fight her parents, they liked me for who I was, not for what I believed in and as long as I was there for the big days (christmas, easter, ...) and just went along with it, no problem. Her mother did haunt me for 25 years, trying to convert me, but I resisted :-)
My kids are now all atheists. I don't know the reason, they just abandoned it at some point.
An atheist would be worse than someone of a different religion, but both would be about equal if they they didnt sabotage the religious upbringing of my grandchildren.
I worked well for us.
I am an atheist. My wife was a staunch believer, so were her parents. We made compromises. I endured the religious marriage ceremony with a smile and she went to church on her own without giving me a hard time about it.
Our kids are baptized and went to church with her, but when they wanted to stop going, they stopped going.
I didn't fight her parents, they liked me for who I was, not for what I believed in and as long as I was there for the big days (christmas, easter, ...) and just went along with it, no problem. Her mother did haunt me for 25 years, trying to convert me, but I resisted :-)
My kids are now all atheists. I don't know the reason, they just abandoned it at some point.
This is very fair. The children got a framework in which to decide for themselves.
When my two sons began to show interest in girls, I could have cared less what religion, if any, that the girls followed, I just wanted them to respect girls, and be happy.
I don’t know how my wife felt, we’d been divorced for years, but she probably felt similarly to me.
Bear in mind that my kids were chasing girls from the early eighties, in those days Muslims were an unknown quantity, who existed only in areas of the mid east and North Africa.
The elder son got married, and gradually I was provided with two grandsons, when the eldest of these two discovered girls, he took after his grandpa, and was happy to date a girl for a few months, then catch sight of another, and start over with her.
His younger brother started dating a Turko-German girl, (my kid and his family live in Germany), this was around ten years after 9/11, and I asked my German daughter-in-law how she felt about the Islam thing.
She said, “Defne thinks that the sun shines out of Mark’s eyes, and her parents treat him as a son, they’re not religious, they don’t go to a mosque, and Defne’s dad drinks almost as much vodka as you.”
My younger son got married just after his fiancée had popped out my third grandson, he’s now 18, and is definitely taking an interest in the opposite sex.
Four years after my third grandson, his sister, my one and only granddaughter appeared.
According to her dad, she won’t be allowed out until she’s at least 38, but then she can date who she likes, black, white, green, or blue, and he can follow whatever religion suits him, for she has her mother’s brains and common sense, the only stipulation will be that he mustn’t be a fan of her dad’s soccer team’s deadly rivals.
All I can tell you is that every divorced person I have ever known was a self-professed religious person, and almost all were christians.
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. That's sad, isn't it?
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