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Old 05-07-2015, 06:01 PM
 
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Thanks to everyone who has given me suggestions and answers to questions I have asked in the last 2 years. I cannot take living here any longer. I'm sure it's not a loss LOL.

I have found living here extremely socially isolating when trying to make friends and date. Most of the people in my age group seem to be single parents (nothing wrong with that, I just prefer to hang around single people with good jobs and no kids), or losers (IMO).

I have done all the recommendations advised to me on here (which can also be used in other cities). I joined a place of worship, I did volunteer work, I regularly take my dog on hikes and to the dog park, and I am a regular in a few Meetup groups.

I'm leaving a good job to move back to Socal (again I'm sure a loss here) with no job lined up. Stupid? Yes, but living here has been 2 years of Hell.
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Old 05-07-2015, 07:30 PM
 
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Sorry to hear it, Naomi. I hope you find a better environment for yourself in SoCal.
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Old 05-07-2015, 11:01 PM
 
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I envy you, unlike you I'm from this hell hole. I'm a 30s something single and your right it's so darn hard to meet good educated man with no baby mama drama. Best of luck to you!!!!
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Old 05-08-2015, 07:56 AM
 
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Thanks Diane

LOL Legend, the joke is, Reno is a pretty city that offers a lot to outdoorsy people. I find this is very much a family dominated city AWFUL for singles. I'm too old for the college crowd and don't really have much in common with the family crowd. Had I found my social niche here, I probably would have stayed longer. The loneliness here has just killed me. Being able to afford a house isn't enough to keep me here. I'm choosing a social life over lower cost of living and current employment!

I also find that just the overall people that live here just disgust me all together. I live in a very nice part of town in a huge complex and people leave their cigarettes everywhere, and let their dogs go wherever they want not picking up after them (I see this at my complex, on nearby trails, and at the park near me). Shopping in Walmart here is one of the most depressing things. I feel like I am around nothing but trash.
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Old 05-08-2015, 10:02 AM
 
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I'm sorry Naomi!!!! Yes it's a pretty area but as far at educated people and great gainful employment is one of the many things this place lacks. I lived in Vegas for 5 years and found tons of people who prosued higher education people who where well rounded and you could have an intelligent conversation with, now that my mom is older and no one near to take care of her I find myself back in this cesspool. Yes I have a few high school friends that purposely moved back here to raise families but most of them ran from here can't say I blame them....... I have a cousin from sac who is going to UNR and loves it but she's a 20 something from CA who like to go out and drink and hang in the casinos all night what a depressing way of life...
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Old 05-08-2015, 09:06 PM
 
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One of the running jokes was "N. Nevada's biggest export is its educated kids".
Its a gaming service industry state with little tech and low wage jobs, warehousing, call centers etc. Educated techies can be found over the hill in the San Jose/San Francisco bay area where a condo in a crappy part of town will cost you $500K. Those employers look at Reno/Sparks but eventually go elsewhere. Educated folks want to be around like people, they want good schools for their kids etc and while N. Nevada is not a slum by any means, it does not have great schools or a large tech sector.
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Old 05-09-2015, 02:58 AM
 
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Interesting to see it like that mama and seems true. If I were in my early 20s, I probably would go back to school part time just to meet people who value education. The people I have met out here who usually have an education are the ones married and settled down. The single ones usually are in the gaming industry or blue collar types (totally nothing wrong with that so I don't want to make it seem like there is!). The hotels here seem to employ the most people after reading the demographics on Wikipedia. I have a good chance of getting a job in N. Cal in the Contra Costa County area but I really just want to go back to southern CA.
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Old 05-09-2015, 11:44 AM
 
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Having a 20-something who was born and raised here, I think you guys are correct. Many of her friends (and her) have moved out of state for jobs and grad school. The ones who remained in Reno from her graduating class have stayed because they have multi-generational families in the area or found jobs that they grew into as they moved through college if they stayed and went to UNR. But the vast majority of her friends have ended up staying where they went to college or where they were recruited for their first job/internship or looked for jobs other than Reno because they wanted a change.

We stay because we came here 35 years ago to get away from the rat race of a major city. I have to say that job security and availability has aways been (and still is) a risky business. I really don't know anyone who has felt secure for their entire career and know many who have had lots of jobs over the years. Companies don't seem to stay in Reno (many come, but few stay long-term) and the older employers seem to just give up and shutter the doors. I think the only really secure jobs are at a couple of the hospitals and maybe some Federal jobs.

I think I understand the dilemma of being young and single here. We came as a married couple. Singles who were raised here have a built-in network with those they grew up with. I wouldn't say that going to UNR gives you lots of friends because most graduates leave for other places. And even while being a student gives you a circle of friends, UNR has a lot of students who commute so they are not spending a lot of time on campus outside of classes.

I'm sorry the OP did not enjoy her stay. But you learn where you fit in and where you don't. It's part of the growing process. I wish you the best of luck and hope you find a place to call home.
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Old 05-09-2015, 12:00 PM
 
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Having a 20-something who was born and raised here, I think you guys are correct. Many of her friends (and her) have moved out of state for jobs and grad school. The ones who remained in Reno from her graduating class have stayed because they have multi-generational families in the area or found jobs that they grew into as they moved through college if they stayed and went to UNR. But the vast majority of her friends have ended up staying where they went to college or where they were recruited for their first job/internship or looked for jobs other than Reno because they wanted a change.

We stay because we came here 35 years ago to get away from the rat race of a major city. I have to say that job security and availability has aways been (and still is) a risky business. I really don't know anyone who has felt secure for their entire career and know many who have had lots of jobs over the years. Companies don't seem to stay in Reno (many come, but few stay long-term) and the older employers seem to just give up and shutter the doors. I think the only really secure jobs are at a couple of the hospitals and maybe some Federal jobs.

I think I understand the dilemma of being young and single here. We came as a married couple. Singles who were raised here have a built-in network with those they grew up with. I wouldn't say that going to UNR gives you lots of friends because most graduates leave for other places. And even while being a student gives you a circle of friends, UNR has a lot of students who commute so they are not spending a lot of time on campus outside of classes.

I'm sorry the OP did not enjoy her stay. But you learn where you fit in and where you don't. It's part of the growing process. I wish you the best of luck and hope you find a place to call home.



Your so right on!!! I only stay for now because of my mom if it wasn't for that id be out of here in a hot New York second
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Old 05-09-2015, 12:14 PM
 
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Having a 20-something who was born and raised here, I think you guys are correct. Many of her friends (and her) have moved out of state for jobs and grad school. The ones who remained in Reno from her graduating class have stayed because they have multi-generational families in the area or found jobs that they grew into as they moved through college if they stayed and went to UNR. But the vast majority of her friends have ended up staying where they went to college or where they were recruited for their first job/internship or looked for jobs other than Reno because they wanted a change.

We stay because we came here 35 years ago to get away from the rat race of a major city. I have to say that job security and availability has aways been (and still is) a risky business. I really don't know anyone who has felt secure for their entire career and know many who have had lots of jobs over the years. Companies don't seem to stay in Reno (many come, but few stay long-term) and the older employers seem to just give up and shutter the doors. I think the only really secure jobs are at a couple of the hospitals and maybe some Federal jobs.

I think I understand the dilemma of being young and single here. We came as a married couple. Singles who were raised here have a built-in network with those they grew up with. I wouldn't say that going to UNR gives you lots of friends because most graduates leave for other places. And even while being a student gives you a circle of friends, UNR has a lot of students who commute so they are not spending a lot of time on campus outside of classes.

I'm sorry the OP did not enjoy her stay. But you learn where you fit in and where you don't. It's part of the growing process. I wish you the best of luck and hope you find a place to call home.

Believe it or not, I have job security here which is why it actually was a tough decision for me to leave. I don't have job security in CA because there are more people in CA trained in my industry than there are in NV. I'm moving without a job which is very, very scary to me but I need more social interaction!

If I came here with a husband, had family here, or felt like I had friends I would be likely to stay.
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