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I am a parent of 4 trying to leave an abusive situation. I live in MI and want to relocate to WI. I currently have a housing voucher that i have ported to Racine, WI. I cant find a place to live. I am working with a limited amount of time because I have to leave when he goes on his business trip on the 29th of this month. If you have any suggestions or can help me locate a nice home for my children and i please feel free to help.
are there no programs for woman in your state that deal with these issues? in NY there are temporary safe houses setup until permanent housing is secured.
in NY we have 311 which provides callers with city services they can turn to. do you have a similar number to call?
I sent a private message to you of a place locally in Racine that can assist you.
I cannot emphasize enough that you must know (before going anywhere) about MI laws re: moving children out of state, unless you have sole custody, in which case, you still should be aware of what visitation and/or custody issues your ex may try to create, just to see you again. It happens all the time.
Not to give you one more thing to worry about - obviously your safety and your children's safety comes first - but abusive partners will use the legal system to maintain contact, in order to regain control of you.
I just want to warn you ahead of time, so that you can seek help in MI first, before you leave. I would recommend to do research on the custody issue *only* if you can do so without being found out; only you can judge. If you absolutely have no freedom, then you'll have to just run and deal with the aftermath.
I hope you make it! And...no matter what, don't look back. I can tell you firsthand that abusive people don't change. They may not hit you anymore, but they will still be tormentors, control freaks and egomaniacs...not exactly a good catch even without the physical abuse.
Lastly, please do not tell anyone at all that you are leaving - things have a way of getting around and if an abuser knows you are leaving, you are in much more danger. Please don't become another Stacy Peterson. Go!!!
Just go and call friends later - do not tell them where you are; you will need to behave like you are in witness protection to guarantee your & your children's best chances of moving on to happier, brighter lives.
Good luck & stay strong.
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