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I've had female roommates along with other guys before. No one ever treated them any different than any other roommate. I nor anyone else can really tell you how certain it is to be an issue. My guess is that there would be issues with some guys, but not most. It depends on whether you have met them, and are comfortable with the situation, and if you feel that you would be able to deal with a worst case problem if it came up.
Thank you all for taking the time to comment. The biggest pro of this place is the location, but it's definitely not my only option (I've swapped messages with two other prospects since I made my initial post). I DID meet the guys today and they seemed like decent, non-creepy human beings and we seem to have similar outlooks on how we want to run the household. I haven't made a decision yet, nor are they pushing me to. Yes, I'm a little (aka a lot) apprehensive about living with two men but I'd also be apprehensive about living with women, if only because this is my first time kinda on my own. I'd like to trust that these guys are going to respect my boundaries and not try to force me into things I'm unwilling to do, as opposed to judging them for being strangers with dangly bits. That being said, I've talked to them about having a short lease (3 months) just to see how we gel together before signing up for something more long-term and they were in accord. We'll see what happens. If nothing else, it will be quite the adventure and a swift trip outside of my comfort zone.
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Originally Posted by oregonwoodsmoke
Are the two men gay? That would make a difference.
Why are you paying half the bills when there are three people living there?
I apologize for using incorrect words in my post. I won't be paying half the bills. Everything will be split three ways. They've even agreed to give me the master bedroom with the connected bath if I decide to move it. Oh and I don't know if they're gay. I didn't feel the need to ask them, nor did I feel the need to ask them what their ages/ethnicities were before moving in, since those things are irrelevant to me.
Unless they are complete P I G S, I would prefer 2 male roommates over 2 other unknown women, any day. I know this is a slam against my own, but rarely do three women get along. And if it evolves into two against one, expect pure hell. Every roommate issue I've ever had, has been with a witch and booting one out required eviction notices and court action. I'm sure the issues go both ways, but that has not been my experience.
Biggest issues: smoking, drugs, pets, loud overnight company, and no one using headphones....and I guess bandwidth hogs are the modern day issue. Minor stuff like leaving clothes in the dryer or finishing the last of __________ in the fridge are minor complaints. Messing with your sleep, pets out of control, or breathing in secondhand smoke or worrying about drug busts are deal killers.
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OMG! What 23 years old girl would even consider such a STUPID thing. Two STRANGERS of whom you know ABSOLUTELY NOTHING.
Where's your parents honey? Have your mom or dad run a full criminal and credit check on both.
I had male roommates a couple of times when I was younger. Two guys WERE in fact gay, LOL. The other two times were guys I'd gone to SCHOOL with and knew then and their families.
OMG! What 23 years old girl would even consider such a STUPID thing. Two STRANGERS of whom you know ABSOLUTELY NOTHING.
Where's your parents honey? Have your mom or dad run a full criminal and credit check on both.
I had male roommates a couple of times when I was younger. Two guys WERE in fact gay, LOL. The other two times were guys I'd gone to SCHOOL with and knew then and their families.
Big difference.
Please do let us know how this works out.
You are far more likely to be assaulted by someone you know than someone you don't.
Don't be hysterical. In the 21st century, men and women live together in cordial platonic cohabitation all the time.
You can just as easily live with a female who is a thief or a liar, or brings back unsavory men that steal, or is a slob, or is a party animal, as you can a male.
Unless they are complete P I G S, I would prefer 2 male roommates over 2 other unknown women, any day. I know this is a slam against my own, but rarely do three women get along. And if it evolves into two against one, expect pure hell. Every roommate issue I've ever had, has been with a witch and booting one out required eviction notices and court action. I'm sure the issues go both ways, but that has not been my experience.
Ain't that the truth.
OP - if they share your philosophy for running the house, that is the most important part. That's surprisingly hard to do even if you think you live the most normal lifestyle ever. Cleanliness, food, overnight guests, pets, and noise have been the biggest issues, so make sure you address those up front, and how they will be handled.
Unless they are complete P I G S, I would prefer 2 male roommates over 2 other unknown women, any day. I know this is a slam against my own, but rarely do three women get along. And if it evolves into two against one, expect pure hell. Every roommate issue I've ever had, has been with a witch and booting one out required eviction notices and court action. I'm sure the issues go both ways, but that has not been my experience.
Biggest issues: smoking, drugs, pets, loud overnight company, and no one using headphones....and I guess bandwidth hogs are the modern day issue. Minor stuff like leaving clothes in the dryer or finishing the last of __________ in the fridge are minor complaints. Messing with your sleep, pets out of control, or breathing in secondhand smoke or worrying about drug busts are deal killers.
This.^^
My concerns would be:
1.) The roommate that smokes. Does he smoke inside the apartment? Does the apartment smell like cigarettes (it's possible even if he's smoking outside)?
2.) The roommate that works 3rd shift. What are the expectations for "quiet" hours while he's sleeping and while you're sleeping?
I guess my question is, does anyone think it's a good idea to move in with two male strangers?
I would never move in with another male I did not know and trust 100%.
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