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To reiterate a direct answer to the original question-
Never had a shred of wondering if I did the right thing, etc.
If I'd had a child (and cannot imagine any such circumstance) I'd be doing hard time.
Very cute. And, if you saw married life with kids this way when young, it perfectly explains why you did not have them. If you didn't see it and had kids, you obviously made the right choice.
I cannot think of one single person I know who made the decision not to have children who has said they regretted it. On the other hand, unfortunately, the opposite has not always been true. And that I wonder about.
With my parents out of the picture and my siblings living far away or estranged I feel like I have no more family, apart from DH. I've never regreted not having children but with my parents suddenly gone, I'm feeling like an orphan. Most of my siblings have children and so the beat goes on for them. But my very elderly parents were the heart of the family, the planet we all circled, and with them "gone" I'm wondering if I made wrong choices back then, not having produced my own family. Of course, having kids doesn't mean they will turn out well or be living near you when you are older. I'm not even talking about them taking care of you when you are feeble. Anyone ever be hit with this realization?
Yes I am one of those, had one kid in a very 5 year marriage ( we have little contact), so , at 71 and childless I do not regret not having kids. Been through 3 wives , could have had the girl of my dreams if I would except having children. Those days are gone, so is my faimly In the distant past everything revolved around my Grand parents. My grand father out lived his three sons. Nothing was the same after that, me being an only child. Just think of the mess I could have gone through having three wives and kids. No, glad I did not have kids.
Yes I am one of those, had one kid in a very 5 year marriage ( we have little contact), so , at 71 and childless I do not regret not having kids. .
? You had one kid or you didn't? What is a very 5-year marriage? (Very distant?). Little contact still doesn't mean childless. Just want to understand the post.
Was talking to my brother about both of us being in a loveless marriage and raising kids...Came to the realization...if at 62 - I had chosen to be childless...My life would not be what it is today...I have a FAMILY...that I love and who loves me...I protected the kids when they were young- and they will protect me when I am old and feeble..kids are insurance...You can be old and rich and that does not guarantee safety and security ...You NEED a loving advocate...You can be a millionaire and that is not going to ensure that the hired nurse will change your diapers..
Was talking to my brother about both of us being in a loveless marriage and raising kids...Came to the realization...if at 62 - I had chosen to be childless...My life would not be what it is today...I have a FAMILY...that I love and who loves me...I protected the kids when they were young- and they will protect me when I am old and feeble..kids are insurance...You can be old and rich and that does not guarantee safety and security ...You NEED a loving advocate...You can be a millionaire and that is not going to ensure that the hired nurse will change your diapers..
Kids are insurance? Wow. You must have never visited an assisted care or nursing home. Lots of elder people there whose grown up children don't bother to visit them even on holidays. I don't think having kids guarantees safety and security either. Asking your kids to change your diapers. I don't think most parents would do that. What a strange attitude. Kids as insurance. I kind of feel sorry for your kids.
Anyway, the question the OP asked was directed towards those who chose to NOT have kids and whether or not they are regretful. The question was not directed towards those who had them and whether or not they are regretful.
So I do not understand why you are responding in the first place.
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