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Old 07-22-2011, 05:03 PM
 
Location: Florida
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Retired, No Children, No regrets.
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Old 07-22-2011, 05:15 PM
 
Location: Between Seattle and Portland
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I think they like the fact that older folks such as myself did not bow to the sometimes crushing pressure to procreate even back in the day when one was often considered a pariah if they didn't.
Well-said!

Choosing to be childless has not been an easy path to follow in life, especially when you're 31 (in 1978), newly married, and spend the next decade saying:

1. "No, we don't."
2. "No, we don't plan to have any, either."
3. "Gee, Mom and Dad, not everybody is cut out to be parents."
4. "We're just self-centered DINK yuppies who like our freedom, privacy, and spirit of adventure that can be indulged child-free."
5. "Yeah, we won't have anybody to take care of us in our old age and we'll be sorry, won't we?"

Etc. ad nauseaum...

Both my husband and I (now married 33 years) have often joked about how we dodged a bullet and have NEVER regretted our decision not to add to the population explosion.
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Old 07-22-2011, 11:42 PM
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"Yeah, we won't have anybody to take care of us in our old age and we'll be sorry, won't we?"

It is so cruel to have children just so they can be your slaves if you ever become disabled. I used to hear that, back when I was deciding. I knew I didn't want to have kids anyway, but the thought of bringing creatures into the world just to be your slaves -- it was appalling to me.

My mother had me because she loved having babies. I doubt she ever thought she would be disabled some day and need my help. I am glad to help her. But if I thought she had me for that purpose, I would be mad!
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Old 07-23-2011, 01:36 AM
 
Location: Washington County, ME
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Retired, No Children, No regrets.
Same here.

I'm a dog-lover, and my dog is like my kid. I will always have one. Gives you reason to take a walk if you dont feel like it, gives you tons of love, and gives YOU something to love. Of course, people who like to travel a lot, often dont want a pet while they are still able to go go go...

I have nieces and nephews, and great-nieces and nephews. Not all of them live nearby, but we stay in touch.

I have my own life, and i really like it that way. I never wanted children, never had them, and i've always been happy with my choice.
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Old 07-23-2011, 12:31 PM
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There are actually great benefits to being childless. Either your retirement account is hundreds of thousands of dollars more than it would have been with kids, or else you had about 10 extra years to do things you wanted.

If you love raising kids, and have plenty of money, and one parent can afford to stay home, then having kids is a good deal. But otherwise, it really can be a big sacrifice of time and/or money.
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Old 07-24-2011, 08:48 PM
 
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This seems to be the situation in every forum I have ever read where this subject comes up. Not that anyone here is being preachy or scolding as I sometimes see on other forums. Everyone is polite and respcetful of other peoples' comments. But I just wonder why those to whom the question is not being addressed feel compelled to answer just the reverse of what is being asked.
Perhaps because it is a virtual conversation! Just sayin'...
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Old 07-26-2011, 03:48 PM
 
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Never wanted kids, never had kids, retired and absolutely NO regrets! Hubby feels the same!

Haha - my dad (God rest his soul) once told us we were really SMART to not have any!
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Old 07-26-2011, 06:12 PM
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As a nurse, I've seen plenty of people who's children cannot take care of them--either refuse or can't deal with it or working F/T, etc. so having children to "take care of you" as you age doesn' t always work that way! I could never understand why people even thought that way or expected it--it's a different world. And, I think children deserve to have their own lives anyways.
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Old 07-26-2011, 06:19 PM
 
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I never had any desire for kids myself, altho I would have had ONE with the right woman, had she needed one to be happy. I had a vasectomy at age 54, and wish I'd had it at age 18, I'd have had a lot more action with the ladies! :-)
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Old 07-26-2011, 06:31 PM
 
Location: Lakewood OH
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My mother and I didn't eye to eye on most things but when I told her of my decision not to have kids she supported me 100%. It was odd to have her back me up on anything but she approved of my decision because it was what she had wanted to (or not wanted to) do.

I am just not comfortable around kids but that could be because I have never been around them much. If I feel maternal at all I just go and pet my kitty.
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