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To the OP: I agree with those who suggested talking with an elder care attorney. Although well-intentioned, there is definitely some information on this thread that is not accurate. You will get the right information from a qualified attorney, in your area, who will set you on the right path. All the best to you in this. It's a difficult time and estate problems don't help make the time easier.
I second that! I already recommended seeing an attorney who is an expert in elder-care law, but even since I posted that, there is still mis-information on this thread, including the one that said the home must be sold.....also, the one that said homes that accept Medicaid are deplorable....also, the one that said to call the Department of Elder Care first. You and your family need to talk to the elder-law/estate-planning attorney first, and go from there. I can recommend one in Bradenton if you are near there.
Let me just say that we would love to keep my grandmother with her family. She has been living with my mom for 6 years now, but my parents both work and she can no longer be left alone. Even for short increments between my mom leaving for work and my sister bringing her to the senior day center. Plus, my grandmother has become very violent. She punches and scratches my mother and throws fecal covered clothing at her. My mother is an RN, so she has medical experience, but it's a completely different situation when it is family. She has so much guilt, but it is time for my grandmother to be placed in an environment that is accustomed to dealing with the various faces of dementia!
Let me just say that we would love to keep my grandmother with her family. She has been living with my mom for 6 years now, but my parents both work and she can no longer be left alone. Even for short increments between my mom leaving for work and my sister bringing her to the senior day center. Plus, my grandmother has become very violent. She punches and scratches my mother and throws fecal covered clothing at her. My mother is an RN, so she has medical experience, but it's a completely different situation when it is family. She has so much guilt, but it is time for my grandmother to be placed in an environment that is accustomed to dealing with the various faces of dementia!
My heart goes out to your family. I pray that God will be merciful.
Elder care attorney? I didn't even know there was such a thing. What has happened to this country?
There is such a thing. I had no idea until I dealt with my mom's dementia and healthcare needs. Believe me, there are loopholes in the law that only a good attorney can explain. Social services workers are trained by the state. They know and use the law as they are taught. A good attorney for the elderly is much more knowledgeable.
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