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Old 07-30-2011, 11:28 AM
 
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A perspective I've found useful - I'm not really aging, my "vintage" is just maturing, as all fine wines must do.

Reminds me... Several years ago I met a rather charming, much younger Italian man who said he appreciated older women, they are like juicy, ripe pieces of fruit.

It worked for me then and I like to think it will continue when I think about it
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Old 07-30-2011, 12:12 PM
 
Location: Nebraska
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As my dad always said, "Getting older sux - but it beats the alternative".

My nephew (30 YOA) called me the other night. He was totally appalled that my DH's friend had made a pass at him (the friend is bisexual). "He's gotta be almost 60!" my nephew shrieked. I burst out laughing. "J____", are you aware that the older we get, the more we are convinced in our heads that we are still 24? I still have it in my head that I can run like the wind, ride horses, work all day in the pouring sun, and that these little joint pains are only temporary! When I'm 90 and unable to roll out of bed, I'll lay there and cuss because I can't get my body to do what my mind knows it can!" My nephew finally agreed that yeah, even though he's 30, a responsible adult and parent, he still thinks he can do everything he did when he was in his 20's.

Life's to short to worry about a number. At the age of 50, I sold everything, moved 1700 miles, bought a farm, and started a brand-new life doing what I always wanted to do. Yeah, I move a little slower and it hurts more than it did when I was 20, and takes longer to recover. But I'll live until I'm dead - then stop.

My two heroes are 1) the 78 year old guy I met at Lava Hot Springs when we were both taking a dip (water 90 degrees, ambient air temp -20 degrees) and he told me he kept busy by "plowing the sidewalks and driveways of the elderly" and 2) our next door neighbor who gave the ranch to his son 10 years ago - and at the age of 80, still goes out, rides horses, fixes fence, delivers calves in 10-foot drifting snow, and drives a tractor during haying and a buckboard with two Percherons in the winter... I hope I'm that active, interested, and alive when I'm that old!
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Old 07-30-2011, 12:23 PM
 
Location: NW Montana
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I have never colored my hair and I am quite grey/silver now. Just never had the time or money, or maybe I am just a little lazy. The gradual nature of the change I think made it easier to deal with. No disrespect to the colorist out there. I often think about it in the work world but it seems to not have made much of a difference. I think that is all in your approach.

Yes I do smile when I find myself still singing that Rock and Roll when I have the windows down in the rig...

What I really hate are women around my age getting tattoos...then bragging about them to younger gals and encouraging them to make a lifetime decision when they have 50-plus years ahead of them

We only have today so make everyday count.
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Old 07-30-2011, 01:23 PM
 
Location: Arizona
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Default Senior Centers are not created equal!

We have a very active senior center with varied activities & events for seniors of all ages. Yes, we have card games & craft classes because some seniors like that type of activity. But, we also have many activities that attract "boomers".

You had better be in excellent physical health to participate in a particular aerobics class. They go at a fast clip without stoping for 50 minutes. Something that I cannot begin to do. There are many interesting day and longer trips planned throughout the year. In fact, they recently went to Charleston, SC & Savannah, Ga. A trip to New Orleans, the East Coast/Nova Socia and Ireland are planned for the future.

Here is a link to the senior center's June newsletter for your info if interested:
http://kptseniors.org/documents/news...seniornews.pdf

The director of our senior center is very concerned about offering activities that are of interest to the members. She is always open to suggestions and improvements. So, I think it is the members who dictate the activities of the center. If you live in an area where most seniors prefer hanging out with their kids and granchildren (babysitting) then I don't think you will find a very inviting senior center. Like the previous posters, I have seen too many of those type of centers. Very depressing and certainly not my cup of tea.

From what I understand our library also has discussion groups, clubs & some classes. We also have continuing education classes which I think is mostly lectures. Haven't checked any of this out yet but hope to do so in the near future.
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Old 07-30-2011, 01:34 PM
 
Location: Boca Raton, FL
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Smile What I saw with my mom

Great thread, BTW.

My mom was 87-88 when she was fortunate enough to get into a "Alzheimer's Day Care" - it was $75 per day (we did 3 days a week) and the place was deluxe. So many volunteers and the participants were of different degrees - some looked great, others not so good.

It was sad on my mom's last birthday - we all went, had a cake, they sang to her and then everyone stood and sang the National Anthem. Talk about a teary moment! All the men, so proud, stood so straight, you just had to see it. The sad thing is that my mom looked around and said - oh, someone had a birthday? - we said, it was you and she didn't get that.

But, talk about a stimulating place! They had everything - she did love going there (she fought it at first but since we all work, it had to be) - and she loved it!!

Boomers have been movers and shakers so as boomers start aging, things will change!

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Old 07-30-2011, 02:05 PM
 
Location: Central Florida
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Wow... the direction this thread has gone and all the input, observations and ideas. A lot to digest, that is for sure....but it seems to me that some of us are in a type of denial, but maybe a shade different from mine even though I am in total agreement that the way "seniors" are painted is not the way we see ourselves. I can't remember who said what, so I am apologizing in advance, but I agree totally with the poster who said that there is a divide between the senior age groups, and if I recall, when the new AARP magazine came out when I was 50ish, they even said that there would be 2 publications: one for under 65 and one for over as they even recognized the needs would be different. But not sure if they are still doing that as that group would be few in ranks now. Our life experiences were different and how we perceive ourselves has a lot to do with that fact (you are what you were when... read that slowly as it was the title of a lecture I went to a long time ago, but soooo true!). Take fashion for instance. WHen a woman became "that age", she was suppose to move onto elastic-band pants, those print or plain shirt with the bands at the bottom or like the manly ones; ugly tennis/corrective shoes; dusters; helmet head/permed hair; etc. I do see some 60 year olds buying into that mindset, but for the most of us NO WAY. For instance, I still teach in heels (albeit 2 inch) and the only elastic-band pants I have are my work out ones; and when I retire, I do NOt see myself changing in that area at all.

But besides this, how we are going to manage ourselves and be involved in communities will be different as well like so many of you had mentioned. We need Gates and Jobs to donate money to work on centers like imcurious had written about as those would be awesome! Plus, they could soon join us!!!

Need to think some more on this as ideas are spinning in my pea-sized brain; plus I do want to address some of your posts specifically!
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Old 07-30-2011, 02:46 PM
 
Location: Near a river
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Reminds me... Several years ago I met a rather charming, much younger Italian man who said he appreciated older women, they are like juicy, ripe pieces of fruit.

It worked for me then and I like to think it will continue when I think about it
Watch out for those hot blooded Italian men--they will tell us anything they know we want to hear On another note, I do think that men from European cultures appreciate women at all stages of their lives, they are true "lovers."
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Old 07-30-2011, 02:54 PM
 
Location: Near a river
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We have a very active senior center with varied activities & events for seniors of all ages. Yes, we have card games & craft classes because some seniors like that type of activity. But, we also have many activities that attract "boomers".

You had better be in excellent physical health to participate in a particular aerobics class. They go at a fast clip without stoping for 50 minutes. Something that I cannot begin to do. There are many interesting day and longer trips planned throughout the year. In fact, they recently went to Charleston, SC & Savannah, Ga. A trip to New Orleans, the East Coast/Nova Socia and Ireland are planned for the future.

Here is a link to the senior center's June newsletter for your info if interested:
http://kptseniors.org/documents/news...seniornews.pdf

The director of our senior center is very concerned about offering activities that are of interest to the members. She is always open to suggestions and improvements. So, I think it is the members who dictate the activities of the center. If you live in an area where most seniors prefer hanging out with their kids and granchildren (babysitting) then I don't think you will find a very inviting senior center. Like the previous posters, I have seen too many of those type of centers. Very depressing and certainly not my cup of tea.

From what I understand our library also has discussion groups, clubs & some classes. We also have continuing education classes which I think is mostly lectures. Haven't checked any of this out yet but hope to do so in the near future.
Now that's a senior center! I love the newsletter, thanks for posting!
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Old 07-30-2011, 03:38 PM
 
Location: earth?
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Add'l centers in the big industrial building:

- A newsstand
- A bookstore
- A Yoga center
- A computer area (could be in the cafe)
- A volunteer signup area where you could sign up to volunteer in the community and outside the community
- A hiking group
- Groups for all interests
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Old 07-30-2011, 04:42 PM
 
Location: Central Florida
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After moving to my new town I decided to check out the in-town senior center for kicks. After all, if there are any advantages/perks (other than a senior movie discount) to being a senior I wanted to know about them.

The center is in an old brick former school and when I entered I immediately felt trapped, like in a breath-less environment. I guess, as an artist/writer steeped in "hip" forms of theater and art, I was somehow hoping that a Boomer aging center would reflect some of this. It was soon apparent to me that this is a senior center of our parents' generation. On the wall, behind a glass case, was the lunch menu--macaroni and cheese and canned veg's and pineapple cake with milk, that sort of thing. OK, stay positive, move on down the dark quiet hallway to see what's posted for activities. Something's gotta be interesting. Arghh. Bingo, shuffleboard (yes, shuffleboard), knitting (nothing wrong with that but I'm not a knitter), toe clinic, BP clinic, and a day trip to a casino. I was ready to bolt and run when I came upon a door with a glass window and through it could see a bunch of out of shape old people sitting around at card tables. Now I'm not judging them personally, but what I saw was what seemed like the writing on the wall for me personally--is this what I'm headed for after an active lifetime of raising kids, being involved in the arts, teaching the arts, being an artist....will I be doing paint by numbers in a senior center, eating white bread sandwiches for lunch in the community room?

I felt a sudden feeling of depression wash over me and had to leave, just as an elderly woman saw me and was coming to greet me. I have elders in my class that I teach so my natural friendly instinct was to stay and chat which I did, but when I left I felt the outside air relieving me of something, I don't know...

A few weeks later I was driving through an adjacent town and noticed a huge new building, nice architecture, and the sign said Senior Center. Always one to be curious I stopped and went in and was greeted by two very pleasant older women (maybe a bit younger than me!). The inside architecture and layout was really great, what a contrast to the sr. ctr. in my town. I looked around. The place was covered with senior info tables, senior artwork, all kinds of stuff senior, plus teddy bears on display and a senior gift shop, etc. Although I was marveling at how nice everything looked I have to admit here, in this forum, a feeling of being dragged down somehow, of being boxed in or trapped, with little fresh air...it seemed like being in a pre-quel to a nursing home. I took some lit and left, feeling like I cannot identify with this--I have to find some way to be in an interactive community with people my age--but not this!

What do I want in a senior center? Maybe I don;t want a senior center! I don't want to be a senior the way seniors used to be seniors, the way society looks at seniors! I would like to walk into a big open airy space, even if it's an old factory building, with the windows OPEN instead of sealed tight, with light and air and exciting stuff going on, with seniors with gray hair, yes, but a visage of vitality. I know I'm getting in hot water by saying this, because it implies judgment of others, and I don't want to be guilty of that!

I guess what I'm saying is that I don't mind getting old, honestly--I just don't want to be anywhere near what our society defines as "old." Boomers are movers and shakers (we were always trying to change the world for the better) and swingers at heart. Even if some of us can barely move at times, I want to be part of a vibrant group of people who continually have new ideas and visions. I'd like to see someone in a wheelchair throwing paint over a huge wall canvas, or a lively debate about philosophy, or an activist group at work, or a bunch of seniors screaming their guts out rehearsing for a rock concert. I know that individual seniors are involved in "mixed" groups doing these kinds of things, but as a whole, senior centers are status quo and bor-ing!!

I think the reason why so many of us want to associate with younger people (and dress "too young", have facelifts etc) is because we can't stand the version of "old" that mainstream society continues to ram down our throats.

I know this is kind of a rant, but it's been heavily on my mind, this thing of identity as we age. I have to keep seeking out new connections.
WOW... loved reading this and what I bolded I agree with you totally! It is what we as a society has perceived seniors to be and how they have defined us (via tv, commercials, fashion ...and have you noticed that most beauty magazines stop at the 50's in regards to fashion/skin etc??), I think, is partly why I am in denial of almost being there, for I do not fit that image. And I would love to see centers like what you described.

And as far as the reason why we do associate with younger people and dress younger and such, I am not too sure about, but maybe just in regards to me as like I had stated before, I have more in common with younger people for many of the people my age are so much into their aches and pains and meds, I have no clue what they are talking about and in truth, want to talk about the WORLD and do things in it rather than what their lives seem to center around. Maybe it is due to where I live, I don't know. BUT one group I belong to (we are all teachers) go out once a month and it is comprised of one woman in her 20's; one in her 30's; one in her 40's but she will be 50 so we need to find another; two in their 50's; one in her 60's (me); and we had one in her 70's until last year...and nothing about health/meds is really ever mentioned! That is why when all of these wonderful ideas of "senior centers" have been shared, my mind is thinking that I would like to see a "multigenerational" one or something of that ilk; however, I know that most would not agree.
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