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Old 08-01-2011, 12:17 PM
 
Location: delaware
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in reading many of the posts, it seems that quite a few people are not especially satisfied where they are living, perhaps had planned to retire somewhere else, but will probably remain in their present location due perhaps to the real estate market, economic climate, proximity to family, etc. i'm wondering, if your decision is to stay, what are the reasons that are keeping you in an area that is not satisfying to you, and how do you adjust to an area that is really not a good fit for you? for example how do you live in maine if you really hate winters? how do you manage to live in the southwest when you would rather be in an area of more green, trees, and four seasons? also i wonder if someone is really living in an area that is the opposite of their basic nature, do they ever totally give up the dream of something else?

i ask these questions beause i'm living, and will probably remain, in an area i would never have chosen to be in, except for major life changes which i never could have predicted ten years ago. i've grown to be more accepting of my location and am able to acknowledge many of its advantages, but i still think of some of the places that, i think, would be a much better fit for me.

so, i'm interested in where you are, why, and do you still long for something else.

catsy girl
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Old 08-01-2011, 12:29 PM
 
Location: Simmering in DFW
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I moved to the Dallas areas in the late 70's and met my husband here. By now there are family reasons to stay but we really hate the heat and find so many other areas that work better for our love of hiking. If we stay here after retirement we'll need to spend a lot of vacation time away during the summer months. I don't long to be anywhere in particular, just out of here in the summer! I do think we all have the ability to enjoy wherever we live, and simply have to find solutions to fulfill our wishes for alternate places. I will either move or vacation away.......
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Old 08-01-2011, 12:44 PM
 
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I moved to Austin because I knew the culture would suit me and because my sister and her family live a couple of hours away. As it turns out, I like Austin, but I overestimated my tolerance for heat, so I'm moving back to San Francisco when my lease is up in the spring. I'm not sorry I moved here, because now I know which climates I can tolerate and which I can't.
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Old 08-01-2011, 01:13 PM
 
Location: Pacific Northwest
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I think many of us are forced (by financial constraints) to live in places we abhor.

For myself I can absolutely state that I hate living here. What was once a clean, quiet place to live has turning into a true s***hole for reasons that are controversial and I won't go into here.

If I ever won the lottery I would move to the coast because I truly feel it calling me everytime I am away for too long a time.
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Old 08-01-2011, 01:26 PM
 
Location: SoCal desert
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If we stay here after retirement we'll need to spend a lot of vacation time away during the summer months.
If you're retired ... you won't have or need vacation time
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Old 08-01-2011, 01:44 PM
 
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Very interesting question you propose....for me, I stayed for primarily financial reasons which turned out to be absolutely the right choice. Now I want (or will have to) to leave because of financial reasons too. When I do retire, I really won't be able to afford it here, and I am not attached to this area, mainly because I've been here a long time and need a change and also because alot of bad memories here. But I do have some close friends that I would miss dearly.

But it's difficult because, as many of us know, it is expensive to be travelling all over the country trying to figure out a place that is a better fit. For example, my list of places I thought I could retire to has changed quite a bit over the last couple of years. Many people have posted here that they moved to where they thought it would be a great fit, only to find out it wasn't. I read a statistic recently that like 95% of retirees stay put, exactly where they having been living. However, the baby boomers may change that stat...with economics being what they are...I guess it's the old saying "the devil you know is better than the devil you don't know".

I personally resonate around lakes, ponds, greenery, trees, etc. but there's little of that where I live now. But there are lot of pluses...only problem is i stuck it out thru thick and thin and now end up not being able to afford to stay because it has gotten to be such an expensive area to live (one of the highest costs of living).

I do get alot of great information on city.data though...
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Old 08-01-2011, 01:46 PM
 
Location: Phoenix, AZ
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Retired now, love my home but can't help wishing it was in a different climate. . . .somewhere that winters are mild and summers are not unbearably hot. Have never been able to afford such a place!
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Old 08-01-2011, 02:18 PM
 
Location: Near a river
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i'm wondering, if your decision is to stay, what are the reasons that are keeping you in an area that is not satisfying to you, and how do you adjust to an area that is really not a good fit for you? for example how do you live in maine if you really hate winters? how do you manage to live in the southwest when you would rather be in an area of more green, trees, and four seasons? also i wonder if someone is really living in an area that is the opposite of their basic nature, do they ever totally give up the dream of something else? catsy girl
I just moved, two towns over from the suburbs/semi-rural to an in-town environment that is an ivy league (i think) college community. Everything I need is here, and I'm very close to family, within 20 min–half hour. It is not the loveliest place in the whole world, and it is definitely 4-season New England climate. I think I suffered through cold winters mostly because of isolation in my former house. Now, in this picturesque New England town with everything at my fingertips, I know that I will be able to take winters much more easily. I only have to drive a mile or two to movie theater, major bookstore, the fantastic parklike campus, its weekly (sometimes nightly) events including concerts and theater, etc. I am really looking forward to the winter now, as I'm close in to civilization. The colder weather is actually better for my health condition than super hot/sunny. Maybe I'll experience snow like I once did as a romantic young girl!

That said, I have incurable wanderlust that I didn't know I had till I made this move. I can't seem to stop looking at the possibilities--intrigued by locations I am probably only dreaming about (these are places that also happen to have much lower property taxes, too). I'm restless and would like to try new locations but as you said, it is very expensive to keep roaming around the country visiting places. Not only do you have to visit a place several times, it is best to actually live there for a while before settling down permanently.

So, realistically, I will stay here, unless the taxes get so out of control that I decide to sell, get a much cheaper place elsewhere, and in my fantasy, make a profit. I do know that my creative restless spirit is playing into this seemingly endless internet quest!

I will probably remain here....
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Old 08-01-2011, 04:01 PM
 
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I want to be around/closer to water. I live right outside DC and the Potomac River is not exactly my idea of the body of water I had in mind. Also, the county I live (220,000 people) in has gotten incredibly conjested and the traffic is horrible. Unless something changes about my living arrangement I do plan to move. I really want a small town to live in, near water or a short drive.
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Old 08-01-2011, 04:03 PM
 
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We bought the house when my husband was 25 and I was 20. It is small, but on about 4 acres and we raised our 2 girls here while we also had our own careers. Our kids have moved out and it is our house once again; we are retired about 10 years, I cannot think of any reason to want to downsize ( we never upsized), to live in a senior community (our friends still all live on this road), to go where it is warm ( why get hot and sweaty? ).This place has 4 seasons, is nice even most of the summer and only cold a month or two (and getting a guy to plow is easy).... to pack it all up ( you want to see a guy with 40 years of tools pack? I shudder). Why would I want to? Plus, it costs us ( taxes, insurance, gas, elec., water ) under $550/month to live here --- add the cable, internet and phone and you add another $150 which we could cut down....$700/month to live on 4 acres in a house we know all the faults of in a town where we know everyone? You cannot beat that. I can always rent a place to vacation. I cannot just move and recreate a 40 year home.
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