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Old 08-12-2011, 10:59 AM
 
Location: Lexington, SC
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Part of how we behave is ingrained/learned and allowed us to make our living. One very different/challenging situation arises when one retires and no longer has to make that living. It can get tricky.

Like was one always an order taker and now rebells if one orders them or has a hard time making decisions when no one is ordering them?

Like was one always the order giver and now is upset people are no longer following their orders thus are alienating people all around them?

Now add the anonymity of the Internet where one can be and or say anything without fear of reprisal, but that is another subject.

While I have less and less patience with incompetence, I am disciplining myself more and more to just to smile at things and walk away when I do not like what is happening.

Life has been good for me and as I aged it became easier emotionally and financially. I have life by the short hairs. I love my life and I have to learn to better enjoy it and this means do not let people/things upset me.

To paraphrase Willie Nelson:

Here I sit with a drink in my hand. I am not wet. I am not cold. I am not hungry. These are the good times.
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Old 08-12-2011, 03:15 PM
 
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Well, even though I had an "awaking" thru that "marriage" Thread, and "awakings" can happen at any age, I feel that I'm still getting blasted yet. Oh well, nothing that a few Bud Lights, a couple shots of Jose' Cuervo won't push away!

My wife asked me to delete the "marriage" Thread, but I told her that only a Moderator can do that. She said she can't believe the name-calling towards me, like "d-bag", "busybody", etc and that her sister wouldn't like seeing those "very mean" names either. She totally agrees with my feelings about her sister marriage and hopes that people won't start "bad-mouthing" her because she agrees with me. She also told me "this is the reason I do not, and will not, participate in any forum........."people can just get so, so nasty" she said.
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Old 08-12-2011, 03:49 PM
 
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My wife asked me to delete the "marriage" Thread, but I told her that only a Moderator can do that.
You can send a DM to the moderator of that forum and request that the thread be deleted. You can also complain about the namecalling to that moderator. As a matter of fact, I still don't have the slightest idea why you felt the need to bring up this whole issue on this forum. This isn't a chat room, it's a forum to discuss retirement issues. You seem to want to use it to discuss the minutia of your life, such as your likes and dislikes. For example, you've already initiated threads to tell us that you like to drink, you don't like to act your age, you and your wife don't socialize with anyone who's single, you don't like people who use profanity, and now most recently, this thread about your interaction with posters on the topic of your sister-in-law's marriage.

I can't wait for your next exciting proclamation.
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Old 08-12-2011, 04:25 PM
 
Location: earth?
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I think the "personality change" proclamation may have been premature.
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Old 08-13-2011, 01:22 AM
 
Location: Southwest Desert
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I tend to pick and choose my battles these days. It takes "a lot" to get me upset. I don't view it as being cowardly. (Which I might have done in the past.) I don't feel that I have to prove anything or "set everyone straight." It feels good to be more mellow. I don't walk around with blood "boiling through my veins" and eyeballs "popping out" all the time...Some things just don't matter all that much to me. I don't take everything personally and seek revenge. YUK! There is too much bickering going on in our country today. It's everywhere and I get tired of it...I don't want to react to every little thing anymore and get caught in all the drama.
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Old 08-13-2011, 11:09 AM
 
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First, I've notice quite a few threads on the Retirement forum where people are discussing personal matters.........no worse or better than my threads! Just take a look at a number of the threads! If you think mine are too personal, tell the other OP's about theirs on this forum.........what's fair is fair!
Actually, I think "a change in personality" could definitely be a retirement issue. A lot of people do change their personality, some and not so much, after they retire! Not having to mess with the Corporate world anymore can sure do that along with having much more time to have fun or get certain things done of which time wasn't that available before retirement.
Shall I go on????

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You can send a DM to the moderator of that forum and request that the thread be deleted. You can also complain about the namecalling to that moderator. As a matter of fact, I still don't have the slightest idea why you felt the need to bring up this whole issue on this forum. This isn't a chat room, it's a forum to discuss retirement issues. You seem to want to use it to discuss the minutia of your life, such as your likes and dislikes. For example, you've already initiated threads to tell us that you like to drink, you don't like to act your age, you and your wife don't socialize with anyone who's single, you don't like people who use profanity, and now most recently, this thread about your interaction with posters on the topic of your sister-in-law's marriage.

I can't wait for your next exciting proclamation.
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Old 08-13-2011, 11:09 AM
 
Location: Verde Valley AZ
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I tend to pick and choose my battles these days. It takes "a lot" to get me upset. I don't view it as being cowardly. (Which I might have done in the past.) I don't feel that I have to prove anything or "set everyone straight." It feels good to be more mellow. I don't walk around with blood "boiling through my veins" and eyeballs "popping out" all the time...Some things just don't matter all that much to me. I don't take everything personally and seek revenge. YUK! There is too much bickering going on in our country today. It's everywhere and I get tired of it...I don't want to react to every little thing anymore and get caught in all the drama.
Isn't it great to feel that way?? I agree with you, 100%. I simply DON'T let things get to me and I'm happy this way.
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Old 08-13-2011, 11:26 AM
 
Location: Southwest Desert
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First, I've notice quite a few threads on the Retirement forum where people are discussing personal matters.........no worse or better than my threads! Just take a look at a number of the threads! If you think mine are too personal, tell the other OP's about theirs on this forum.........what's fair is fair!
Actually, I think "a change in personality" could definitely be a retirement issue. A lot of people do change their personality, some and not so much, after they retire! Not having to mess with the Corporate world anymore can sure do that along with having much more time to have fun or get certain things done of which time wasn't that available before retirement.
Shall I go on????
I enjoy your posts when I come on CD.
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Old 08-13-2011, 11:36 AM
 
Location: Southwest Desert
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Isn't it great to feel that way?? I agree with you, 100%. I simply DON'T let things get to me and I'm happy this way.
Thanks. It's just not healthy to live life on up and down roller coaster rides. I'm tired of all of the worry and struggle and panic attacks etc...Time to relax a little more "no matter what!" Right?
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Old 08-13-2011, 12:15 PM
 
Location: Verde Valley AZ
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Thanks. It's just not healthy to live life on up and down roller coaster rides. I'm tired of all of the worry and struggle and panic attacks etc...Time to relax a little more "no matter what!" Right?
Absolutely!! Lucky for me I have always been pretty laid back and relaxed. If I can do something about a problem, I will. If I can't, I am able to put it into it's own "box" until I can. I will never have an ulcer!!
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