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Old 08-13-2011, 01:02 PM
 
Location: Southwest Desert
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Absolutely!! Lucky for me I have always been pretty laid back and relaxed. If I can do something about a problem, I will. If I can't, I am able to put it into it's own "box" until I can. I will never have an ulcer!!
I have a "box" stuffed with a few problems right now myself! Just learned that my car has a "cracked block!" Life has been different since my husband passed away last year. Sometimes I feel like a "pioneer woman." I have to come up with ideas and solutions to survive...But I'm tired of "freaking out" over every little thing. I want to get back to being mellow and find my sense of humor again. I have noticed some changes in myself lately and this is good. I don't want to develop an ulcer either! Thanks for your great posts. I'm trying to "come out of my shell" a little more on the forum.
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Old 08-13-2011, 01:31 PM
 
Location: Verde Valley AZ
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I have a "box" stuffed with a few problems right now myself! Just learned that my car has a "cracked block!" Life has been different since my husband passed away last year. Sometimes I feel like a "pioneer woman." I have to come up with ideas and solutions to survive...But I'm tired of "freaking out" over every little thing. I want to get back to being mellow and find my sense of humor again. I have noticed some changes in myself lately and this is good. I don't want to develop an ulcer either! Thanks for your great posts. I'm trying to "come out of my shell" a little more on the forum.
Oh no! Car problems are the ones that drive me nuts! I have a family full of mechanics but I never depend on them for anything and generally just pick up the phone and get it taken care of.

I've been divorced for 15 years now so I understand what you mean about having to come up with the ideas. It certainly tends to make you independent. Not to mention mentally stronger. Hang in there!!

I went through my "pioneer woman" phase when I lived in No. Idaho, off the grid, all by myself 7 months of the year. lol It was a real adventure!

Keep hanging around here. I don't think anyone CAN stay in their 'shell' around here.
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Old 08-13-2011, 03:20 PM
 
Location: Southwest Desert
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Oh no! Car problems are the ones that drive me nuts! I have a family full of mechanics but I never depend on them for anything and generally just pick up the phone and get it taken care of.

I've been divorced for 15 years now so I understand what you mean about having to come up with the ideas. It certainly tends to make you independent. Not to mention mentally stronger. Hang in there!!

I went through my "pioneer woman" phase when I lived in No. Idaho, off the grid, all by myself 7 months of the year. lol It was a real adventure!

Keep hanging around here. I don't think anyone CAN stay in their 'shell' around here.
Thanks for writing back! Your "pioneer days" in No. Idaho sound really interesting! Have you ever had trouble asking others for help when help is needed? This is my lesson in life right now.
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Old 08-13-2011, 09:58 PM
 
Location: Verde Valley AZ
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Thanks for writing back! Your "pioneer days" in No. Idaho sound really interesting! Have you ever had trouble asking others for help when help is needed? This is my lesson in life right now.
Yes, No. Idaho WAS interesting and an adventure. I don't want to do it again though.

Yes, I've always had trouble asking others for help. Mostly because it makes me feel guilty, for some reason, and even when one of my brothers has worked on my car I've always paid them for it. Not as much as I'd pay a shop but more than a couple of bucks too. What made me stop asking...a long time ago...was when they'd say "Yes" and then not do it. Now I just get it done and don't ask anyone. Also I hate waiting around for someone to "have time" for it. They have their lives too. Well, and then there's the fact that I just don't see them anymore TO ask. Luckily I haven't had the need either in a long time.
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Old 08-14-2011, 08:38 AM
 
Location: Southwest Desert
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Yes, No. Idaho WAS interesting and an adventure. I don't want to do it again though.

Yes, I've always had trouble asking others for help. Mostly because it makes me feel guilty, for some reason, and even when one of my brothers has worked on my car I've always paid them for it. Not as much as I'd pay a shop but more than a couple of bucks too. What made me stop asking...a long time ago...was when they'd say "Yes" and then not do it. Now I just get it done and don't ask anyone. Also I hate waiting around for someone to "have time" for it. They have their lives too. Well, and then there's the fact that I just don't see them anymore TO ask. Luckily I haven't had the need either in a long time.
It's hard to depend on people who can be unpredictable at times. It sure takes a lot of patience!
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