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Old 08-18-2011, 07:53 PM
 
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I became an empty nester this fall & a widow this spring, but this isn't a post for sympathy. I am trying to make choices that we help me adjust.

I need ways to get out of the house in the evening and find company. I am not interested in dating(for now) or the bar scene(ever). I am busy during the day with house renovations & will be going back to work.

What I need to start doing is finding evening activities that will help me spend time with others & find friends to do things with. The evenings get lonely..
I enjoy the movies & Bookstore but that doesn't help me meet friends.

I am thinking dinner clubs,classes ect.

let me know your ideas..I like outdoor activities, photography, cooking, traveling, camping & fishing

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Old 08-18-2011, 08:03 PM
 
Location: East Coast
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let me know your ideas..I like outdoor activities, photography, cooking, traveling, camping & fishing
I think you've come up with some good ideas on your own. Look in your local newspaper or the bulletin board at your supermarket or local bookstore for hiking groups, photography clubs, etc.

Do you have any friends who enjoy movies? I go out almost every week with a group of gals for a casual dinner, then a movie. Great fun...
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Old 08-18-2011, 08:22 PM
 
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book clubs might be nice and nite-time courses at your local high school - they have so many - cooking, exercise, foreign languages, travel etc.
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Old 08-18-2011, 08:24 PM
 
Location: University City, Philadelphia
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Good post, Kelly ... I am in the same predicament as you.

I am a male, single, late 50s ... involved in several organizations and community groups which is fine for daytime activities, but on some evenings I'm keen to get out of the house and see other people. Sometimes I visit a bar ... not a "pick - up" type bar, but a piano bar kind of place with a more mature clientele ; other times I'll grab a magazine or paper and go to a Starbucks type of coffee-shop. Just to be around other people. There are times I just have to get out of the house.
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Old 08-18-2011, 09:09 PM
 
Location: Nantahala National Forest, NC
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Google "meet-up groups" for your area....it will list all types of get-togethers & focus groups to consider---running, books, dinner-out groups, vegetarians, knitting etc.

Best wishes for your future
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Old 08-18-2011, 09:38 PM
 
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You might try meetup.com at their site, you type in your zip code and types of activities that interest you and depending on your local, there are activities and groups that generally appeal to many people.

Camping, hiking, dining, dancing, theater, indie films, book clubs, breakfast clubs, general social groups, religious, athiest groups and so on. Personally, I've always been able to find some social activities through meetup, in whatever city I've lived. I've also developed some terrific friendships via the groups. It's not for everyone, but doesn't hurt to check some of their groups out. I wish I had the energy to attend many of offerings they have. I did manage to attend a masquerade party held by one of the meetup groups a couple of weekends ago and I had a blast. I will try to find the video clip to post another time.
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Old 08-18-2011, 10:09 PM
 
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I suggest a really great gym.
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Old 08-18-2011, 10:16 PM
 
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Meetup groups are a great idea. I have done some hiking , kayaking & biking with Meetup groups. I need to head back the the main Meetup page to see what other groups meet. I wouldn't even mind helping a new mom at our church out some..babies are so fun to be around.

Thanks everyone...
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Old 08-18-2011, 10:17 PM
 
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I suggest a really great gym.
That is an awesome idea..We have a YMCA very close. I would meet people, get in shape, and find classes .
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Old 08-18-2011, 10:36 PM
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What I need to start doing is finding evening activities that will help me spend time with others & find friends to do things with. The evenings get lonely..

I am thinking dinner clubs,classes ect.
Rather than take a class, why not give a class? The subject can be anything from crocheting to local history to an introduction to hiking. Classes with field trips are easy ways to socialize. As the leader people will seek you out; that's guaranteed. Local school systems often have adult education divisions and are looking for teachers.

If you don't want to do something completely on your own, you could teach Red Cross first aid classes. They run over a period of days and would allow you to get to know people. Hiking and mountain clubs are always looking for volunteers as well as trip leaders. There's bound to be one in your area. Many have evening hikes during the summer months.

When you teach, you have a far greater choice.
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