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Old 08-23-2011, 02:53 PM
 
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I want to thank everyone for their feedback thus far! It's making me feel better already.
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Old 08-23-2011, 02:58 PM
 
Location: SW MO
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I want to thank everyone for their feedback thus far! It's making me feel better already.
Good! You should.
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Old 08-23-2011, 03:30 PM
 
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Good! You should.
Your so positive!
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Old 08-23-2011, 03:32 PM
 
Location: SW MO
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Your so positive!
When it comes to following your dream, yes I am. As long as it hurts no one else it's the thing to do. If it helps, I'm 65.
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Old 08-23-2011, 03:35 PM
 
Location: Sierra Vista, AZ
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Who will care for your father? I just went through this with my mother who moved to Florida where my sister was supposed to care for her. My sister had a stroke and I was stuck trying to take care of my mother from 2,000 miles away. If you think he can take care of himself much longer you are kidding yourself
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Old 08-23-2011, 04:06 PM
 
Location: SW MO
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Who will care for your father? I just went through this with my mother who moved to Florida where my sister was supposed to care for her. My sister had a stroke and I was stuck trying to take care of my mother from 2,000 miles away. If you think he can take care of himself much longer you are kidding yourself
His (father's) wife's family has been helping them out.

Nice voice of doom there.
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Old 08-23-2011, 04:22 PM
 
Location: Sierra Vista, AZ
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His (father's) wife's family has been helping them out.

Nice voice of doom there.
I hate to be a curmudgeon about it but that was my experience.
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Old 08-23-2011, 05:48 PM
 
Location: Lexington, SC
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I hate to be a curmudgeon about it but that was my experience.
Did you miss the fact that the fellow was already some 500 miles away so he is not a direct caregiver and all he is doing is moving 200 or so further miles away?

This in no way changes nor promises to change his realtionship with his father.

While sorry for your situation, what say you address his question/situation versus what happened to you.

I had a friend that was killed crossing a street. Should I stop crossing streets?
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Old 08-23-2011, 06:07 PM
 
Location: San Antonio, Texas
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No you should not stop crossing the street...but the OP's relationship with his father doesn't change his responsibility to or for his parent.
It has not been addressed so I have to wonder ..What if his wife preceeds him..will her family still be willing to care for someone they have no direct relationship to except for the fact that their Mother was married to this person? I have heard this discussed in the halls of nursing homes I have worked in. It is a very real thing for the caregiving family to literally walk away when their side of the family passes. They feel the same way that the OP is feeling now...they are ready to get on with their lives...except their responsibilty has truely ended.
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Old 08-23-2011, 06:47 PM
 
Location: Sierra Vista, AZ
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Did you miss the fact that the fellow was already some 500 miles away so he is not a direct caregiver and all he is doing is moving 200 or so further miles away?

This in no way changes nor promises to change his realtionship with his father.

While sorry for your situation, what say you address his question/situation versus what happened to you.

I had a friend that was killed crossing a street. Should I stop crossing streets?
If he chooses to abandon his father, that is on him. He went on the internet and asked for opinions, he has mine
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