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Old 08-14-2012, 09:12 PM
 
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Lots and lots of posts, but the long and short of it is - one of the hardest things you'll ever have to do is to take away the car keys from your mom or pop.
It's not rocket science to know when to do so. If you're even wondering if it's time, well... it's time.

So, man up, or put on your big girl panties, and do it.
A few years back, Biscuitpop was the only one of his four siblings who was willing to do so. While the others wrung their hands and argued over it, he told his mom he was taking the keys. She spit and sputtered for a year or so, his siblings discussed it to death.
Eventually everyone got over it. We no longer have to worry about mom killing herself, or worse- someone else, on the road. Two or three times a month, she still curses him for doing it. He knows he did the right thing.
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Old 08-14-2012, 09:37 PM
 
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I hope you wear a helmet. Robyn
Every time I ride. The hospital staff put my old one in the room with me, I have it downstairs on my shelf as a reminder. It's pretty jacked up. My new one is waiting patiently in the closet.
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Old 08-15-2012, 08:04 AM
 
Location: Near a river
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Lots and lots of posts, but the long and short of it is - one of the hardest things you'll ever have to do is to take away the car keys from your mom or pop.
It's not rocket science to know when to do so. If you're even wondering if it's time, well... it's time.

So, man up, or put on your big girl panties, and do it.
A few years back, Biscuitpop was the only one of his four siblings who was willing to do so. While the others wrung their hands and argued over it, he told his mom he was taking the keys. She spit and sputtered for a year or so, his siblings discussed it to death.
Eventually everyone got over it. We no longer have to worry about mom killing herself, or worse- someone else, on the road. Two or three times a month, she still curses him for doing it. He knows he did the right thing.
A post that I fully agree with. I admire your husband's guts.
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Old 08-15-2012, 12:53 PM
 
Location: Ohio
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You guys have forgotten something.....not everyone has kids to take the keys away.....like me....and most of my friends.
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Old 08-15-2012, 01:57 PM
 
Location: Near a river
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You guys have forgotten something.....not everyone has kids to take the keys away.....like me....and most of my friends.
Nieces and nephews don't have the authority of kids, nor do siblings. If I did not have kids to step in and grab my keys, I would ask a good friend to advise me when to stop driving, and if I didn't, I'd have it in writing, notarized, that she can take my keys away and have my car taken, with the proceeds coming to me. This friend would have to be tough, of course.
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Old 08-15-2012, 01:57 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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I do not believe there is any legal right for adult children to take the car, or the keys, away from their parent(s) in the absence of a legal guardianship (called "interdiction" in many states). If they can do so and get away with it, more power to them, but it could be a very dicey situation to be accused of grand theft auto if the old person decides to go that route.
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Old 08-15-2012, 02:38 PM
 
Location: Ohio
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Nieces and nephews don't have the authority of kids, nor do siblings. If I did not have kids to step in and grab my keys, I would ask a good friend to advise me when to stop driving, and if I didn't, I'd have it in writing, notarized, that she can take my keys away and have my car taken, with the proceeds coming to me. This friend would have to be tough, of course.
My friends have no idea how I am driving. I drive to their house or they drive to mine.....we never drive one another anywhere.

I drove one of my friends to have a medical test perhaps three years ago. One of my friends drove me to have foot surgery in 2009.

The kinds of things we used to do when we did drive together......we just don't do anymore.
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Old 08-15-2012, 03:04 PM
 
Location: Ponte Vedra Beach FL
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Every time I ride. The hospital staff put my old one in the room with me, I have it downstairs on my shelf as a reminder. It's pretty jacked up. My new one is waiting patiently in the closet.
Good for you. Because you don't want to ride a "donorcycle"! Robyn
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Old 08-15-2012, 05:23 PM
 
Location: Near a river
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I do not believe there is any legal right for adult children to take the car, or the keys, away from their parent(s) in the absence of a legal guardianship (called "interdiction" in many states). If they can do so and get away with it, more power to them, but it could be a very dicey situation to be accused of grand theft auto if the old person decides to go that route.
It could be dicier for adult children to have to escort their aged parents to court for a big lawsuit in a fatal or even terrible road accident...that is, after the old one gets out of the hospital her/himself. I read the statistic recently (wish I had saved it) about how many old people are on the roads illegally, either with expired license or registration or both, either having failed to renew or having failed the vision test. When it comes to human life, I say legal shmegal, get them off the road. I would do jail time myself if I had an elderly relative who is a demonstrated or high-potential risk to human life and I took steps, like it or not. Our community is still hurting from the beautiful young college girl killed right in front of her family home by an elderly woman (89) not from this country who had no license.
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Old 08-15-2012, 07:56 PM
 
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It could be dicier for adult children to have to escort their aged parents to court for a big lawsuit in a fatal or even terrible road accident...that is, after the old one gets out of the hospital her/himself.
Plus the children can be sued on the basis they knew their parent was cognitively or visually impaired but failed to act. This happened a few years back in Dallas.
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