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Old 08-28-2011, 08:17 AM
 
Location: Sierra Vista, AZ
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They are after my Medicare
They are after my Social Security
They are after my Veterans Compensation
They are after my Government Employee Pension
They have already taken my military pension

I am afraid that "they" have declared war on me.
I had better get a nice cardboard box to live in
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Old 08-28-2011, 08:34 AM
 
Location: Near a river
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They are after my Medicare
They are after my Social Security
They are after my Veterans Compensation
They are after my Government Employee Pension
They have already taken my military pension

I am afraid that "they" have declared war on me.
I had better get a nice cardboard box to live in
This is a fine poem! Send it out to the New Yorker, the Atlantic, etc--if they accept it you will get paid!

Crone: original meaning is "wise one," revered elder of the circle.

Geezer: eccentric old man.

I'd rather be a Crone.
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Old 08-28-2011, 08:53 AM
 
Location: California Mountains
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The alternative (death) is something that is going to happen to all of us anyway. I would prefer death to being incapacitated. Just this afternoon I visited an uncle who cannot cut his own meat on his plate, who cannot walk out to the car without assistance, and who cannot participate in a conversation beyond a few rudimentary sentences. That's what I fear, as it's literally a fate worse than death.
I would not want to be in that situation, but I don't think I'm in fear of it. As the alternative would happen to all of us, the state of incapacity would probably happen to some of us. It's something none of us can prevent, and if I can neither prevent nor alter the outcome, I usually do not let it invade my thoughts. I don't think it's denial on my part, but more like toleration.

My husband often says to me, "Shoot me when I get to that point, would you?" I don't know how to answer to that.

I've nursed many incapacitated elderlies before, and I thought about how I would feel if I were in their shoes, but do I know for certain I would feel the same way when the situation arrives? That is another question I cannot answer.

I could probably say those thoughts came from spending many of my formal education years in Eastern philosophy, but I'd rather think they are my own feelings now. I rather say I would somehow find a way to live with all situations with as much dignity as I could find, despite what other people think or feel about me at that time.
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Old 08-28-2011, 09:49 AM
 
Location: Wisconsin
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Years ago I use to worry about getting older and being alone... Now that I have been thrown into being alone through divorce... I believe that living the rest of my years with someone that doesn't love you would have been worse.... amazing as we age and become wiser (well most of us anyway lol)... perspectives change... I love my independance, installing a door, miter the trim myself and many other things that I wasn't allowed to do... Not that I wouldn't welcome a partner, but at my age that seems to be the impossible dream... I know.. I know.. it seems I'm insecure with my age... DEFINITELY NOT... just reality.

I LOVE my age, my maturity and being in great shape... still camp in a tent, hike and enjoy life but men want much younger women even if I am more active then a lot of them... "it is what it is" and I don't sit around crying in my "prune juice" either ... Who says I can't enjoy life by myself anyway....
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Old 08-28-2011, 10:16 AM
 
Location: SW MO
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I LOVE my age, my maturity and being in great shape... still camp in a tent, hike and enjoy life but men want much younger women even if I am more active then a lot of them... "it is what it is" and I don't sit around crying in my "prune juice" either ... Who says I can't enjoy life by myself anyway....
Don't know about that bolded part. I was thrown into divorce at age 48, after 25 years, and also found that being alone was preferable to what went before for 25+ years. Looking ahead I decided that while younger women may be nice to look at we had little if anything in common.

At age 50 I remarried and my "younger" woman was all of 48. The ex was merely 45 so was she one of those dreaded "younger women?" My wife and I are now 63 and 65, respectively, and hanging-in there, not the least reason being that we have so much in common to get along and have lots to talk about and so many differences that it's always interesting.
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Old 08-28-2011, 10:19 AM
 
Location: Maryland
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This is a fine poem! Send it out to the New Yorker, the Atlantic, etc--if they accept it you will get paid!

Crone: original meaning is "wise one," revered elder of the circle.

Geezer: eccentric old man.

I'd rather be a Crone.



Hey NEG:

Methinks you're being a tad selective in your sources. The word cantankerous seems to be commonly associated with crone, though Google did show the "wise one" citation.

Crone - Definition and More from the Free Merriam-Webster Dictionary

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Crone

crone - definition of crone by the Free Online Dictionary, Thesaurus and Encyclopedia.
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Old 08-28-2011, 10:44 AM
 
Location: Near a river
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Hey NEG:

Methinks you're being a tad selective in your sources. The word cantankerous seems to be commonly associated with crone, though Google did show the "wise one" citation.

Crone - Definition and More from the Free Merriam-Webster Dictionary

Crone - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

crone - definition of crone by the Free Online Dictionary, Thesaurus and Encyclopedia.
What's wrong with being a cantankerous wise woman? You have to be cantankerous in order to be wise, perhaps, so you can debunk all the ridiculous myths out there! I think of Curmudgeon as a cantankerous wize ol' geezer, BTW
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Old 08-28-2011, 10:50 AM
 
Location: Lexington, SC
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I admonish myself and my wife to be careful we do not become cantankerous, sour, begrudging, etc. like many old folks do become.


On a more serious note, I am "afraid" of ending up being a burden to others and/or not having a quality of life. If I can drink, dance, play golf, cook, etc...then I am cool...if not...I would have no issue in taking my own life..(hello Dr. Jack)..assuming I was capable that is.
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Old 08-28-2011, 11:00 AM
 
Location: Maryland
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What's wrong with being a cantankerous wise woman? You have to be cantankerous in order to be wise, perhaps, so you can debunk all the ridiculous myths out there! I think of Curmudgeon as a cantankerous wize ol' geezer, BTW

I agree, its part of his charm!
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Old 08-28-2011, 11:17 AM
 
Location: Wisconsin
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Default Yes.. but all you guys are taken :)

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Don't know about that bolded part. I was thrown into divorce at age 48, after 25 years, and also found that being alone was preferable to what went before for 25+ years. Looking ahead I decided that while younger women may be nice to look at we had little if anything in common.

At age 50 I remarried and my "younger" woman was all of 48. The ex was merely 45 so was she one of those dreaded "younger women?" My wife and I are now 63 and 65, respectively, and hanging-in there, not the least reason being that we have so much in common to get along and have lots to talk about and so many differences that it's always interesting.
Yes... never generalize hey LOL

Lets just say that men in my age brackett are few and far between that will date women around their own age. If they do, they are in a relationship very quickly.

I totally agree about having more in common and yes maybe it is the area I live in... or just the "luck of the draw"... I do enjoy my independance and the longer I stay this way... the more I'm getting use to it...

Love your name... met someone recently that fits that name to a tee... always had great debates ... enjoy your Sunday
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