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Old 06-16-2012, 02:49 PM
 
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Old 06-16-2012, 05:44 PM
 
Location: Lexington, SC
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This is depressing. I am going to have another drink..........LOL
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Old 06-16-2012, 05:47 PM
 
Location: Grove City, Ohio
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Interesting but sad thread.

We've been married over 35 years, it was the first for each of us, and I would do it all over again changing nothing of any substance.

I noticed recently it seems we are becoming more one person and we know wherever one goes the other will follow.

But I have also told her if something happened to her I would most likely be remarried inside of six months because it is hard to imagine life any other way. I also recognize a second marriage would probably be a mistake but I can see myself doing it in a frantic attempt to replace what I lost.
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Old 06-16-2012, 06:09 PM
 
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There are also the problems with divorcing earlier in life, never remarrying, and then entering retirement as a single person.
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Old 06-16-2012, 08:30 PM
 
Location: State of Superior
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I find these old posts quite interesting. Very timely for me. I am starting to feel like my last 10 years have been taken away. That makes me mad. We have been married over35 years, are seeing a coulceler but not much progress. It's he'll to be in a non romantic relationship for so long. I am a very loanly person, yet we still do everything together as we always have. It's frustrating, and here I am 71 she is 63 and is very successful in out business. I would like tontry an open marriage, but she hates the idea. Most likely we both are loanly, it's a trapped feeling for sure.
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Old 06-17-2012, 03:02 PM
 
Location: Las Vegas
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Update...

I saw this old thread come up and I went back and reread.

Things really changed for me. We never followed through with the divorce because I became a widow instead. If I had known he was going to die, I would have just held out a couple years longer. But there's no way to know!
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Old 09-30-2013, 04:15 AM
 
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My parents and many of my friends parents have divorced around these ages and it was the best thing that happened to them. It was a rebirth from the ashes of hell. People get to experience a new freedom they didn't even remember existed.
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Old 10-07-2013, 08:53 AM
 
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Yes, it is a new freedom, one I haven't felt in quite a while.

My former spouse came home one day from work and announced he was moving out. I was 46 years old. At some point, I doubted I would ever again experience intense feelings of love and commitment. Dating in my late 40s left a lot to be desired, it was quite a shock, actually. Then, about a year and a half ago, I accidentally met and developed a wonderful relationship with the most handsome, intelligent and loving man in the world.... We enjoy making plans for our future.
I am a living testament that there are second chances in life for much happiness and joy.

C
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Old 10-07-2013, 09:14 AM
 
Location: State of Superior
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It can be a wonderful, if short lived , thing when you finally stand up and admit to your self , this contract has run long enough , whatever the age. I regret very little this past life , only the things I did NOT do when I had the opportunity to dance.
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Old 10-12-2013, 11:06 AM
 
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People should prepare themselves for divorce at a later stage. That's why it's important both people work. My mother always worked but she didn't earn as much as my father. She went through a lot when the divorce came after 36 years of marriage. They're still in the process of selling the house. My mother needs the house to be sold so she has money to live on her own with some to spare.
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