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Old 02-20-2017, 10:59 AM
 
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I am going to send you one. Please feel free to decline it either on personal grounds or because you think the whole business is silly - believe me I won't be offended.

Edited to add: I got a notice "User biscuitmom has disabled friend requests". Perhaps you did that so long ago you've forgotten all about it?
Probably, although I don't recall seeing or doing it.
Thanks for the explanation..

 
Old 02-20-2017, 10:52 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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Rest in Peace: Riverbird (formerly NewEnglandGirl)

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It has been a month now since RiverBird posted anywhere on City-Data, which is very much unlike her. Does anyone know if she is O.K.?
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I was starting to notice the same thing. I'll try to get in touch with her.
All who are interested in this should read the thread started by in_newengland just now entitled "Dear Riverbird". Thanks for following up, in_newengland. You are a kind person.
 
Old 02-21-2017, 11:57 AM
 
Location: Prescott AZ
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I sincerely wish we had a way to inform just one other person on here if we pass on. Perhaps each of us could send one relative's email (who would know what happened) to just one other CD person here trusting that person with the details only to be used should one of us "disappear".

I spent many hours trying to track down Knoxgarden (who passed away) and finally did, with the help of her garden club. We also never found CCCgal who mysteriously disappeared. I never did find husband or Cub Cadet tractors anywhere that could help me.

This would be entirely voluntary. If you send your relative's email to just one person, we would be able to contact them. What do you think?
 
Old 02-21-2017, 12:22 PM
 
Location: Edina, MN, USA
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I sincerely wish we had a way to inform just one other person on here if we pass on. Perhaps each of us could send one relative's email (who would know what happened) to just one other CD person here trusting that person with the details only to be used should one of us "disappear".

I spent many hours trying to track down Knoxgarden (who passed away) and finally did, with the help of her garden club. We also never found CCCgal who mysteriously disappeared. I never did find husband or Cub Cadet tractors anywhere that could help me.

This would be entirely voluntary. If you send your relative's email to just one person, we would be able to contact them. What do you think?
I totally agree. I still wonder about CCCgal. Even though most of us will never meet, we start to feel a closeness to some people and we need closure. If I am ever in a hospice situation I will come on here or get someone to do it for me and say audios. I realize there are more important things to do and think about but it's a small thing.

I have communicated with Riverbird in one way or another since 2008 - that's a very long time. I would have like to have been able to say goodbye. Riverbird - right now I am very sad but I am also very mad at you for not sharing this.

R.I.P.
 
Old 02-21-2017, 12:40 PM
 
Location: Central NY
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PhxBarb:

I think that is a wonderful idea.

Now to think of someone whose e-mail I could send to someone.
 
Old 02-21-2017, 02:37 PM
 
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I sincerely wish we had a way to inform just one other person on here if we pass on. Perhaps each of us could send one relative's email (who would know what happened) to just one other CD person here trusting that person with the details only to be used should one of us "disappear".

I spent many hours trying to track down Knoxgarden (who passed away) and finally did, with the help of her garden club. We also never found CCCgal who mysteriously disappeared. I never did find husband or Cub Cadet tractors anywhere that could help me.

This would be entirely voluntary. If you send your relative's email to just one person, we would be able to contact them. What do you think?
I think that's a great idea. I was cogitating on this last night after I read the first post about RiverBird. The best I came up with was to put a note in my safety deposit box with my will and trust for my executor to notify C-D and a couple of other sites I frequent as well as canceling my email accounts when everything is said and done. But that info wouldn't get to the specific forums the way your system would. Should I know that the end is coming, I'd already planned to notify someone here myself. Your system would take care of the unexpected. Count me in.
 
Old 02-22-2017, 12:01 PM
 
Location: too far from the sea
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These are good ideas re the passing and informing the members on the Retirement Forum. Before I forget, I want to thank ER for asking about Riverbird in the first place. That's what got the ball rolling.

In her case her husband said in his email to me that she didn't want anyone to know outside of her immediate family. That was her choice. No one in her real life knew except her grown kids and her husband. They cared for her at home with the help of Hospice.

I like the idea of putting the id and password for CD into the file cabinet, safety deposit box, with the will--somewhere that it will be found upon death. Add some instructions for the person to log in and post the sad news. BTW, I have just heard back from a senior mod that Riverbird will be getting "Eternal Member" under her name soon. Here's something we should know: they require an obituary. Obviously that's so that some prankster doesn't play a mean-spirited joke on us. In this particular case, since I had met her in person, they are waiving the obit requirement but this is a rare exception. So if you want "Eternal Member" the person must provide an obituary and send it to a head moderator--or any mod, I guess. Because any mod could forward it to a head mod.
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Old 02-22-2017, 01:42 PM
 
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These are good ideas re the passing and informing the members on the Retirement Forum. Before I forget, I want to thank ER for asking about Riverbird in the first place. That's what got the ball rolling.

In her case her husband said in his email to me that she didn't want anyone to know outside of her immediate family. That was her choice. No one in her real life knew except her grown kids and her husband. They cared for her at home with the help of Hospice.

I like the idea of putting the id and password for CD into the file cabinet, safety deposit box, with the will--somewhere that it will be found upon death. Add some instructions for the person to log in and post the sad news. BTW, I have just heard back from a senior mod that Riverbird will get getting "Eternal Member" under her name soon. Here's something we should know: they require an obituary. Obviously that's so that some prankster doesn't play a mean-spirited joke on us. In this particular case, since I had met her in person, they are waiving the obit requirement but this is a rare exception. So if you want "Eternal Member" the person must provide an obituary and send it to a head moderator--or any mod, I guess. Because any mod could forward it to a head mod.
Thank you for this. I'm going to go with my original idea of a note in the safety deposit box with the will. That seems to be the most efficient approach for my particular situation.

I totally understand her need for privacy. I'm the same way. Kudos to her family for caring for her at home along with Hospice. Oh that we could all be in our own beds surrounded by loved ones at the end.

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Old 02-22-2017, 06:07 PM
 
Location: Idaho
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I have just heard back from a senior mod that Riverbird will be getting "Eternal Member" under her name soon.
Thank you for pushing this through. She is well deserving of the honor.


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Old 02-23-2017, 07:07 AM
 
Location: Western Colorado
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Well by golly yesterday it was 68 degrees out, woke up this morning to snow. I would go out and play but the wind is blowing 20mph. I hate wind. In front of the fire and coffee, making biscuits (from scratch) and gravy. Good day to read a book I think.
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