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Old 05-16-2014, 07:58 PM
 
Location: too far from the sea
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A few weeks ago I sent two items from a small post office in New Hampshire. (ebay sales) One was supposed to go somewhere in FL, the other to TN. I got an email from the person in FL about a week later saying she still hadn't received it. I checked the tracking for the TN package and it was in FL. BOTH were in FL and it wasn't even the right part of FL for the person who lived there.

The FL buyer finally found a central phone # for the USPS and called it. They found her item--tracking said it was being sent back to me!!--and they got it back on track. Took her two weeks to get it. Same for the TN person. Usually it works better than that. Post Office USA=1-800-222-1811. --in case you ever need it.
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Old 05-16-2014, 08:17 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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I think I have accepted all of the invites I have ever received, except for one, which I felt was a "troll" and sure enough - I checked on that user name several times afterwards and they never came back and posted anything.

I have never really seen any reason to ask to be friends on this forum -- is there some benefit to hooking up with others? I think maybe the one thing "friends" can do is see more info on a profile, but I don't have anything much on my profile anyway - other than being Southern, married, female and a redhead, lololol.
I appreciate your thoughts, Ani. I did end up accepting the request. And I came to the conclusion that I was over-thinking the whole matter.

"Friends" do not see more of our profile unless we have set the profile for "friends only". So it is all or nothing; either everyone sees it or only friends see it. Of course some people do not enter any information in their profiles, so in that case it doesn't matter what the setting is.
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Old 05-16-2014, 08:36 PM
 
Location: Near a river
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Today I received a friend request from a poster with 702 friends on City-Data. It is not from a regular in the retirement forum, and while I have seen some of her posts in other forums, it is not someone whom I "know" very well.

I am of two minds about whether to accept. On the one hand it is always flattering to get a friend request (although how discerning is someone with 702 "friends"?), and I do not wish to seem rude or hostile if I reject it. But on the other hand I like to think that being a "friend" here means we are pretty much on the same wavelength about many (but not necessarily all) things. In this case I would have to read a lot of additional posts to determine that, which I am not inclined to do, although this is not someone who is an obvious jerk or zealot.

Right now I am leaning toward accepting, especially inasmuch as it can always be undone later. I am curious to what extent others share my ambiguity regarding "friends". Perhaps many of you have a different stance? And certainly some will feel (and I share that) that I am spending too much time agonizing about a matter of small importance.
Several times in the past five years I've gotten friend requests from posters whose names I'd never heard of. I post mostly in Retirement; these posters did not. I'd check out their previous posts and in one case found none! One poster had a somewhat interesting history of posting but nothing along the lines that would make me think s/he would have grounds to have any affinity with me. I was puzzled until it dawned on me that some who make friend requests are just curious about your profile. I felt badly turning down a few friend requests b/c I felt no reason whatsoever for the request. Thoughts of "serial killer" crossed my mind in one instance, after seeing a really offensive online name (that person went on instant ignore and I've not seen any of his/her posts since, so I hope s/he didn't come back under a different identity, as some posters are known to do.)
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Old 05-16-2014, 08:49 PM
 
Location: Nebraska
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The last thing I ordered from amazon with free delivery took 7 days. It traveled from Hebron, KY, through VA to a FedEx Smartpost center in Charlotte, NC, then back to VA to another distribution center and finally to my home. I believe that it passed with 20 miles of my home twice along the route.

For someone driving directly from Hebron to Floyd to trip would take about 6.5 hours.

Not complaining here, just find it amusing. I was in no rush for the stuff.
I find it amusing too. The package went from through Des Moines before getting to me. The package from IL departed from Omaha this evening so I guess I will get it tomorrow. USPS still shows my est. delivery date to be May 15th
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Old 05-17-2014, 01:57 AM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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Several times in the past five years I've gotten friend requests from posters whose names I'd never heard of. I post mostly in Retirement; these posters did not. I'd check out their previous posts and in one case found none! One poster had a somewhat interesting history of posting but nothing along the lines that would make me think s/he would have grounds to have any affinity with me. I was puzzled until it dawned on me that some who make friend requests are just curious about your profile. I felt badly turning down a few friend requests b/c I felt no reason whatsoever for the request. Thoughts of "serial killer" crossed my mind in one instance, after seeing a really offensive online name (that person went on instant ignore and I've not seen any of his/her posts since, so I hope s/he didn't come back under a different identity, as some posters are known to do.)
Interesting, Newenglandgirl. In my case, since my profile is not set to "friends only", anyone can see it. I wonder what percentage of CD users have their profiles restricted? It seems like over half. I simply didn't put any information in mine that I wouldn't want generally seen.
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Old 05-17-2014, 02:07 AM
 
Location: Florida
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I solved the dilemma about who to accept as a "Friend" long ago...I clicked on the "No requests" option.
On CD, I don't see any benefit or the point.
Am I missing something good?
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Old 05-17-2014, 06:30 AM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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I solved the dilemma about who to accept as a "Friend" long ago...I clicked on the "No requests" option.
On CD, I don't see any benefit or the point.
Am I missing something good?
Not to my knowledge.
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Old 05-17-2014, 09:51 PM
 
Location: Near a river
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Interesting, Newenglandgirl. In my case, since my profile is not set to "friends only", anyone can see it. I wonder what percentage of CD users have their profiles restricted? It seems like over half. I simply didn't put any information in mine that I wouldn't want generally seen.
I don't have a restricted profile. I have no profile. I never got around to making one.
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Old 05-17-2014, 10:07 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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I don't have a restricted profile. I have no profile. I never got around to making one.
I believe you have forgotten having "restricted" your profile, because when I click to view yours, a message comes up that says, "Sorry but Newenglandgirl profile is restricted to friends only". (Lack of apostrophe "s" sic). It's also possible that you never entered any information in the profile. The two are not mutually incompatible, it seems to me, as one could check a box to restrict an "empty" profile to "friends only".
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Old 05-17-2014, 11:20 PM
 
Location: Stephenville, Texas
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Today I received a friend request from a poster with 702 friends on City-Data. It is not from a regular in the retirement forum, and while I have seen some of her posts in other forums, it is not someone whom I "know" very well.

I am of two minds about whether to accept. On the one hand it is always flattering to get a friend request (although how discerning is someone with 702 "friends"?), and I do not wish to seem rude or hostile if I reject it. But on the other hand I like to think that being a "friend" here means we are pretty much on the same wavelength about many (but not necessarily all) things. In this case I would have to read a lot of additional posts to determine that, which I am not inclined to do, although this is not someone who is an obvious jerk or zealot.

Right now I am leaning toward accepting, especially inasmuch as it can always be undone later. I am curious to what extent others share my ambiguity regarding "friends". Perhaps many of you have a different stance? And certainly some will feel (and I share that) that I am spending too much time agonizing about a matter of small importance.

Perhaps you made a post which had a lasting impression on that person? I think I would accept move ahead. I wouldn't have time to read all of their past postings though.

Since I don't have any friends on CD, I guess I can't relate to what the person is thinking. I do enjoy reading certain posters, especially in the retirement forum.
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