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Old 07-07-2014, 01:34 PM
 
Location: State of Being
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Hello back! The twins are sleeping (or secretly planning something) upstairs. We've had a lovely June, lovely weather and great times with the girls. More house renovations, getting us closer to our goal. We are dealing with a rather significant logistics problem right now, but I think we can put it in the larger context of life's "stuff." I'm just grateful, on my end, that I can continue to be mobile even in this summer weather. As you say, one thing at a time, which is a challenge to my impatient nature.
So glad it has been a nice summer for you and your family.

Those logistics issues can be quite daunting. I hope you will find solutions, but you are right - "life's stuff."

Kind of dealing with that myself, too, right now. Need to get back to Charlotte to get that house on the market . . . so much to do and schedule and figure out. Can't leave hubby right now. Might have to just chance that he can take care of himself for a few days and head back for 72 hours or so. I need to clone myself, lol.
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Old 07-07-2014, 03:11 PM
 
Location: Near a river
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So glad it has been a nice summer for you and your family.

Those logistics issues can be quite daunting. I hope you will find solutions, but you are right - "life's stuff."

Kind of dealing with that myself, too, right now. Need to get back to Charlotte to get that house on the market . . . so much to do and schedule and figure out. Can't leave hubby right now. Might have to just chance that he can take care of himself for a few days and head back for 72 hours or so. I need to clone myself, lol.
I have a friend who is so good at calling up the ranks when she has an emergency, and her friends are at her side. I, being a rather private do-it-myself person, have a hard time calling on others, even family members, not wanting to put them out or get into things where I don't want to. Must have gotten that from my mother. But it doesn't serve me well when I could use support. Not sure what's going on there. I hope you're better at calling for help than I am!
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Old 07-07-2014, 03:29 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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I have a friend who is so good at calling up the ranks when she has an emergency, and her friends are at her side. I, being a rather private do-it-myself person, have a hard time calling on others, even family members, not wanting to put them out or get into things where I don't want to. Must have gotten that from my mother. But it doesn't serve me well when I could use support. Not sure what's going on there. I hope you're better at calling for help than I am!
I am like you, Newenglandgirl. I tend to muddle through on my own. But for some things I do call for help. When I had hernia surgery three years ago I asked one friend to drop me in the morning and another friend to pick me up in the evening. (The hospital doesn't like to allow people to take a taxi home). This is a reciprocal thing, for the most part. That is, I had picked up one of those two friends previously after a medical procedure.

Likewise I have a wonderful neighbor who doesn't mind picking up my mail and newspapers when I am gone. I always take him and his wife out to eat when I return.

Whether we are somewhat reluctant to call for help, as you and I are, or whether that's easy for us, it's great to have a support system in place.
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Old 07-07-2014, 03:49 PM
 
Location: UpstateNY
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Escort, that is so cool about your chess teaching, very inspiring.

I guess we're all gonna learn that no man is an island when we get to really needing help
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Old 07-07-2014, 09:06 PM
 
Location: University City, Philadelphia
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I did not have a great day today. I woke up with a terrific headache. I don't get headaches often, but when I do they are awful! Then I went to the dentist's office because a crown came out. The dentist had to do an immediate root canal job. As soon as I was finished at the dentist's I had to rush home, change into my uniform and report for duty to work a 10 hour shift. Half way through the shift the headache came back, but I just remembered that there were Tylenol in my duffel back. The next few hours weren't so bad.

I think I will sleep soundly tonight!
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Old 07-08-2014, 07:26 AM
 
Location: Floyd Co, VA
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Clark, I hope that you had a great nights sleep and that today has some little extra nice thing happen to offset the rally bad day you had yesterday.

I know what others mean about asking for help. I was really hard for me to do so when I needed transport to and from the hospital and someone to stay overnight after my surgery, even though I would be more than willing to do this sort of thing for my friends.

My young friend who is going cross country with the Bike and Build team is now in the southern Rockies, up at altitudes over 6,000 ft and experienced some sickness due to that. It is day 54 (of 80) and they have had just 2 days off so far but have another one coming up in a few days when the get to the north rim of the Grand Canyon. They'll have one more day off when the get to Yosemite in three weeks, after heading up the eastern side of the Sierras to Lee Vining and then over Tioga Pass which is 9,943'. I hope that all the team members manage to acclimatize to the heights but probably a few will have difficulty and have to ride in the support van for that part of the journey.

I'm off to the doctors in a little while to once again have some blood drawn as they try to get the dosage right for my thyroid meds.
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Old 07-08-2014, 09:11 AM
 
Location: State of Being
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I have a friend who is so good at calling up the ranks when she has an emergency, and her friends are at her side. I, being a rather private do-it-myself person, have a hard time calling on others, even family members, not wanting to put them out or get into things where I don't want to. Must have gotten that from my mother. But it doesn't serve me well when I could use support. Not sure what's going on there. I hope you're better at calling for help than I am!
There is no one to help with this situation, other than tradesmen I can hire. My problem is I can't leave hubby alone at this point. Even if there were someone who could "help" him during the day, he won't allow it.

And I can't take him back with me to the other house. Hubby has a track record of continually interferring with folks I hire (giving them conflicting directions) so having him onsite while they are on the property always ends in unsatisfactorily. He is also somewhat OCD and much worse since his surgery -- and can't endure noise or confusion (such as furniture being moved around, paint cans, people shuffling in and out, items out of place, etc). This means I can't take him back to that house, either.

And there is more, but that gives a glimpse.

So no one to call on even if there were someone to call on, lololol.

I started getting terribly depressed about all this over the weekend but then decided that it wasn't a very convenient time for me to sink into a black hole of despair, so best I just figure out how to cope in the interim.

I am thinking I will take him back later this week and be prepared, emotionally and mentally, to deal with the chaos and stress in re: to workmen.
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Old 07-08-2014, 10:12 AM
 
Location: UpstateNY
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Clark, Zugor, feel better. I can't imagine going to work after a freaking root canal.......:O

Ani, a caregiver and a Xanax/sleepingpill/Jack Daniels? A BFF that could hang out? You are setting yourself up for some mighty hard times if you have to be with him 24/7 now. JMHO, YMMV, and, yes, DH doesn't do well alone, either.

I don't recall what malady(ies) your DH has. Mine needs a hip replacement so running/walking/stairs/emergency getting the horses is a maybe, he could do it in a pinch but would be in agony for days.
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Old 07-08-2014, 10:23 AM
 
Location: SoCal
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I get my earthquake 'stuff' from USGS, that's where the 4.8 came from. They corrected it within 5 minutes
Hah. That speaks volumes about the quality (lack thereof) of *our* newscasters.
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Old 07-08-2014, 10:44 AM
 
Location: State of Being
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Clark, Zugor, feel better. I can't imagine going to work after a freaking root canal.......:O

Ani, a caregiver and a Xanax/sleepingpill/Jack Daniels? A BFF that could hang out? You are setting yourself up for some mighty hard times if you have to be with him 24/7 now. JMHO, YMMV, and, yes, DH doesn't do well alone, either.

I don't recall what malady(ies) your DH has. Mine needs a hip replacement so running/walking/stairs/emergency getting the horses is a maybe, he could do it in a pinch but would be in agony for days.
Cardiac. No one to hang out with; no way to even get out of the house alone - he pouts if I don't take him when I run an errand and dealing with him afterwards isn't worth it. I have my own study where I work and am at least somewhat removed from things for periods of time. But I have to keep my ears attuned to his movements.

It is what it is for now.

I am just going to have to load up the car and take him back with me and deal with things as they arise once there.

If I took a xanax, I would fall over asleep, lol. Tried a G&T this weekend and it had a very very bad effect on my IBS. Meditation is my best ally at this point.
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