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Old 01-22-2015, 01:54 PM
 
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Bula from Fiji! ( That's Fijian for hello. ) What a wonderful, beautiful paradise with warm friendly people. Yesterday we took a two hour awd vehicle drive up a gravel road (and I use the word "road" loosely) into the mountains to visit a traditional village and spent the day with a family there. We brought gifts for the family and school children, and in turn, the family made lunch for us. We participated in a traditional welcoming ceremony and then shared a bowl of cava with the family and some of their friends. The village itself has no electricity or running water for the 800 inhabitants, so they make do with what they have. (cooking by firewood, washing clothes in the river, etc.)

We had a wonderful day yesterday and thoroughly enjoyed our time there. So glad we went off by ourselves (and a driver/guide) rather than taking a van/bus tour with a bunch of other tourists to a nearby town with events set up to entertain them.

Our visit here has been much too short, but tomorrow we're off for Australia, starting with a few days in Sydney.
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Old 01-22-2015, 05:27 PM
 
Location: Alexandria, VA
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Hello all - I obviously couldn't read all the posts! Can I join if I'm mid 50's (don't want to feel like it though) - think I have to move to a more affordable area though (and warmer) - I have Fibromyalgia so the cold really gets to me (even though I can't stand to have it hot inside the house, LOL) - cannot take the shoveling when it snows (and it has several times since my husband passed). No children (let alone grands), I know some take comfort from Church things (I'm not religious). Just trying to figure out next phase of life - husband passed away, I can't keep up w/the house (although I like many things about the area) - how do you figure out priorities? I want warmer but can't take horrible heat either, LOL.

No way I could live w/a roommate (and vice versa) - I want to be able to paint whatever colors I want, etc. Just want to meet some new friends, live somewhere that doesn't make me crazy (noise, "rules", safe)
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Old 01-22-2015, 06:18 PM
 
Location: Alexandria, VA
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I was asked to state retired or not - I was approved for disability so although I would rather work (I'm a people person and enjoyed working, I just can't do it anymore to support myself) - I'm thinking NC (maybe southern VA?) but just not sure, it's scary! Have to think about selling the house since he passed away, finding insurance, finding somewhere to live, etc.
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Old 01-22-2015, 07:12 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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Hello all - I obviously couldn't read all the posts! Can I join if I'm mid 50's (don't want to feel like it though) - think I have to move to a more affordable area though (and warmer) - I have Fibromyalgia so the cold really gets to me (even though I can't stand to have it hot inside the house, LOL) - cannot take the shoveling when it snows (and it has several times since my husband passed). No children (let alone grands), I know some take comfort from Church things (I'm not religious). Just trying to figure out next phase of life - husband passed away, I can't keep up w/the house (although I like many things about the area) - how do you figure out priorities? I want warmer but can't take horrible heat either, LOL.

No way I could live w/a roommate (and vice versa) - I want to be able to paint whatever colors I want, etc. Just want to meet some new friends, live somewhere that doesn't make me crazy (noise, "rules", safe)
You are absolutely welcome! Once you have joined City-Data, there is no formal "joining" of the Retirement Forum. People in their 20's are sometimes thinking about retirement planning already and they post their two cents, or their questions, in this forum. In any case people retire at all sorts of ages.
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Old 01-22-2015, 07:54 PM
 
Location: Near a river
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You are absolutely welcome! Once you have joined City-Data, there is no formal "joining" of the Retirement Forum.
Yeah and once we're here you can't get rid of us, lol.
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Old 01-22-2015, 08:06 PM
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Location: Cody, WY
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Hello all - I obviously couldn't read all the posts! Can I join if I'm mid 50's (don't want to feel like it though) - think I have to move to a more affordable area though (and warmer) - I have Fibromyalgia so the cold really gets to me (even though I can't stand to have it hot inside the house, LOL) - cannot take the shoveling when it snows (and it has several times since my husband passed). No children (let alone grands), I know some take comfort from Church things (I'm not religious). Just trying to figure out next phase of life - husband passed away, I can't keep up w/the house (although I like many things about the area) - how do you figure out priorities? I want warmer but can't take horrible heat either, LOL.

No way I could live w/a roommate (and vice versa) - I want to be able to paint whatever colors I want, etc. Just want to meet some new friends, live somewhere that doesn't make me crazy (noise, "rules", safe)
You seem to think like a geriatric so you should be welcome here. What most of us despise is youth as well as old people trying to act youthful.

Be thankful that you have no children; you can move anywhere. Think about what you seek; I know that weather isn't your only criterion. What would you like to be the same as it is where you live? What would you like to be different? Take your time; you don't want to end up someplace you hate.

What kind of people do you wish to have around you? Things like race, age, educational level, and political views are very important to most people.

Are you able to drive. If not, you'll have very few choices.

Do you have pets? What will you need for them?

Keep in mind that all but a few states do have at least some cold weather and snow. North Carolina and Virginia certainly do.
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Old 01-22-2015, 08:09 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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hahaha. I haven't kept up with this thread so I don't mean it against anyone in particular but on some threads the bathroom "humor" or the junior high level humor is pretty stupid. Also the sexist non humor (anti female jokes that were in style back in the '50s or so) is kind of offensive to a lot of women.

ER, your humor is humorous to me--so far anyway. I have no idea what you said to offend that person. Some people are easily offended and some people have every right to be offended--just saying that because we don't know what has happened in their lives that made them so sensitive and easily offended. We all probably have buttons that could be pushed even when no offense was intended.
Yes, our taste in humor, just like our taste in literature, movies, and music is highly idiosyncratic, so it's pretty much guaranteed that we will not all like the same thing in any of those categories.

I was interested in your comment about the "anti-female" jokes in the 50's. I was six years old in 1950, and I always thought the comedians of the era were funny: Jack Benny, Bob Hope, Red Skelton, and others. I don't particularly remember the anti-female jokes, but it's possible they were so much a part of the era that I never gave it much thought. If so, I imagine I would be surprised if I went back and listened to/watched that material now. Was it a general thing, or were some comedians especially guilty?
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Old 01-22-2015, 08:35 PM
 
Location: too far from the sea
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Yes, our taste in humor, just like our taste in literature, movies, and music is highly idiosyncratic, so it's pretty much guaranteed that we will not all like the same thing in any of those categories.

I was interested in your comment about the "anti-female" jokes in the 50's. I was six years old in 1950, and I always thought the comedians of the era were funny: Jack Benny, Bob Hope, Red Skelton, and others. I don't particularly remember the anti-female jokes, but it's possible they were so much a part of the era that I never gave it much thought. If so, I imagine I would be surprised if I went back and listened to/watched that material now. Was it a general thing, or were some comedians especially guilty?
I don't remember. In general, I do remember hurtful jokes against women before the era of feminism either shamed the men or informed them that the jokes were inappropriate. There were "wife" jokes that stereotyped wives and there were general "woman" jokes that stereotyped women as dumb. If anyone can remember any of these specific jokes, post them--or maybe not.

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Old 01-23-2015, 10:01 AM
 
Location: SoCal
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I don't remember specific jokes, nor do I want to. I just remember hating to watch I Love Lucy because she made herself out to be such a childish character. I do get that she was playing a 'class clown' character, and was really a talented comedienne, but I always thought she didn't do herself any favors. And I didn't like that it promoted thinking of women, in general, in such a light. I always wished that when Ricky would get up in her face and demand, "Lucy, you got some 'splaining to do", that she would get right back up in his and retort, "No, actually, I don't!"

In general, women in that era were not thought of as intelligent and productive members of society ... just as "housekeepers". The movie that clarified it for me was The Women's Room: The Women's Room (TV Movie 1980) - IMDb
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Old 01-23-2015, 10:05 AM
 
Location: Prescott AZ
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So are you talking about Jackie Gleason and his Alice type jokes or Archie Bunker and Edith? I think that was way past 1950 but might be what you are referring to. (?)

I, myself, have a very sarcastic sense of humor and enjoy displaying it, and sometimes it does get misunderstood and I regret having opened my mouth. But, that said, let's all take everything with a grain of salt on this thread and we shall all survive. Humor does not equal hurtful in my book.
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