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Old 05-06-2015, 05:22 AM
 
Location: UpstateNY
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When my dad and his current wife got married in '06 their wedding song was Carolina On My Mind by James Taylor. They had just sold their houses and were packing up and going to Sun City Hilton Head.

NYgal, my mom is facing similar feelings. Her twin sister died suddenly last year, and her younger sister recently admitted to having a mastectomy due to breast cancer after hiding it from her for years Seize each day, and tell fear to go to hell.

'Don't let the devil steal your peace.' -Joyce Meyer

Hugs to all

 
Old 05-06-2015, 06:28 AM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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Here's something I am enjoying immensely - "The Lord of the Rings" which I am coming to late in life. It's very long, but quite engaging so it doesn't drag. A nice thing to read in the retirement years when we have more time.

(Yes, most liberal arts-educated people have already read it, I would imagine, but my direct knowledge of the Western literary canon is embarrassingly spotty. In those many gaps lies fuel for my detractors - not only are my jokes bad, but I am ignorant as well.)

Here is a link to an excellent article-length biography of JRR Tolkien:

Biography – The Tolkien Society
 
Old 05-06-2015, 06:43 AM
 
Location: ☀️ SWFL ⛱ 🌴
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CCc girl: You wrote the nicest post, very cheery. Thanks! I feel like that most of the time.

In my research regarding COL, being a renter and not a home buyer, my COL in NC will be about the same as here in NY. When I first realized that a while ago, I had a little hiccup about it but after a while I calmed down and said to myself....... I like it there, it's pleasing to my eyes, there are new things to experience and see there. Just go. Money isn't everything. And I am doing pretty well at maintaining that mindset.

I had a dr. appt. this morning and told him how often I am so fatigued I want to sleep all day and also about some pain I had. So he sent me to a lab for some bloodwork. It will probably come back negative. I think it could be more of an emotional thing. My sister is in Hospice with lung cancer, our other sister died in 1999 from lung cancer, and I'm the "last one." My family situation is in terrible shape. Not much, if any, communication with my kids or my ill sister's daughter. I'm pretty well just sick of it. It has felt like running into a brick wall with them. I finally decided that it was time to stop doing that and make my own life and forget the rest. So that's pretty much what I am attempting to do here. But I'm plum out of energy.

like I'm having a pity party and need to get over myself. Working on it.

Moving is difficult and overwhelming at times. It's easy to remember all the good and forget any bad about a former home/place when you are homesick. Try to stay open, to not compare and give yourself well over a year to acclimate once you go.

Your fatigue and pain may be exacerbated by a low level depression about the changes coming. I hope when you move and get absorbed in all the things happening, most of your symptoms will go away. It's good to get blood work and know there isn't any underlying issues. It will be one less worry.
 
Old 05-06-2015, 06:45 AM
 
Location: UpstateNY
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jean, are you back north?
 
Old 05-06-2015, 07:01 AM
 
Location: ☀️ SWFL ⛱ 🌴
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We are heading back to NY at the end of the week. We are leaving my car here and driving back in one car. I am so looking forward to being able to trade off driving every few hours. The downside is not being able to trade off the noisy Siamese between cars. Earplugs may help the one not driving.

I'm fairly organized, but even so it's crunch time trying to get everything done. I'm packing up all the grandkids clothes to send back to their house because most won't fit when we return in a few months. I'm happily packing the diapers I have, they won't be needed, the little guy is potty trained and only has accidents when he waits too long because he can't tear himself away from his trains and Legos.

We've been swimming with the grandkids in their pool many times in the past two weeks. I've been told I cheat at Marco Polo. Hmmmph! The kids took us out to dinner at a lovely restaurant overlooking the beach and Gulf the other night. It was relaxing and enjoyable, one of those perfect nights.

I think the first year we went back to NY, I was so happy to be back to the familiar. The second year was not as satisfying and this year I do not want to go back at all. I love it still as the place we lived and worked in for 30 years, but it's no longer home. It's time to sell, so this summer will be geared toward selling next spring as our goal. In other words, more work and less play this summer.
 
Old 05-06-2015, 07:06 AM
 
Location: ☀️ SWFL ⛱ 🌴
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jean, are you back north?
This weekend and I see the temps will be in the 80's, thank goodness! I froze with that cold spring last year. It's been in the 80's for over a month here. The humidity has been low this past week so the transition should be easy. Transitioning from a newer house to an older one gets harder each year though, I like my conveniences: lots of electrical outlets, a garage door opener, actually a garage I can use and AC. Things I never missed until I had them.

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Old 05-06-2015, 08:18 AM
 
Location: Great State of Texas
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Here's something I am enjoying immensely - "The Lord of the Rings" which I am coming to late in life. It's very long, but quite engaging so it doesn't drag. A nice thing to read in the retirement years when we have more time.

(Yes, most liberal arts-educated people have already read it, I would imagine, but my direct knowledge of the Western literary canon is embarrassingly spotty. In those many gaps lies fuel for my detractors - not only are my jokes bad, but I am ignorant as well.)

Here is a link to an excellent article-length biography of JRR Tolkien:

Biography The Tolkien Society
I read "The Hobbit" a long time ago when I was in high school.

After you finish reading the books I suggest you watch the movies which do a pretty good job of bringing the stories to life.

I have the DVD set and have an annual LOTR marathon.
 
Old 05-06-2015, 09:10 AM
 
Location: Central NY
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CCc girl and jean_ji : Thank you for your encouraging and caring words. Guess I just had a little glitch happen as it sometimes (but not often) does.

I don't think I am going to miss a lot in NY when I leave; there are some people I will miss seeing but I keep reminding myself about phone calls, e-mail, and of course visits. It might be the idea of not missing anything here that depresses me, if that makes any sense. Nothing here except a lot of lousy memories. Have stayed here too long in the hopes that relationships with family would heal but at this point they have not and it doesn't appear they will.

I think about making new memories and that really excites me. I love nature and the outdoors; I look so forward to feasting my eyes on the greenery, the flowers, etc. I love birds and their songs. When I visited before I was so taken by how many trees NC has; as I drove on Rt. 40, the highways were lined on each side with them. This may all sound a bit stupid to someone else.

Yesterday I needed to go to a doctor's appointment and sitting on the street trying to pull out onto the main road so I could get going was ridiculous. We don't have a traffic light so it's just sit and wait and occasionally a driver will stop to let us out. I live in a fairly new senior complex that a lot of people here did not want to see built; no chance of a light being installed. Right now a lot of work of replacing the curbing along the main drag with orange caution cones to drive around, trucks, workers, etc. Progress I guess. But a traffic light would help, I believe. An ice cream place, a beauty shop, a couple of restaurants, auto repair garage, etc. are all being impacted by this work. There has been no rain in quite a while (we are in supposedly drought condition right now) so not sure why the work is taking so long.

Leaving this Saturday 5/9 to visit NC for a week and check out that apartment complex I like. Yippee.


 
Old 05-06-2015, 10:58 AM
 
Location: UpstateNY
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ER, enjoy! You will love the movies!

j_j, that's wonderful you will be saying ta ta to NY. Will you be selling the boat?

It's going to be in the 80s up here soon for five or so days, I imagine it will be high 80s near the Hudson where you are.

Trying to wrap my head around all the packing, moving his tractor collection, and getting our truck down there.

NYgal, look towards that open door! Leave your crap emotions in NY!

DH is a little tired and stiff from getting out, but no pain or breathing issues. Praise the Lord!

Going to wash up the Benz tomorrow and get her ready for craigslist. Lots of good memories in that old car, but it's time for someone else to love her.
 
Old 05-06-2015, 12:08 PM
 
Location: Central NY
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CCc girl: Great post!

Thank you--- gonna leave it "all" behind.

Glad your DH is doing OK today.... I have forgotten to mention I love that "you DO think his tractor is sexy"..... Cute.

Tried to give you some points..... site would not allow it....... I need to share more.
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