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Old 05-06-2015, 12:10 PM
 
Location: Central NY
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B'smom: Thanks!! I do plan on it.

 
Old 05-06-2015, 12:21 PM
 
Location: SoCal desert
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Here's something I am enjoying immensely - "The Lord of the Rings" which I am coming to late in life. It's very long, but quite engaging so it doesn't drag. A nice thing to read in the retirement years when we have more time.

(Yes, most liberal arts-educated people have already read it, I would imagine, but my direct knowledge of the Western literary canon is embarrassingly spotty. In those many gaps lies fuel for my detractors - not only are my jokes bad, but I am ignorant as well.)
Not ignorant, just deprived

I actually preferred The Hobbit over the LoTR trilogy.
And absolutely despised The Silmarillion.
 
Old 05-06-2015, 01:14 PM
 
Location: ☀️ SWFL ⛱ 🌴
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ER, enjoy! You will love the movies!

j_j, that's wonderful you will be saying ta ta to NY. Will you be selling the boat?
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It's going to be in the 80s up here soon for five or so days, I imagine it will be high 80s near the Hudson where you are.

Trying to wrap my head around all the packing, moving his tractor collection, and getting our truck down there.

NYgal, look towards that open door! Leave your crap emotions in NY!

DH is a little tired and stiff from getting out, but no pain or breathing issues. Praise the Lord!

Going to wash up the Benz tomorrow and get her ready for craigslist. Lots of good memories in that old car, but it's time for someone else to love her.
You are so insightful! You have nailed the issue. DH loves his boat and the club he's in and it's hard to let go for him. For me too, but I'm not as attached as he is. He's finding that compressing all the work on the boat and using her into four months time is too much. I saw this coming from the start but it was something he had to realize himself. When the boat is sold, then I'll know we'll be selling the house.

Our FBI neighbor has been texting and kidding DH about when we are returning. They have these back and forth texts that are pretty funny. DH told him we saw how warm it was going to be, which is why we are coming back now. That guy is bigger than life, with a heart of gold. The first time I saw him with a shaved head, tattoos on his arms, shorts, work boots, white socks and a white U shirt on, when he moved in across the street, my heart sank. Little did I know what a wonderful guy he would turn out to be. I learned a valuable lesson on judging that day.

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Old 05-06-2015, 01:52 PM
 
Location: Central NY
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I have to say this is one of the best groups here. Such smart people. So helpful.

Just spreading my gratitude..... life is good.
 
Old 05-06-2015, 06:08 PM
 
Location: SW Florida
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Not a lot of sleep last night, tired today. Starting to feel the fear about moving away from here but determined to stay on track and not let it dictate what I do.

Have some days that feel lonely..... then I think about moving where I don't know anyone ..... wonder if I'm doing the right thing.

Anyone out there go through these feelings?
Yes, I did, a lot of times. I am single, (divorced) and I moved from suburban Philadelphia, PA. at the end of last year. I did know one person here, my son-in-law's mother. Initially, I did a lot of research, made some visits, and finally decided on Sarasota, FL.

Initially, while I was still working, I just thought about moving away. Then, as retirement approached, I became more serious and that's when I started researching. All the time, I kept questioning myself as to whether moving would be the right decision. Was very afraid of moving on my own.

Last summer, I came to Sarasota to look at apartments. When I actually applied for a vacancy in an apartment, that's when I realized that "this is it." I am really doing this. I fluctuated from feeling excited, to feeling scared to death. I think this is normal because it is such a big decision.

Now that I live here in Sarasota, I'm so glad I made the move. I actually don't get to see my son-in-law's mother that much because they live in South Sarasota, and I am north. A lot of people have said to me that it takes quite some time to actually make the adjustment once you move to a near area. I believe that is true. I really like it here so far and I have started to get involved with some activities.

It is not an easy decision to pick up and move. Wishing you the best of luck!
 
Old 05-06-2015, 06:52 PM
 
Location: Central NY
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SUSMUSIC: Thank you for your post. You have a great attitude. I liked Sarasota when I visited many years ago. However, in doing a COL comparison, FL is really expensive to live in now.

There are some things going on here that at times get to me more than they should and I get a little spastic about it. Unfortunately, it affects the good stuff, too.

I'm divorced 32+ years and doing OK. I know some gals who have a new guy/husband almost right away but that didn't happen for me. It took me maybe 20+ years to even consider it might be nice to remarry. Well, now it's 32+ and I'm still single. Maybe I should just pay attention to what is happening in my life and enjoy it! There is plenty of discovery and excitement in moving to a new state with new places to visit, new things to do, new people to meet. I am honestly looking forward to it. Making new friends has never been a problem for me but learning to know who the real friends from the just acquaintances are can be a problem. I need to smarten up on that subject.

I am retired for 9 years, not a lot of money but doing OK, can't imagine going to work again (ugh).

Thanks again, you have been very helpful to me.
 
Old 05-06-2015, 11:25 PM
 
Location: Approximately 50 miles from Missoula MT/38 yrs full time after 4 yrs part time
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.....>>>>>(SNIP)>>>>>I'm divorced 32+ years and doing OK. I know some gals who have a new guy/husband almost right away but that didn't happen for me. It took me maybe 20+ years to even consider it might be nice to remarry. Well, now it's 32+ and I'm still single. >>>>>Maybe I should just pay attention to what is happening in my life and enjoy it! <<<<<.....I (Griz) think this is a very good idea.
..

I sincerely wish you all-the-luck and success in your proposed move. I'm sure you will have many new friends and acquaintances in a very short time frame.
Your level of "honesty & sincerity" is easy to spot in your posts. Those two qualities will go a long-way in making your transition less stressful and difficult.

CARPE DIEM my friend
 
Old 05-07-2015, 04:30 AM
 
Location: Central NY
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Montana Griz: Thank you MT.

I think honesty is the best way. Doesn't always make you friends, tho, but then "those" friends aren't good friends.

I probably share more than I should here. But under the guise of my made-up name, I believe I'm pretty safe "spilling" my stuff.

Thanks Montana. Your writing is interesting to read.... have you ever written to be published? You have a lot of stories to tell.
 
Old 05-07-2015, 04:45 AM
 
Location: Greenville, SC
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NYgal2NC: Wishing you a wonderful journey to NC. We retired to Greenville, SC, about 16 months ago. We love it here. There is always something to do, and it is quite affordable. We moved here from OK. Our son and daughter-in-law live here so that was the draw. With that said, we realize they may not always be here, but, we plan to stay. There is a huge network of Senior Activities for little or no cost. If that is not your thing, there are many other activities in the Arts, Music, etc. Have you ever considered Greenville, SC?

SUSMUSIC: We LOVE the Sarasota area. In fact, we just came back from spending a week in Longboat Key. Unfortunately, FL is not in our budget to live full time, but, we do love to visit.


Marie
 
Old 05-07-2015, 05:22 AM
 
Location: Central NY
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Default Greenville, SC

[quote=lv2trvl;39519175]NYgal2NC: Wishing you a wonderful journey to NC. We retired to Greenville, SC, about 16 months ago. We love it here. There is always something to do, and it is quite affordable. We moved here from OK. Our son and daughter-in-law live here so that was the draw. With that said, we realize they may not always be here, but, we plan to stay. There is a huge network of Senior Activities for little or no cost. If that is not your thing, there are many other activities in the Arts, Music, etc. Have you ever considered Greenville, SC?


When I started my search/research, Greenville, SC was suggested to me on this site. It sounds as though you have many fun things to do there. And I think SC could be more financially friendly.

After stewing over it for a day or two, I realized that I really liked the area I am going to and since I'm in my early 70s, I don't really relish the thought of doing another move after this one. I will probably make a road trip at some point to visit Greenville and other places. I've read some other posts about people's uncertainty as to where to go. I don't want that. I want to get there, get settled in, and get on with my life.

But I thank you for your suggestion and information and glad you have found it to be good for you.
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