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Old 09-20-2015, 07:52 AM
 
Location: Verde Valley AZ
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Hello everyone -- I just wanted to pop in and say "Hello" ! I've been resting for a few days, under the weather with an out-of-whack thyroid gland. I have a new dose from my Endo, so hopefully will feel better in a couple weeks. NYGal, I hope your test goes well. I get those ultrasounds every couple of years and they are a piece of cake and don't take very long, maybe 20-30 minutes. I'm thinking and praying for you and your sister. AZDesert, your home town is in the news down here -- both the paper and tv -- it is all about the Freeman Farms Pumpkin Patch --- What's the scoop? I hate to see a pumpkin patch closed down!!!
I hadn't heard anything about Freeman Farms but I think it's in Chino Valley. I checked out local paper online and nothing so I don't know what's going on.

 
Old 09-20-2015, 08:25 AM
 
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Here's a radical, revolutionary thought: There are rational, objective truths which exist outside of and independently of our own emotional fields. Not everything is personal.
Yes, reality is outside of our own personal truths and we can often find peace when we learn to embrace the external peace that is real not imagined and unchanging. I think RiverBird just experienced that in a post a few up

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Old 09-20-2015, 10:02 AM
 
Location: Central NY
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Lots of new energy after being in Maine for four days. Being away in September outside of the usual places people go (the high-traffic beaches and hangouts), where there's peace and quiet and time to think (or not think), is a recharger.

We plan to go to our inland and also coastal spots in Maine throughout the winter. Dogs are welcome at the wonderful pet-friendly hotels. I'm always surprised how quiet and respectful pet owners are at these places, and how quiet the dogs are. We never hear a single bark! It's so easy to strike up casual conversations with other pet owners who thankfully could take their loved ones along with them instead of sticking them in a kennel.

We met one retired couple from NJ who had their little dog with them along with two bikes on top of their SUV. They travel all over New England to take long bike rides on the most beautiful designated trails (miles and miles) with their dog in the bike basket. What a life! Ours had a terrific time with us just walking, and enjoyed a long run on the beach after 6:00 pm when they are allowed there. They only stuck their paws in the sea and retreated. Other dogs (the labs, bless their hearts!) dove into the waves and swam happily.

Nice to be back but we're already planning the next trip over Thanksgiving weekend. (–:

Sounds wonderful RiverBird. Just what the doctor ordered.

I'd like to do something along those lines but have to wait till the time is right in a few ways.

Love those labs! If I could, I would have one and a German Shepherd. My dream dogs.
 
Old 09-20-2015, 02:07 PM
 
Location: Near a river
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Sounds wonderful RiverBird. Just what the doctor ordered.

I'd like to do something along those lines but have to wait till the time is right in a few ways.

Love those labs! If I could, I would have one and a German Shepherd. My dream dogs.
Well, the few days away were a shot in the arm for finally finishing up the fourth year of extensive renovations on our house. If we go according to schedule, everything but a second floor half bath will be done by Nov. 15. Then back to Maine end of November and then start the bathroom. When that's done, then.....? Either stay here or find the retirement dwelling.

PS: When the time is right for you to get away, I wish you the best for that experience. Even three or four days can totally rejuvenate you, and you don't have to spend a lot of money. Consider off-season, too, as tourists are gone.
 
Old 09-20-2015, 03:21 PM
 
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Well, the few days away were a shot in the arm for finally finishing up the fourth year of extensive renovations on our house. If we go according to schedule, everything but a second floor half bath will be done by Nov. 15. Then back to Maine end of November and then start the bathroom. When that's done, then.....? Either stay here or find the retirement dwelling.

PS: When the time is right for you to get away, I wish you the best for that experience. Even three or four days can totally rejuvenate you, and you don't have to spend a lot of money. Consider off-season, too, as tourists are gone.
Your thoughts are great food for folks evaluating where to retire at. Many transplants land where they can construct what represent peace to them on a daily basis. I won't mention names but there are some posters under considerable stress who wanted to relocate elsewhere but aren't able to. I suspect that if they could or had their life tragedies would be less stressful and their degree of hope higher. Others are dealing with a lot but have are where they want to be and regardless of anything else love where they are and it gives them comfort.
 
Old 09-20-2015, 03:28 PM
 
Location: too far from the sea
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Well, the few days away were a shot in the arm for finally finishing up the fourth year of extensive renovations on our house. If we go according to schedule, everything but a second floor half bath will be done by Nov. 15. Then back to Maine end of November and then start the bathroom. When that's done, then.....? Either stay here or find the retirement dwelling.

PS: When the time is right for you to get away, I wish you the best for that experience. Even three or four days can totally rejuvenate you, and you don't have to spend a lot of money. Consider off-season, too, as tourists are gone.
Welcome back, RiverBird. I'm glad you enjoyed your Maine getaway. The weather is perfect for that right now. We go for a few days in the summer when it's too hot around here and Maine just relaxes us enough even if we only stay for a few days.

I've been doing the boring coming-home-from-vacation-things like endless laundry, grocery shopping, unpacking, finding where I hid things before I left. It was a great three weeks but now it's over.
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Old 09-20-2015, 05:07 PM
 
Location: Near a river
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Your thoughts are great food for folks evaluating where to retire at. Many transplants land where they can construct what represent peace to them on a daily basis. I won't mention names but there are some posters under considerable stress who wanted to relocate elsewhere but aren't able to. I suspect that if they could or had their life tragedies would be less stressful and their degree of hope higher. Others are dealing with a lot but have are where they want to be and regardless of anything else love where they are and it gives them comfort.
One thing I've come to realize more and more is that daily experience (not vacation mode) is pretty much the same all over our country, with a few variables like climate. Even in the most gorgeous places there are ugly business strips with big box stores close by, endless traffic and its pollution, a lot of terrible food choices, and too many people trying to get at that perfect experience that you are trying to get at. Tons of driving, driving...trying to weed out the crap from the authentic experience.

I think if we do relocate out of this state it will be to a town that has all the amenities we need (and that's not a lot) and we will just stay put. Relatives and others will just have to come to us if they want to see us. So that places us at about 3 to 5 more years perhaps. I'm sort of changing my attitude toward this: Old folks even if they feel young deserve to have others accommodate to their location, even if only once a year. Now I am going to get a lot of flak for saying this but I don't really care.
 
Old 09-20-2015, 05:35 PM
 
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One thing I've come to realize more and more is that daily experience (not vacation mode) is pretty much the same all over our country, with a few variables like climate. Even in the most gorgeous places there are ugly business strips with big box stores close by, endless traffic and its pollution, a lot of terrible food choices, and too many people trying to get at that perfect experience that you are trying to get at. Tons of driving, driving...trying to weed out the crap from the authentic experience.

I think if we do relocate out of this state it will be to a town that has all the amenities we need (and that's not a lot) and we will just stay put. Relatives and others will just have to come to us if they want to see us. So that places us at about 3 to 5 more years perhaps. I'm sort of changing my attitude toward this: Old folks even if they feel young deserve to have others accommodate to their location, even if only once a year. Now I am going to get a lot of flak for saying this but I don't really care.
Your house and your lot will be where you spend the most amount of time. That is a critical decision in deciding where to live in retirement. Even what you back up to will make a world of difference. Just the street and the amount of traffic going or not going by your house. Peace? Being able to sit on your deck or porch and look at the woods and be able to hear the birds and animals moving in the woods. Hey being able to hear the Hummingbirds flapping as the come in and while feeding is priceless.
 
Old 09-20-2015, 06:22 PM
 
Location: Central NY
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I am tempted at times to take a 2-3 day "vacation" but then the reality hits that I have obligations to take care of first. The #1 thing is to get out of debt. Yes, have heard many suggestions of ways to get out of it now, but have been advised not a good idea (legal aid). So, just hunker down, don't spend a lot of money, pay those dang bills, and then I can do what I want. I do occasionally take long rides just to see something different. Buy a cup of coffee. Little treats feel good, too.

My sister is fighting death so hard and I made myself not go up today. Yesterday I got physically sick, slept for about 6 hours Saturday afternoon/evening, went to bed at 11 and woke at 6. Felt a lot better. Actually got some stuff done around here that made me feel good. Probably sounds a bit cold hearted. Nurses, Hospice, and I are scratching our heads wondering how she is doing it. Not eating, no drinking, just morphine and Atavan. Skeletal.

I look at Facebook a lot if only for the laughs I get from it. I pretty much scared off the people I know who consistently post political, terrorist, war information/pictures. Just no tolerance for it. I know what is going on, I'm not living in a dream world. Just can't have it in my face so much.

I am reading on C-D retirement a lot of posts by people who are "new" to me. I like to read about what is going on in their lives, their happy days, their not-so-happy days and how they plan to make things better. I learn a lot here.
 
Old 09-20-2015, 07:21 PM
 
Location: Baltimore, MD
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Instruct someone we know get onto our own computer or whatever device and announce it. I think of two longtime wonderful posters from years back (island-mermaid in Maine and knoxgarden in Knoxville, Tenn.). I don't know for sure why they quit posting but I seem to remember it was because they passed on and only those who knew them well because of lots of DMs or actual meetups knew. They were great CD contributors and are truly missed.
Hopefully, island-mermaid decided it was time to cut the cord. I've had some success in taking some breaks from C-D but haven't been able to completely cut it out. I'll keep trying, though.

Grrrr, I probably need to shut down my internet access. <sigh>
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