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Old 10-20-2016, 10:41 AM
 
Location: Prescott AZ
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Think about it for a minute!
So you mean you are a ventriloquist ? I still don't get it....LOL

 
Old 10-20-2016, 03:48 PM
 
Location: Cochise county, AZ
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Me either
 
Old 10-20-2016, 04:56 PM
 
Location: Prescott AZ
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Thanks Meo. I was afraid I was the only dummy.
 
Old 10-22-2016, 07:08 AM
 
Location: SW MO
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In general, people who move their lips while reading tend to read more slowly than those who don't. It's called subvocalization (auditory reassurance).

You're welcome!
 
Old 10-22-2016, 08:09 AM
 
Location: Western Colorado
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Made home made cinnamon rolls for breakfast. It's up to 30f now, clear, sun rising in the east.
 
Old 10-22-2016, 08:43 AM
 
Location: ☀️ SWFL ⛱ 🌴
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My Dad died last night at the age of 92. He was in the hospital for six days, he went downhill fast and was in fact cutting the grass three weeks ago. We are probably driving there, it's 15 1/2 hours, flying with connections will take 12 1/2. We can be more flexible with our schedule if we drive and can have problem solving discussions along the way.

Our big problem is Mom, she has dementia, her short term memory is bad and she can't live on her own. The three of us kids will need to decide what to do. Thankfully Dad had all the funeral arrangementments taken care of and paid for, but there are a lot of loose ends elsewhere.

I've been following the LTCi discussions. It wouldn't have done much for Dad, it may have for Mom, that remains to be seen. They didn't have it though, so it's a moot point.

All this drives home that we need to take care of things so our son will have an easier transition than this will probably be for us.

My Dad was part of the silent generation; he was the disciplinarian at home and while I liked my Mom more as a kid, I learned as I grew up that I could always count on Dad while Mom was apt to crumple in a crisis. As I got even older I learned to appreciate each for who they were.

Dad loved being outside and planting things, especially trees, and traveling and seeing things. Always interested in all around him, yet quite private and independent which made it harder on him and those who loved him in his later years. He embraced some technology and has had a computer for years, loving the internet and arm chair traveling vicariously as life changed and physical travel became difficult.

One of my favorite memories is of him patiently putting worm after worm on fishing hooks for my sister and I as we sat with him in a rowboat and we each caught 30 sunnies. We were around 6 and 8 years old at the time. I suspect we kept catching the same fish over and over, but Dad let us go as long as the worms lasted.

I've also learned as I've gotten older, it's those small moments put together that add up to make a good life and memories. We had a lot of good memories that have added up over all these years.

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Old 10-22-2016, 08:51 AM
 
Location: SW MO
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My sincere condolences. Hang onto those good memories. They're priceless. It sounds like both your parents lived good long lives.
 
Old 10-22-2016, 09:12 AM
 
Location: ☀️ SWFL ⛱ 🌴
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My sincere condolences. Hang onto those good memories. They're priceless. It sounds like both your parents lived good long lives.
Thank you. They did have a long and good life.. They retired at age 58 and Dad was quite happy his retirement lasted longer than his working years. Up until 5 years ago, they would hop in the car and drive to the beach in SC or head up to NY to see us. They did several overseas trips, seeing Hawaii and doing a trip to Japan for a Notre Dame football game there years ago. I'm so sorry they never made it down to see us in FL, I know they would have loved it and the warm winter weather. Dad had macular degeneration and was slowly losing his eyesight and my Mom is more comfortable in her own surroundings, she gets agitated with change. Their home was their sanctuary and probably a prison at times too.

I'm glad Dad had a relatively quick end and not a prolonged one. He outlived all his family, his 95 year old sister died this past summer. I know his one regret and worry has been leaving Mom on her own and he did all he could to ensure she will be taken care of this past year. He was a good man.
 
Old 10-22-2016, 11:05 AM
 
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Thank you. They did have a long and good life.. They retired at age 58 and Dad was quite happy his retirement lasted longer than his working years. Up until 5 years ago, they would hop in the car and drive to the beach in SC or head up to NY to see us. They did several overseas trips, seeing Hawaii and doing a trip to Japan for a Notre Dame football game there years ago. I'm so sorry they never made it down to see us in FL, I know they would have loved it and the warm winter weather. Dad had macular degeneration and was slowly losing his eyesight and my Mom is more comfortable in her own surroundings, she gets agitated with change. Their home was their sanctuary and probably a prison at times too.

I'm glad Dad had a relatively quick end and not a prolonged one. He outlived all his family, his 95 year old sister died this past summer. I know his one regret and worry has been leaving Mom on her own and he did all he could to ensure she will be taken care of this past year. He was a good man.
Let me offer my condolences. Sounds like he had a good long life. My mom passed a few months ago - also in her 90s. Amazing. The things they experienced.
 
Old 10-22-2016, 11:18 AM
 
Location: SW MO
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Let me offer my condolences. Sounds like he had a good long life. My mom passed a few months ago - also in her 90s. Amazing. The things they experienced.
This may sound strange but along with condolences I also have to say that you and jean_ji are really lucky to have parents who lived to such venerable ages. My mother and father died at ages 67 ands 71, respectively, just 15 months apart. I was just 44 and 45 when they did. I considered them too young and me too young to have lost them. So many unanswered questions about my young years, family members, father's military career and wars he fought, places we lived, mother's recipes, etc. and no one to ask.
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