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Old 09-17-2011, 09:25 AM
 
Location: Center City
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You're absolutely RIGHT and we thank you for the comment!
Alas - someone who validates your perspective. That's what you were looking for, right?
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Old 09-17-2011, 09:30 AM
 
Location: SW MO
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Alas - someone who validates your perspective. That's what you were looking for, right?
Alas, another one unreasoning! There's no "validation" there, per se, nor condemnation, just reality.
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Old 09-17-2011, 09:41 AM
 
Location: Center City
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Alas, another one unreasoning! There's no "validation" there, per se, nor condemnation, just reality.
Sorry, but just like me, you don't have the corner on reality: just a perspective shaped by your own experiences. I'm sure you've heard this:


Paul Simon: one mans ceiling is another mans floor. There Goes Rhymin Simon - YouTube
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Old 09-17-2011, 10:00 AM
 
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The Op is experince the reality of his reationship form his past avoidaqnce. Basci he has a adult daungther who he want t change after its too late to be listened to.
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Old 09-17-2011, 10:02 AM
 
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Divorce is hard on children and the pain never really goes away. I understand your concerns about your daughter, but she is an adult and you really can't change her. I love my son unconditionally and will do anything to keep the relationship that we have. He does not always do what I think he should do, of course, but I stay out of his business unless he asks me for advice. With that said, I suggest that you write your daughter a letter of apology and ask her to forgive you for anything that you have done that hurt her. The apology is a way of bringing her back into your life in a positive way. Make the letter about you and your feelings for her, not about her and what she is doing or has done. Invite her and your grandson to visit at your expense. Give her a time span that works for you and your wife. Ask her to give you times that work for her if times that you suggest aren't good. When she visits, keep it light and have fun, no personal questions or mention of facebook stuff. As long as she is not using unacceptable language and exhibiting unacceptable behavior in your presence, it is really none of your business to comment to her. You really want to be the bigger person here so you can have a good relationship with your daughter and your grandson. You and your wife seem to be good people. Your grandson needs you in his life. What could be more rewarding than to have a grandson who just loves you, loves you, loves you?
You could always do the letter in a pm on facebook.
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Old 09-17-2011, 10:42 AM
 
Location: SW MO
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Sorry, but just like me, you don't have the corner on reality: just a perspective shaped by your own experiences. I'm sure you've heard this:
No, not just like you, for which I'm quite pleased!
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Old 09-17-2011, 01:32 PM
 
Location: Center City
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No, not just like you, for which I'm quite pleased!
I assumed the retirement forum was for adults. Go figure

If you wanna have a "snark-off" with someone, I'm afraid you'll have to bait your hook for another poster. I'll just let my prior posts speak for themselves.
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Old 09-17-2011, 02:00 PM
 
Location: SW MO
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I assumed the retirement forum was for adults. Go figure

If you wanna have a "snark-off" with someone, I'm afraid you'll have to bait your hook for another poster. I'll just let my prior posts speak for themselves.
And they do so eloquently. Pity!
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Old 09-27-2011, 12:51 PM
 
Location: southern born and southern bred
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I find it absolutely astounding that a father who didn't care enough about his toddler daughter to track her down, and stay in her life, is actually complaining about the fact that she curses and uses slang words?

LoveBoating, you're lucky that your daughter wants you in her life at all - who cares what the terms are? You're lucky! But it sounds like you don't appreciate it at all, and are in fact hell-bent on screwing it up. I wish you luck.

no kidding!!!!!!
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Old 09-27-2011, 12:55 PM
 
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Darn, I must need new glasses.......just can't read what this says and actually DON'T care!!
Go ahead, ask me if I really care what you say in this Thread........ABSOLUTELY NOT!!
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no kidding!!!!!!
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