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Old 11-01-2011, 05:39 PM
 
Location: southern california
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you gota be comfortable with yourself b4 u can be with somebody else. i would say after 20 years of together a woman deserves some space.
but dating older people involves different rules. they are developed people not developing people they need time to themselves to be themselves.

 
Old 11-01-2011, 05:45 PM
 
Location: earth?
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Also, next time you are out and about, take a good look at the prospects in the older group . . . nose hair is not that attractive!
 
Old 11-01-2011, 05:48 PM
 
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Loveboating,

You watch TV. You like to have parties. You like to go to bars and drink, You love to boat. You love to talk about your neighbors. You need a woman to make yourself a man.

Some of us, do not watch TV; do not like parties; do not go to bars or drink; do not boat; do not talk about our neighbors. Some of us do not need a woman to make us a man, or man to make us a woman; and we are concerned not if a woman needs a woman to make themselves a woman, or a man needs a man to make themselves a man.

Some of us have more education and read extensively and enjoy our quiet solitude. Some of us do not need parties with parties like you. Some of us do not go to bars to drink and to hang around other people who go to bars and drink. Some of us do not boat to be around other people who need atavistic and sybaritic pleasures. Some of us do not need a partner to make us a whole person. Some of us respect our neighbors privacy and have more intellect and activities to occupy our time.

Some of us are what we are; and you are what you are. There is no judgment, it is just fact. Being aware of that, there is more reason for some of us to seek to be alone, and away from people like you. Nor would some of us, be suited to you. So, why concern yourself with some of us who want to be alone--that keeps us away from you, and you will be much happier without some of us.

Livecontent

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Old 11-01-2011, 05:59 PM
 
Location: SW MO
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Well, if anything ever happens to my wife I'm gonna trim my nose hair and set off in search for imcurious!

Beyond that, this is my second marriage and my last. I can do quite well by myself and at age 65 have no desire to ever again face the hard work of a beginning relationship.
 
Old 11-01-2011, 06:01 PM
 
Location: Wisconsin
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Loveboating,

You watch TV. You like to have parties. You like to go to bars and drink, You love to boat. You love to talk about your neighbors. You need a woman to make yourself a man.

Some of us, do not watch TV; do not like parties; do not go to bars or drink; do not boat; do not talk about our neighbors. Some of us do not need a woman to make us a man, or man to make us a woman; and we are concerned not if a woman needs a woman to make themselves a woman, or a man needs a man to make themselves a man.

Some of us have more education and read extensively and enjoy our quiet solitude. Some of us do not need parties with parties like you. Some of us do not go to bars to drink and to hang around other people who go to bars and drink. Some of us do not boat to be around other people who need atavistic and sybaritic pleasures. Some of us do not need a partner to make us a whole person. Some of us respect our neighbors privacy and have more intellect and activities to occupy our time.

Some of us are what we are; and you are what you are. There is no judgment, it is just fact. Being aware of that, there is more reason for some of us to seek to be alone, and away from people like you.

Livecontent
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Old 11-01-2011, 06:04 PM
 
Location: Lexington, SC
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It's great that you are so happy with your life. I was simply pointing out that you may have hurt this woman's feelings with your remark . . . Live and let live . . . you don't have to try to convert everyone to your lifestyle. And you are very defensive! Just FYI . . .

I agree.

I also think many call their spouse/partner to read/discuss their response(s) as a way of saying/impressing them that this is how I want you to think I would behave thus simply trying to make the other person happy.

Or when they "probably know" what they will do, but do not want the other to know.

Take you pick....LOL

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Old 11-01-2011, 06:13 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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My wife just called me, on her way home from work and I told her about this thread, the responses I've got so far and how I've responded.......she was laughing while driving! Did I marry right or what?? Only word for that.....YES!!
Why do you keep bragging on the open forum about how your wife appreciates you? To me that bespeaks a deep-seated insecurity on your part. It is a turn-off when people brag about themselves. I note that some posters upthread here are turned off.
 
Old 11-01-2011, 06:14 PM
 
Location: southern california
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sense of time for older folks is different.
they take time to make a change.
 
Old 11-01-2011, 06:23 PM
 
Location: Wisconsin
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Why do you keep bragging on the open forum about how your wife appreciates you? To me that bespeaks a deep-seated insecurity on your part.
 
Old 11-01-2011, 06:27 PM
 
Location: California Mountains
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I looked at her, kiddingly, and said "lady, you need to get a life!". She smiled and said, "I'm thinking about it"
That was an untoward remark, even if it were delivered "kiddingly." The reply, OTOH, was a class act.

My niece has never been married. She spends time with her friends and she spends time with herself. She runs marathon with groups and travels the world alone. She has a great life. She would not spare you a glance had you told her to get a life.

My sister was married for 40+ years. After her husband passed away, she sold the large house she shared with him, divided the money among the kids, kept some for her own nest egg, and then bought a smaller place for herself where she painstakingly decorated everything from the window curtains to the throw pillows to the bath mat. She took a trip oversea alone the first time ever, a year after his death, and found that she was capable to enjoy it tremendously. She started to write two years after that, and so far had two books published (and sold well.) She does not need another man's presence to make her life complete. She would certainly give you a dirty look had you dared to tell her to get a life.

After my divorce, I raised my children on my own, send both to college, worked a full time job while creating a business that brought me some recognition at local and state level. I did not miss having a man around for those many years, then I met and fell in love with my husband. Our marriage has been wonderful, we are very close but we are not clingy and we do not smother each other. In fact, he encouraged me to go after my dream even when it meant he had to be alone for a few years with just long visitations in the interim. If something happens to him tomorrow, I would be devastated for a while, but I would not feel as if my life would end. I know I will stay alone and will find contentment in my life, just as when I am with him or when I was without him in those earlier years. And do not even think about telling me to get a life, "kiddingly" or not. You would not want to hear my reply.
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