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Old 11-01-2011, 08:09 PM
Location: Tucson/Nogales
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One of my favorite sayings: He who does not love solitude, will not love freedom.

Old 11-01-2011, 08:11 PM
Location: earth?
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I'm curious as to why you think we care about what your wife thinks about any of your threads, our responses, etc. It just seems really weird the way you report what she says or what she supposedly thinks.

Do you let her see the responses that do not put you in a favorable light?

I am also curious why you are so fixated on your neighbor (such that you would post two threads on issues related to her).

And now I think I am suffering from a similar malady as you - why do I "care" about the above at all to even bother thinking about you or your wife or neighbor? I do see the irony in it all . . .
Old 11-01-2011, 08:20 PM
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Well, well, well......or as Bernie said in the movie, Weekend At Bernie's, WHATEVER!! Talk about our neighbors......what's so wrong with that? They probably talk about us! Fair is fair!!

We have NO IDEA where you got part of your info about us??? We don't have partys nor do we go to bars........but we do enjoy a couple of Bud Light's or a good margarita sometimes. I don't "need a woman to make myself feel like a man"........she's the BOSS! Have no idea what these two words are, but boat sure is pleasure! "Respect neighbors privacy"......this lady talked to us and told us about part of her life! "No judgement"......just what the He** is most of your reply towards us about??

Originally Posted by livecontent View Post

You watch TV. You like to have parties. You like to go to bars and drink, You love to boat. You love to talk about your neighbors. You need a woman to make yourself a man.

Some of us, do not watch TV; do not like parties; do not go to bars or drink; do not boat; do not talk about our neighbors. Some of us do not need a woman to make us a man, or man to make us a woman; and we are concerned not if a woman needs a woman to make themselves a woman, or a man needs a man to make themselves a man.

Some of us have more education and read extensively and enjoy our quiet solitude. Some of us do not need parties with parties like you. Some of us do not go to bars to drink and to hang around other people who go to bars and drink. Some of us do not boat to be around other people who need atavistic and sybaritic pleasures. Some of us do not need a partner to make us a whole person. Some of us respect our neighbors privacy and have more intellect and activities to occupy our time.

Some of us are what we are; and you are what you are. There is no judgment, it is just fact. Being aware of that, there is more reason for some of us to seek to be alone, and away from people like you. Nor would some of us, be suited to you. So, why concern yourself with some of us who want to be alone--that keeps us away from you, and you will be much happier without some of us.

Old 11-01-2011, 08:22 PM
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"Better to remain silent and thought a fool than to speak out and remove all doubt" (Abraham Lincoln)

Too bad it is too late.
Old 11-01-2011, 08:28 PM
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Why not? She does appreciate me and loves me tremendously as I do her! Not bragging about myself, just have some might good comebacks for what people say to me! Some of the stuff you folks are saying about me and us are literally cracking us up.......darn near rolling on the floor laughing!

Originally Posted by Escort Rider View Post
Why do you keep bragging on the open forum about how your wife appreciates you? To me that bespeaks a deep-seated insecurity on your part. It is a turn-off when people brag about themselves. I note that some posters upthread here are turned off.
Old 11-01-2011, 08:31 PM
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Oh yes I would!

[quote=Ol' Wanderer;21534857]That was an untoward remark, even if it were delivered "kiddingly." The reply, OTOH, was a class act.

My niece has never been married. She spends time with her friends and she spends time with herself. She runs marathon with groups and travels the world alone. She has a great life. She would not spare you a glance had you told her to get a life.

My sister was married for 40+ years. After her husband passed away, she sold the large house she shared with him, divided the money among the kids, kept some for her own nest egg, and then bought a smaller place for herself where she painstakingly decorated everything from the window curtains to the throw pillows to the bath mat. She took a trip oversea alone the first time ever, a year after his death, and found that she was capable to enjoy it tremendously. She started to write two years after that, and so far had two books published (and sold well.) She does not need another man's presence to make her life complete. She would certainly give you a dirty look had you dared to tell her to get a life.

After my divorce, I raised my children on my own, send both to college, worked a full time job while creating a business that brought me some recognition at local and state level. I did not miss having a man around for those many years, then I met and fell in love with my husband. Our marriage has been wonderful, we are very close but we are not clingy and we do not smother each other. In fact, he encouraged me to go after my dream even when it meant he had to be alone for a few years with just long visitations in the interim. If something happens to him tomorrow, I would be devastated for a while, but I would not feel as if my life would end. I know I will stay alone and will find contentment in my life, just as when I am with him or when I was without him in those earlier years. And do not even think about telling me to get a life, "kiddingly" or not. You would not want to hear my reply.[/QUOTE]
Old 11-01-2011, 08:38 PM
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You live in the GREAT state of Wyoming, but you sure have me and us wrong. Again, we are smiling and giggling over what is written below!
By the way, people who are Retired are on permanent vacations......sounds good to me. My wife likes working much more than I ever have, so? However, I will start working shortly........so much for that "permanent vacation!" My wife feels the same way I do about her sister, the husband and my brother and his wife. You make sound like I'm thinking this all myself......nope, she thinks it to and tells me! Sorry to disappoint you!

Originally Posted by Happy in Wyoming View Post

Have you ever heard the term compensating? It means in this case that you are looking for a fault in her to compensate for one in yourself. That supposed fault, however, still allows her to lead an independent life. She supports herself; you cannot or will not. Therefore, you must find something to knock her down, to make her your inferior. Oddly, or perhaps not so oddly, you only do this with women, your sister-in-law being the first who comes to mind. You really hate women. You feel good that your wife will work forever while you stay on your permanent vacation. That's why you constantly brag about it.

This is no great insight on my part; you've exhibited this attitude as long as I can remember. Have you ever wondered (I know you have) what would happen if you ever chanced to see the one whom you really despise and view as having the most inferior lifestyle, yourself?
Old 11-01-2011, 08:41 PM
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Nope, she just understands/loves the way I am/my personality! She is like me, don't really like boring, dry-humored people!

Originally Posted by brava4 View Post
"My wife just called me, on her way home from work and I told her about this thread, the responses I've got so far and how I've responded.......she was laughing while driving! Did I marry right or what?? Only word for that.....YES!!

Oh great, it looks like you've married yourself. [/quote]
Old 11-01-2011, 08:55 PM
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I let her read your reply. Her verbal reply was "This person has got to be kidding me about me meeting someone at work! Why on earth would I want to leave such a loving, caring man who makes me laugh so darn hard so much and loves cooking? Just to let all of you know, my husband may not contribute financially that much, but I sure don't have to worry about doing laundry, running the vaccum, loading/washing/unloading the dishwasher, dusting, making the bed and cooking meals! We have his SS/Retirement, so he does financially help out. Any other ridiculous questions?"
Remember, she said this!

Originally Posted by anifani821 View Post
Loveboating . . . just curious (wh/ I hope you won't mind, since you describe yourself as curious) . . . do you ever worry that your wife will meet someone interesting at work? Or that she is gonna get ticked b/c you are not pulling your weight w/ the finances?

It seems you kind of skirt around those topics in a lot of your posts.
Old 11-01-2011, 08:59 PM
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Please post a picture of yourself and your lovely wife in your profile. I am dying of curiosity!
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