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Old 11-15-2011, 02:42 PM
 
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I was thinking more about your post while I was out working on my leaves..

I want to stay here because I have family & friends & roots here. But if it weren't for that it is much more expensive here than other places. If you are free to go anywhere I would consider that.

If I didn't have roots here I would consider Ga or the NC coast..The mountains may be too cold for me.
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Old 11-16-2011, 04:11 PM
 
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I am a 'single retired lady' aka widow since 03. I agree that you shouldn't move for at least a year after loosing your DH. I did sell my house and moved to another state to be closer to my daughter and grandchildren but there is no way I would live with them.

I have a 1500 sq ft house on 1/2 acre. I paid cash for the house but it is an older home and I have had to put $$$ into it for upkeep including new heat pump. I have no HOA which I like but I am not real friendly with my neighbors either. I do have dogs/cats so for me that leaves out many places.

You don't want a townhome if the bedrooms are upstairs. I have a friend who had no problems when she bought it but now she can hardly get upstairs to go to bed. Many rental and condos apts won't let you have a dog that weighs over 20 lbs.

Good luck.. keep us informed on how it goes
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Old 11-16-2011, 05:52 PM
 
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There may be a time for that, but clearly she is not ready for it and does not want that for herself. Give her a break. She's being independent and many people prefer it that way and are perfectly happy being on their own. My grandfather lived on his own until he was 101; his sister until she was 102. No kids around or nearby and they managed quite well and were happy.
How do you know they are REALLY happy though?
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Old 11-18-2011, 01:57 PM
 
Location: Oxygen Ln. AZ
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We downsized from 4b/3ba, 3car garage and pool/spa to a 2b/2ba, 1 car condo.

Likes: No yard work
no exterior maintance
Everythings new like carpets, appliances
Community pool/spa, BBQ area
Close enough to walk to the beach
Overlooks golf course
Lots of security & gated

Dislikes: Neighbors above us, we can hear them walking
We're so close to the community pool that we can't
keep our windows open as the pump is so loud
Lack of storage w/ 1 car garage
Monthly HOA fees that keep rising. Now in excess of $700 per mo
Limited guest parking

We are thinking about buying a single family home again next year, but one without a pool. Too much maintence and cost.

I hate packing.
My husband and I got married in HI, on Oahu and have always dreamed of living there again. The HOA fees scare us as well as the lack of parking. Maybe a single family shack on the island, if available.
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Old 11-18-2011, 03:48 PM
 
Location: Lexington, SC
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I agree that you shouldn't move for at least a year after loosing your DH.

DH....Designated Hitter, Dear Husband, Dead Head, etc....what?
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Old 11-18-2011, 04:37 PM
 
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DH is dear Husband.. DW is dear wife..

Although I guess some of your DH's might apply for some DHs.
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Old 11-19-2011, 06:24 AM
 
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My son bought my small 2-story house, and I moved across town to a smaller one-level house with a big yard. Perfect for me, as I have a dog who enjoys the yard, and I garden. This is an expensive area, but my kids are nearby. No HOA, good neighbors... but this house is really small, especially compared to newer ones, not for everyone.
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Old 11-19-2011, 08:04 AM
 
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DH is dear Husband.. DW is dear wife..

Although I guess some of your DH's might apply for some DHs.
I used to say DH was Dear Husband unless I was mad at him..
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Old 11-19-2011, 08:07 AM
 
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I agree that you shouldn't move for at least a year after loosing your DH.
I have that part covered.

It will be a year by the time it goes on the market and also we were working to get it on the market before he got sick . It was too much for both of us so its definitely too much for me.
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Old 11-19-2011, 10:02 AM
 
Location: Texas
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Monthly HOA fees that keep rising. Now in excess of $700 per mo

That is outrageous !

And HOA fees are in addition to paying mortgage, insurance and property taxes.

I have never paid an HOA fee and never will.



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