Retiring and Moving out of state, need advice (vacations, states, retired)

[kdmartin]

hello retirees, please tell me how I can move and leave kids and grandkids in another state???
My husband wants to go back to TN but my girls relocated here, in Kansas. was it difficult for you to leave your family,
my daughter does not want me to leave her and 2 grandchildren, and puts me on a guilt trip, I am raising another daughters 9 year old son, should I separate the family by moving now?? Any advice?? We are torn, my grandson doesnt mind going, hes country at heart but hates to leave cousins and aunt

[MotleyCrew]

I think it depends on how close a family you are. Sounds like you are very close. My kids are all spinning off in different directions and have considered moving to other states for their careers. I think for us, we would move to where we would be most happy and catch a plane now and then to go see them. We do not have any grandchildren yet and that may change the picture a little.

[StealthRabbit]

It might be time for two small places, and part time in each. What is the draw of TN?

[MotleyCrew]

I think it depends on how close a family you are. Sounds like you are very close. My kids are all spinning off in different directions and have considered moving to other states for their careers. I think for us, we would move to where we would be most happy and catch a plane now and then to go see them. We do not have any grandchildren yet and that may change the picture a little.

[yellowsnow]

I always thought when you retired, you were done raising kids and living your life for them. Go where you want to go and do what you want to do. It will all work out in the end.

[kansaslady]

Originally Posted by yellowsnow

I always thought when you retired, you were done raising kids and living your life for them. Go where you want to go and do what you want to do. It will all work out in the end.

Couldn't have said it better!

[CosmicWizard]

yellowsnow wrote:

It will all work out in the end.

But will you be happy with the ending?

blessings...Franco

[Tressa]

I will be leaving my grandkids in another year, we are very close but this is something that my husband and I have always dreamed of. I know my kids will miss us and we will miss them but they have a life to lead as well as my husband and I do. Once we are settled we will bring our grandkids down for a week or two and we plan on being in Alaska every couple months so we will stay in touch and then appreciate each other. Like they say even fish stinks after 3 days.

[loveautumn]

if you are close, I wouldn't move away...you will miss your family. Just take lots of great vacations...and it will probably end up cheaper in the long run.

[Heidi60]

Children do not run relationships so the choice is only for you and your husband to decide what is best for you at this stage of life.