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Old 03-07-2012, 10:44 PM
 
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Then I have to wander why you wish you would have followed a different path if you still have no idea.Its like a bad marriage ;at some point you have to come to terms with it and move on.
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Old 03-08-2012, 03:35 AM
 
Location: North Beach, MD on the Chesapeake
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Like they say, everything happens for a reason.

You sound like Mrs. NBP.
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Old 03-08-2012, 01:06 PM
 
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Everything does not happen for a reason, as if predetermined by some guiding force.

That is a ridiculous notion.

That idea is just to placate oneself so one isn't left to worry about wrong decisions or consequences or what 'could have been'.
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Old 03-08-2012, 02:22 PM
 
Location: Yellow Brick Road
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Everything does not happen for a reason, as if predetermined by some guiding force.

That is a ridiculous notion.

That idea is just to placate oneself so one isn't left to worry about wrong decisions or consequences or what 'could have been'.
If you frame that statement in terms of cause--->effect, then yes, everything that happens DOES have a reason for it happening, lol.
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Old 03-08-2012, 02:28 PM
 
Location: New England
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Everything does not happen for a reason, as if predetermined by some guiding force.

That is a ridiculous notion.

That idea is just to placate oneself so one isn't left to worry about wrong decisions or consequences or what 'could have been'.

The reason is only apparent after the event or incident (or accident).
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Old 03-08-2012, 02:38 PM
 
Location: Prospect, KY
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Except in the sense that it teaches us to modify our behavior in some cases, I think regret is a useless pursuit. Count your blessings and successes, learn from your mistakes and move on.
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Old 03-09-2012, 05:07 PM
Status: "Bu Dop 1967" (set 7 days ago)
 
Location: On a hill near a river
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Except in the sense that it teaches us to modify our behavior in some cases, I think regret is a useless pursuit. Count your blessings and successes, learn from your mistakes and move on.
Easy to say, hard to do. Kudos to those who can.
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Old 03-09-2012, 05:23 PM
 
Location: Orlando, Fl
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Wish I had married my wife 10 years earlier, BUT then I would have been put in jail 38 years ago. Think 13 would have been to young.
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Old 03-09-2012, 05:28 PM
 
Location: Lexington, SC
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Saying it is Karma or predestined is BS.

Do nothing and you can expect to get what you gave in return. Nothng.

Get out and make things happen. Who knows what may happen.
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Old 03-09-2012, 05:40 PM
 
Location: Next stop Antarctica
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Not making the most of an education
Not having more children (had two but lost one)
Moving to another country
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