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Old 03-25-2012, 01:55 PM
 
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When mom was in a nursing home in the 70's, they really did not do much for her. She had three meals with service assistance, they got her out of bed and into a chair and down to the day room, occasionally a walk down the hall outside the day room, personal hygiene, made her turn her over frequently if she stayed in bed, timed her medications. Still, the totality of that is only a couple of hours of actual contact each day. Most all of assisted nursing care is a patient by themselves, alone.

How has that pattern changed over 40 years?

Is this what we have to look forward to if we are lucky enough to live long enough to need that care?

Is a SNF still pretty much what is was then?
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Old 03-25-2012, 02:15 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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Is this what we have to look forward to if we are lucky enough to live long enough to need that care?
Lucky enough? I would say unlucky enough. I hope I die before needing such care. As Tennyson wrote in "Ulysses", "As though to breathe were life..."
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Old 03-25-2012, 02:32 PM
 
Location: SW MO
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Or as Shakespeare wrote in Hamlet, "Must give us pause - there's the respect that makes calamity of so long life."
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Old 03-25-2012, 03:48 PM
 
Location: Oxygen Ln. AZ
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My mom was in a skilled nursing facility for a respit stay recently and came back home with the flu and it has been a challenge to get her breathing again. Around the clock breathing treatments and I check her every few min during the day if I don't just sit in there with her. The nursing facility rarely came in to check on her, no bath and her breathing kit was filthy when I picked it up. Some are better than others, but I do know when she was in skilled nursing a few years back, I sat in her room for 4 hours and never saw a nurse.
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Old 03-27-2012, 02:55 PM
 
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There are different levels of care, like "skilled" or not. I did think most places had some kind of recreational program, exercise groups, etc.
My dementia in-patient job often gets people who are flunking out of nursing homes from their dementia and they can be in pretty tough shape from bedsores and so on. It really helps to have an advocate, a person who shows up and is visibly interested in the resident. I don't mean to say that all of these facilities fail to treat people properly, but it's always possible.
I have my own plans for if I were to need such placement, but then, there's already been a discussion about self-deliverance (suicide for such reasons).
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Old 03-27-2012, 04:31 PM
 
Location: Near a river
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Seems like the best plan, other than checking out in time, is finding a partner or spouse much younger and/or in fabulous health...someone completely devoted, of course...

(in other words, I think most of us would never survive mentally or physically in some of these places)
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Old 03-28-2012, 06:38 PM
 
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Be like a Native American, that's my plan.

Off into the woods, never seen again.
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Old 03-28-2012, 07:48 PM
 
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It all depends on one thing like always money or the lack of it. if you are paying and have enough there are some great facities avialable. Most nursing homes rely mostly on a majority of medicaid patients.
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Old 03-28-2012, 08:37 PM
 
Location: San Diego CA
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I found a Residential Care Home for my Mom, she has Dementia, and was diagnosed with Alzheimer's at age 65. She is 69 now, and late stage.

She has been in 3 SNF's for different ailments (broken hip, UTI's, Scabies she got from one SNF...

She pays out of pocket, but it is affordable for her, and the care she gets there is great.
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