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Old 04-19-2012, 04:13 PM
 
Location: Central US
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I retired at 54 and sometimes talking to other people still working past that or way past that age I feel at leat uncomfortable talking about it. Especially about what I do or don't do all day.

Any comments or experiences?
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Old 04-19-2012, 04:23 PM
 
Location: Jollyville, TX
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My husband retired 3 years ago at age 57. I'm still working. It was a joint decision based on his health and my ability to support us. People always ask him "what do you do all day?" Will they still ask that question when he's 65? He says it gets on his nerves quite a bit - why should he have to justify it?

The other thing you run into is a bit of resentment from those who can't retire yet, especially with the poor stock market performance over the last 10 years. It's not just that someone did well enough to retire, it's a combination of that and the fact that lots of us are postponing planned retirement due to the poor performance of our portfolios. Misery loves company! It's hard for me not to feel a bit of resentment myself, but as I said, it was a decision made jointly.

I don't think there's much you can do other than maybe deflect the conversation away from yourself or make a joke about it. Just don't take it too seriously.
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Old 04-19-2012, 04:44 PM
 
Location: Northern panhandle WV
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Well, what DO you do all day?
Personally I am on the computer at home all day, every day. I don't do much else. Now I did raise five children but the youngest was out about 13 years ago. I never really worked at a job, other than odd one here and there, I am disabled as well so that does kind of limit me, but I have always been either on computer or before computers it was at library studying up on whatever was my current interest and there have been alot of them.
I don't really have the what do you do all day problem since I don't really know or have occasion to meet any people. Only on very rare occasions and then they seldom ask me.
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Old 04-19-2012, 05:01 PM
 
Location: SW MO
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My husband retired 3 years ago at age 57. I'm still working. It was a joint decision based on his health and my ability to support us. People always ask him "what do you do all day?" Will they still ask that question when he's 65? He says it gets on his nerves quite a bit - why should he have to justify it?
My wife retired at age 54. I retired at age 62. No guilt in our house. Resentment belongs to whoever has it.

And Moonlady, people still ask that question at age 65 and beyond. Tell your husband to just smile and reply, "Whatever I want to, whenever I want to, or not!"
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Old 04-19-2012, 05:22 PM
 
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No. I retired when I was 47.
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Old 04-19-2012, 06:46 PM
 
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retired at 54 - I did feel resentment from husband. When asked what do you do all day, replied "walk the dogs". Went to a low paying, non-thinking part time job. This was good - gave me "structure", shut husband up, got extra $$, and still time to walk dogs.
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Old 04-19-2012, 06:47 PM
 
Location: AL for now
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Smile Not for a minute!

I started working at 16 and quit at 48. People say I'm too young to be retired. I tell them with a smile that you're never too young to retire! I am grateful that my time is my own, while I'm young and healthy enough to enjoy it. I feel absolutely NO guilt... I put up with a lot of **** while I was working, and I deserve some happy times now.
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Old 04-19-2012, 07:02 PM
 
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Retired at 52 ans feel no guilt at all.I actaully held at least a partime job from whenh I was 10( remmeber paper route ) until I retired including college. I see the guy that got my job and I am sure he loved that I was able to.
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Old 04-19-2012, 07:04 PM
 
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I retired at 54 and sometimes talking to other people still working past that or way past that age I feel at leat uncomfortable talking about it. Especially about what I do or don't do all day.

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If you were able to pull it off more power to you. If I could retire now (even younger than 54) I would.
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Old 04-19-2012, 07:31 PM
 
Location: Sierra Vista, AZ
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I retired at 54 and sometimes talking to other people still working past that or way past that age I feel at leat uncomfortable talking about it. Especially about what I do or don't do all day.

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NO, I moved over to allow some young guy with a family the chance to move up. Now I don't have to feel they are waiting for me to die.
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