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Old 06-19-2012, 05:12 PM
 
Location: Austin
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We have quit our jobs, are moving 3000 miles from our longtime home and are changing everything about our life. We are so scared when we thought retirement would be a wonderful time in our lives.

I would appreciate so much some perspective, please. Is what we are feeling normal?
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Old 06-19-2012, 05:16 PM
 
Location: Near a river
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We have quit our jobs, are moving 3000 miles from our longtime home and are changing everything about our life. We are so scared when we thought retirement would be a wonderful time in our lives.

I would appreciate so much so some perspective, please.
My perspective, though I'm not doing what you're doing, is that we go around once. There is no such thing as a mistake. You make your choice and go with it and be brave. That means, standing up for your decision even though you may have doubts. Fortunately, you are together as a couple, and two heads are always better than one! Stick close together, share your thoughts and ideas, and it should be pretty cool. You may be in shock with the sudden retirement, so be aware that some of your feelings come from that. I love the phrase "and are changing everything about our life."
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Old 06-19-2012, 05:17 PM
 
Location: SW MO
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We have quit our jobs, are moving 3000 miles from our longtime home and are changing everything about our life. We are so scared when we thought retirement would be a wonderful time in our lives.

I would appreciate so much some perspective, please. Is what we are feeling normal?
Dunno! Certainly not how we felt. Couldn't wait to retire and move, although only 2,000 miles. Haven't had a moment of regret yet and it's been 3-4 years. A whole bunch changed for us as well and that's what's made it an adventure and a very pleasasnt one indeed. Relax and enjoy the experience.
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Old 06-19-2012, 05:25 PM
 
Location: Austin
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Thank you for kind words, newenglandgirl. I sincerely appreciate them.

So glad you made an easy transition, Curmudgeon.
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Old 06-19-2012, 05:28 PM
 
Location: Wayward Pines,ID
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Welcome to the club. We quit, moved 1300 miles, did not know a soul, changed everything. The mental hump (being scared etc.) though we had already gone over before putting it in motion. The rest was following the plan. At one point we had 3 places, old house-new house-apartment and that was quite the hair raiser. When the dust settled I remember just walking the dog one day and realizing this was actually happening and it was a great feeling. Did not take long to realize it was a good move.
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Old 06-19-2012, 05:42 PM
 
Location: SW MO
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So glad you made an easy transition, Curmudgeon.
You can too. Just believe it and make it happen. Getting there is half the fun.
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Old 06-19-2012, 05:50 PM
 
Location: Virginia
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Moving to a new part of the country is a major change. Leaving a job is a major change. Depending on savings rather than a paycheck is a major change. Spending more time with a spouse is a major change. That's a lot of major changes you have going on--it makes sense to me that it might feel a bit scary.

Plus, the media doesn't help by printing all these scare stories about how hard it is to retire. I tell ya, I'm getting increasingly annoyed by the overly dramatic way reporters write stories these days. Back when I was a reporter I was taught that was very bad journalism but I guess times have changed and they've gotta do that to sell papers now. I hate it, though. Overly dramatic writing is not helpful or healthy, IMO.

Back to the OP's post.... it's all new, and that's part of why it's scary, too. I bet once a little time has passed the fear will subside.

ps. If you happen to be the perfectionist type, I think if you can let go of the desire to have a perfect retirement, it helps a lot.
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Old 06-19-2012, 06:27 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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If you happen to be the perfectionist type, I think if you can let go of the desire to have a perfect retirement, it helps a lot.
I agree with that. Whenever we set ourselves up to believe some future event or future time period is going to be pure bliss - like heaven on earth - we are setting ourselves up for some disappointment. Life always has some problems to solve, some difficulties, some things that do not go entirely our way. Advertisements about retirement implant the false idea of pure bliss: professional models sporting perfect, silver hair shot by professional photographers are the very picture of total contentment, just radiant as they hug each other or hold hands on the beautiful veranda of some beautiful perfect home in an idyllic, sun-drenched setting.
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Old 06-19-2012, 06:56 PM
 
Location: The South
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If this move don't work, do it again. The second time is less scary, I know.
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Old 06-19-2012, 07:34 PM
 
Location: Austin
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Moving to a new part of the country is a major change. Leaving a job is a major change. Depending on savings rather than a paycheck is a major change. Spending more time with a spouse is a major change. That's a lot of major changes you have going on--it makes sense to me that it might feel a bit scary.
A bit scary? LOL.

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