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Old 09-05-2011, 09:07 PM
 
Location: Edina, MN, USA
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Umbria, thank you for the welcome. You are all very warm people.

Dancingearth, thank you also! I agree that the PNW is truly beautiful; I so miss all the evergreens. I could handle the cold and rain more than this humidity in TN. I do have a sister in Montesano that is considering moving near her daughter in Kamiah, ID (very small town), but they are financially not in a position to make a move; they also have health issues.

SCBaker, thank you for your welcome as well. I agree that there is a lot of support on this forum. I think I am looking to connect with people that share many of my same thoughts about the future. And I think I just need a little moral support as I go through this trying and uncertain time with my husband. Our motto is "one day at a time," but I am always thinking about the future.
Glad you found this thread - I'm sure we all will do our best to provide you with the moral support you need. You definitely are going through a rough time. Chin up~~~

 
Old 09-05-2011, 11:30 PM
 
Location: zippidy doo dah
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adding my greetings to the representative from TN (knoxgarden has been quiet so long)! i don't think you can ever write too much here (hope not at least!) - we all have so many thoughts - dreams- and we meander/change course/ruminate on occasion and it's all in a very safe environment. it feels like our own little community and you can never overstay your welcome
 
Old 09-06-2011, 04:50 AM
 
Location: Olympia, WA
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adding my greetings to the representative from TN (knoxgarden has been quiet so long)! i don't think you can ever write too much here (hope not at least!) - we all have so many thoughts - dreams- and we meander/change course/ruminate on occasion and it's all in a very safe environment. it feels like our own little community and you can never overstay your welcome
Thank you mzfroggez! I noticed that any topic is acceptable and the support and friendship is always there....exactly what I need right now!!

After having many, many days of temps in the 90's, we finally got some much needed rain thanks to TS Lee. Our high today is supposed to be in the 60's....hey, my kind of weather!

I hope to add a little perspective from my life's experiences and travels...I have been really fortunate to have seen as much of the USA as I have...so I'll chime in when I feel I can add something. Otherwise, I am all caught up on my posts of this wonderful thread.

I have had the last 5 days off, back to work. Gee, it was nice to "pretend" that I was retired!
 
Old 09-07-2011, 03:21 PM
 
Location: Near a river
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An update on my new location--

Three months after the move things are looking up. The summer was a drag (I hate summer, so boring and I hate hot weather even if it's sunny). Now I can feel fall in the air. It's actually been raining nonstop, fine with me as the air is cool and clean. I'm so looking forward to the beautiful New England days of Sept and Oct and Nov, one of the reasons I stay here. My property taxes are higher here but I'm driving at least half as much if not less, and it's so great to have everything I need here in town. The college bus has started up and it's free, runs between towns.I'll try it out this month. Lots still to do on the house but I can see the light at the end of the tunnel. I highly recommend a town that is sizeable to have everything in it you need, with close access to other towns, and one that is culturally vibrant all year long esp in winter months. I will look forward to going to free events at the college and other places. Also may look into volunteering--haven't done that in years...and...tentatively, very tentatively, actually thinking of trying out a church in town (haven'd done that since age 20). I just hope it's not too clicky....(cliquey??)
 
Old 09-07-2011, 05:13 PM
 
Location: Olympia, WA
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newengland girl, it sounds like you are settling in quite nicely. Just take one day at a time. I am excited for you that you have places to go and things to see. I like your idea of volunteering. I too would like to do that when I can really retire. One idea that I have seen done, and would dearly love to do, is have a therapy dog (I have a dachshund now, Scooter, that would make a wonderful therapy dog), and go to schools and make him a reading therapy dog, where he lies down beside a young reader and listens to them practice reading. What a wonderful idea! I would also like to get back to a church; you can always check them out and see how they are. Sounds like you have many new adventures ahead! Good for you!!
 
Old 09-07-2011, 05:22 PM
 
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newengland girl, it sounds like you are settling in quite nicely. Just take one day at a time. I am excited for you that you have places to go and things to see. I like your idea of volunteering. I too would like to do that when I can really retire. One idea that I have seen done, and would dearly love to do, is have a therapy dog (I have a dachshund now, Scooter, that would make a wonderful therapy dog), and go to schools and make him a reading therapy dog, where he lies down beside a young reader and listens to them practice reading. What a wonderful idea! I would also like to get back to a church; you can always check them out and see how they are. Sounds like you have many new adventures ahead! Good for you!!
Volunteering is an excellent way to meet people. We use many volunteers where I work. I have two dachshunds also! They are the best!
 
Old 09-07-2011, 05:57 PM
 
Location: Near a river
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newengland girl, it sounds like you are settling in quite nicely. Just take one day at a time. I am excited for you that you have places to go and things to see. I like your idea of volunteering. I too would like to do that when I can really retire. One idea that I have seen done, and would dearly love to do, is have a therapy dog (I have a dachshund now, Scooter, that would make a wonderful therapy dog), and go to schools and make him a reading therapy dog, where he lies down beside a young reader and listens to them practice reading. What a wonderful idea! I would also like to get back to a church; you can always check them out and see how they are. Sounds like you have many new adventures ahead! Good for you!!
I love the idea of the therapy dog. I have a sweet dog who is quite spastic and aloof like a cat, so she wouldn't qualify for this. It's got to be a pretty centered, special dog to act in this role. As for church, I plan to go in quietly and sit in the back and just take it all in. I have always loved the ambience of the interiors of churches, and the visual ritual. What got me away was the overbearing dogma plus I'm on the shy side and hate parading (no offense meant, but that's what it feels like) up to communion. There are volunteer opp's there, including working for a food pantry and such. Plus I like the idea of being with others in some kind of faith. If I can get over my wariness I hope it "takes."
 
Old 09-07-2011, 08:00 PM
 
Location: Olympia, WA
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popcorn247, we have had 2 dachshunds that both died at age 5. We swore we would not have another red male dachshund after Rudy died 4 years ago, but Scooter came into our life quite by accident (not really, we believe in divine intervention) and is a love. And yes, a red male! I will always have a dachshund in my life, at least that is the plan. They are loving and devoted dogs. We also have a MinPin named Maggie, she came with the house we bought. She is a sweet girl too. We are fortunate to have our little people with fur!
 
Old 09-07-2011, 08:10 PM
 
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Thanks for the update NEG. Glad you are enjoying where you moved. Good luck with the church. I've tried Unitarian and Unity and liked them because they are accepting of all beliefs--usually no dogma and often involved in volunteering in the community. If I had more time I'd go again.
 
Old 09-08-2011, 07:34 AM
 
Location: Scotland(Robert Burns Country)
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Well, after many months of reading this great thread, I thought I would finally post some of my story. Will try not to make it too long. But first let me say that I have thoroughly enjoyed reading the comments and stories left here, you all sound like a great bunch of people that I can really relate to.

I am 62, married, and live in a small town (about 13,000) about 90 miles SE of Nashville. I work part-time and hope to retire some day soon. My husband is a retired truck driver. After 30 years of smoking, he has severe emphysema and COPD, with 10% lung function. He stays in the bed most of the day where he seems to be able to breathe easier. Needless to say, it is a very stressful situation. I am gone from home about 6 hours each day to work. I work so that I may have health insurance. He depends on me for so many things. It is so hard to see him like this as he is a tall, rugged man that has been suffering like this for years. I know one day he will probably pass on and I have plenty of time to think about my future, assuming he goes before me.

I was born and raised in So. CA, have lived in Grand Junction, CO, Olympia, WA, Prescott, AZ and now here in TN. I was with him on the truck the last 4 years before he retired (in 2000), so I have been fortunate enough to travel all over this country. We were living in Prescott (mile high altitude) when his breathing problems developed and thought the altitude was not helping much. He is originally from MS, and in all our travels, considering cost of living, weather, and beauty.....we decided on middle TN. Since we have been here though (moved here 5 years ago), we find the humidity plays havoc with his breathing, too. Go figure! But here we are and this is home....for now. There is no way he would consider a move with his health condition.

Middle TN is beautiful, the cost of housing is low (compared to other parts of the country), we are in the nursery capital of the world, so hardwood trees abound. Our original plans when we moved here was to FISH. The first year we were here we bought a boat and fished almost everyday. We had a camper and our intentions were to explore TN. After a year, his breathing problems had become so bad that we sold the camper and parked the boat. I went back to work so I could have health insurance, and here we are 5 years later.

I have left a lot of details out along the way (gee, hope I'm not writing too much on my first post!), but just wanted to give you a background of me! The thing I have in common with most of you, I assume, is that one day I am facing retirement and where I want to live. I am pretty sure that I don't want to stay here. I read back somewhere where a lady wanted to make all the decisions in her life for the first time. I can so relate. I have a daughter in WA, a son in CO, but neither of those places interest me (for personal reasons). I have no family here and just a few friends. The humidity here makes me want to leave. The summers are unbearable. We have a beautiful deck with 2 swings, and it is often too hot to sit out there. The mosquitos eat me alive if I try to sit out there in the evening. So that is a consideration too.

One thing that I DO know, from reading here, is that I want to downsize. I can picture myself in a cottage-type house or in a mobile home. I would like to live in a small town, but realize that important things are a good hospital and transportation system. I love to read and don't need to get out much, but I do like to go out and eat once in a while, something my husband is unable to do, and so we haven't for years. I really miss that.

I love to travel, and would love to do that in the future. So we'll see.

Well, I hope to jump in here and add a few posts now and then and continue to read and be a part of this great forum.
A warm welcome to this forum--I am so glad like you that I found this forum now like Meg Ryan's character in Youve Got Mail I eagerly scan my email box each day for updates from the women on this thread . You are in a tough place right now but there is so much support in this forum and I never cease to be amazed and heartened by their stories.
PS I love the weather of the PNW too--Probably because of the Celt in me) why oh why cant my daughter live somewhere like that instead of the Central Valley of Ca lol
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