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Old 04-14-2011, 10:57 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles, but looking for my niche in ME, or OR
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It's also nice to be insightful and incisive (thus shedding light on something) even if it doesn't end up being flattering.
No flatter we are after. Just some good manners. Being behind the anonymity of a screen name does not enshrouds who we really are. But indeed it exacerbates it, so one should be a tad more careful with this given freedom.
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Old 04-15-2011, 07:34 AM
 
Location: mid-west
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It sounds like you both have a very healthy marriage and enjoy each others' company. What a blessing! If you don't mind me asking... What is a "woman's float trip"? You both seem like the kind of people I would like to hang out with Moving to a small city will be a challenge though.
We live in Missouri and there are many small rivers and streams in the Ozarks where you can canoe or "float" down the river. On a summer weekend it can look like 6 flags. My husband and I used to do a lot of whitewater kayaking and a group of the women boaters float on a stream once a year, hence, the name "women's float".
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Old 04-16-2011, 11:49 AM
 
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Making Friends at Church

We have been attending a main line protestant church and sunday school for over a year. We are not religious, but we respect otherss' beliefs and are quiet about anything we don't agree with. However, it IS hard trying to make friends at church if you don't really believe what they do. Sometimes the members make remarks that we find offensive (very political or racist). We all go out to lunch after church and there are various group activities in which we participate. About 6 weeks ago for various reasons we stopped going. Only one of the group of "friends" we had made there inquired after us to see if we were sick or something. We realize now that the "good friends" we thought we'd made are only acquaintances. We'll probably keep trying, but feel like this is maybe a dead end. I think a church is not really the way to go unless you actually do agree with their beliefs. (We've tried other churches but this is the first one where there was actually any social interaction.)
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Old 04-16-2011, 11:51 AM
 
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Were not "inseparable".......we simply love doing most things (99%) together! At one job my wife use to have, the Accounting Manager (who was married, but in a rocky marriage) asked her if she wanted to go to Happy Hour with some co-workers on a Friday after work. She knew that he wasn't the least interested in her, but did tell him that she wanted to call me and have me meet her at the restaurant........he said "no, this is just for the Department". She told him "sorry, I don't go anywhere to drink without my husband!". He never asked her again, which was fine with both of us.
What I'm still trying to understand is: why is it NOT ok for people not to want to associate with smoker......that is the implication I'm getting from your statement below. My wife has some ASTHMA and doesn't like being around cigarette smoke and that's fine with me. So, exactly what part of "asthma problem/breathing doesn't get along with cigarette smoking" do people not understand!!?? As far as the word "tolerance" goes, we shouldn't have to tolerate anything we don't want to!!
Many people are allergic to smoke or like the OP's wife, have asthma or another condition. Personally, I don't like the smell, especially the smell on the smoker's clothes. Plus, it's bad for the non-smoker's health. Why would anyone who doesn't smoke want to be around them. I agree with the OP.
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Old 04-16-2011, 04:01 PM
 
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We are religious, just not "overbearing" with it, like my brother wife's.......can hardly discuss a thing with her without religion coming into the conversation. We say a prayer before dinner every night and since my wife loves writing, she is in the process of writing a series of Prayer Books to sell. Unfortunately, the older couples we met at church (Bible Study), simply don't have the same interests we do.......as I've already stated in another posting. And, forget about any drinking of alcohol, not them! They are very nice folks, but just don't do the things we like.
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Old 04-20-2011, 04:04 AM
 
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Join the local darts or bowling league and you'll meet several hundred people in no time.
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Old 04-20-2011, 01:40 PM
 
Location: Bar Harbor, ME
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Making Friends at Church

We have been attending a main line protestant church and sunday school for over a year. We are not religious, but we respect otherss' beliefs and are quiet about anything we don't agree with. However, it IS hard trying to make friends at church if you don't really believe what they do. Sometimes the members make remarks that we find offensive (very political or racist). We all go out to lunch after church and there are various group activities in which we participate. About 6 weeks ago for various reasons we stopped going. Only one of the group of "friends" we had made there inquired after us to see if we were sick or something. We realize now that the "good friends" we thought we'd made are only acquaintances. We'll probably keep trying, but feel like this is maybe a dead end. I think a church is not really the way to go unless you actually do agree with their beliefs. (We've tried other churches but this is the first one where there was actually any social interaction.)
See if there are any Quakers in your neck of the woods. You may find more acceptance there. Actually I checked. There is a Meeting in Jacksonville. Called Quakers, or Friends, or Religious Society of Friends. It was the first thing we checked before buying our retirement house near Acadia National Park.
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Old 04-21-2011, 06:18 PM
 
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Sorry, but they don't want to hang out with you. You fall into one of their many verboten categories: you're single, thereby disqualifying you as friend material for them.
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This IS the internet, it doesn't hurt being pleasant to people. Something you could perhaps use a little of. And had you read it closely, I was not answering directly to the OP, but to someone else.
You do realize that I wasn't being critical of you in the above post, don't you?

BTW, what in my post above deserved admonition? I merely stated a fact from the point of view of the OP (even though I misidentified to whom you were responding). The OP stated that they don't want to be friends with single people. How exactly am I being unpleasant by reposting that declaration.
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Old 04-21-2011, 10:50 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles, but looking for my niche in ME, or OR
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You do realize that I wasn't being critical of you in the above post, don't you?

BTW, what in my post above deserved admonition? I merely stated a fact from the point of view of the OP (even though I misidentified to whom you were responding). The OP stated that they don't want to be friends with single people. How exactly am I being unpleasant by reposting that declaration.
I do realize that MadMan... But I thought you were being a little too sarcastic in pointing out the long list of likes and dislikes of the OP - which btw I too found it obnoxious, but held my tongue, and decided to answer to someone else.
Off we go, moving on...
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Old 04-21-2011, 11:13 PM
 
Location: We_tside PNW (Columbia Gorge) / CO / SA TX / Thailand
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Making Friends at Church

....(We've tried other churches but this is the first one where there was actually any social interaction.)
Try another place and go to "non-regular" service. (I prefer an evening meeting, potlucks, or a small group study). I have never gained a deep relationship from the 'normal' service. Too many people, too little interaction time. I have come up with a bunch of excuses why I don't come to the 'normal' service times, Besides, they shouldn't need you to agree with them on everything. (as IF they know the TRUTH... unlikely, certainly they are not for CERTAIN )

There are certain denominations that I don't feel comfortable with, so I avoid. I get along quite well in Berean, Brethren, ECC, and E-Free. (and a vest majority of 'community', as long as they are NOT just 're-branded' B_p_i_t... (I won't go there, and have been known to leave in the middle if I find out they are B_p_i_t 'in-disguise' )
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