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Old 04-22-2011, 07:53 AM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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Try another place and go to "non-regular" service. (I prefer an evening meeting, potlucks, or a small group study). I have never gained a deep relationship from the 'normal' service. Too many people, too little interaction time. I have come up with a bunch of excuses why I don't come to the 'normal' service times, Besides, they shouldn't need you to agree with them on everything. (as IF they know the TRUTH... unlikely, certainly they are not for CERTAIN )

There are certain denominations that I don't feel comfortable with, so I avoid. I get along quite well in Berean, Brethren, ECC, and E-Free. (and a vest majority of 'community', as long as they are NOT just 're-branded' B_p_i_t... (I won't go there, and have been known to leave in the middle if I find out they are B_p_i_t 'in-disguise' )
Why do you speak in riddles? I would like to understand your post, so please explain what B_p_i_t is. Ditto for ECC and E-free. Thanks.
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Old 04-22-2011, 08:42 AM
 
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Making Friends at Church

We have been attending a main line protestant church and sunday school for over a year. We are not religious, but we respect otherss' beliefs and are quiet about anything we don't agree with. However, it IS hard trying to make friends at church if you don't really believe what they do. Sometimes the members make remarks that we find offensive (very political or racist). We all go out to lunch after church and there are various group activities in which we participate. About 6 weeks ago for various reasons we stopped going. Only one of the group of "friends" we had made there inquired after us to see if we were sick or something. We realize now that the "good friends" we thought we'd made are only acquaintances. We'll probably keep trying, but feel like this is maybe a dead end. I think a church is not really the way to go unless you actually do agree with their beliefs. (We've tried other churches but this is the first one where there was actually any social interaction.)
In my experience, friendships made within the church are not really friends as you stated. It is a organization in which socialization is common due to the weekly/or whatever times you are together.

I belonged to a church for 35 years and when I needed support or understanding at the very least, they turned their backs on me. Through the years I spent numerous hours every week volunteering. That was the end of organized religion for me. The church family? BS.
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Old 04-22-2011, 10:01 AM
 
Location: Ponte Vedra Beach FL
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Why do you speak in riddles? I would like to understand your post, so please explain what B_p_i_t is. Ditto for ECC and E-free. Thanks.
The first is Baptist. ECC = Evangelical Covenant Church. I assume E-free means no Evangelicals. Robyn
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Old 04-22-2011, 12:29 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles, but looking for my niche in ME, or OR
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My two cents here:
Unless you've been a church goer all your life, starting to attend whatever services later in life just to make friends, it will be a chore - to put it delicately!
For me, hanging out at cafes, clubs, saying good morning to your neighbors, throwing a dinner party or two (my favorite), getting a really cute dog to walks around the neighborhood, will provide a better chance of meeting people. But most important of all, one has to make absolutely sure that the new surroundings match very closely with one self's standings in life.
IE.: The political and religious views of the populace, the socioeconomics of the chosen locale etc.. This is specially important if one chooses to move to a small city.
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Old 04-23-2011, 03:28 PM
 
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My two cents here:
Unless you've been a church goer all your life, starting to attend whatever services later in life just to make friends, it will be a chore - to put it delicately!
For me, hanging out at cafes, clubs, saying good morning to your neighbors, throwing a dinner party or two (my favorite), getting a really cute dog to walks around the neighborhood, will provide a better chance of meeting people. But most important of all, one has to make absolutely sure that the new surroundings match very closely with one self's standings in life.
IE.: The political and religious views of the populace, the socioeconomics of the chosen locale etc.. This is specially important if one chooses to move to a small city.
Excellent Advice!!!
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Old 04-23-2011, 03:37 PM
 
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But most important of all, one has to make absolutely sure that the new surroundings match very closely with one self's standings in life.
IE.: The political and religious views of the populace, the socioeconomics of the chosen locale etc.. This is specially important if one chooses to move to a small city.
I can see where this very important also in a 55+ Community.
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Old 04-23-2011, 06:07 PM
 
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I find it actually impossible to find new friends in my older age. I am 60 years old, listen to heavy metal music, smoke cigars and like to drink a bit and dance alot. I'm a single female, love to discuss "deep" subjects and to make matters worse, I am an atheist vegetarian with a sarcastic sense of humor (police dept retired). Just for a hoot, I did a profile on Eharmony, and now, five years later, I haven't had ONE inquiry. The entire thing is actually pretty funny but I sure do miss going out and dancing and being outrageous.
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Old 04-23-2011, 09:56 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles, but looking for my niche in ME, or OR
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I find it actually impossible to find new friends in my older age. I am 60 years old, listen to heavy metal music, smoke cigars and like to drink a bit and dance alot. I'm a single female, love to discuss "deep" subjects and to make matters worse, I am an atheist vegetarian with a sarcastic sense of humor (police dept retired). Just for a hoot, I did a profile on Eharmony, and now, five years later, I haven't had ONE inquiry. The entire thing is actually pretty funny but I sure do miss going out and dancing and being outrageous.
Wow, you sound like my type of girl!!!!
That could be perhaps because of the community where you live. You sound more like a big city kind of person. However some of those small cities could really use somebody with your disposition to kick it up a notch ...
If you don't mind me asking...What's up with your name?
Take care and keep on dancing!
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Old 04-24-2011, 09:37 AM
 
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"Living Dead Girl" is one of my favorite Rob Zombie songs. Love the entire "goth" thing, particularly the clothing: very romantic, erotic, Victorian.
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Old 04-24-2011, 09:51 AM
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Location: Cody, WY
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This is OUR music. Let youth hate us. Let them listen to their noise that more often than not sounds like a canary eating rancid bird seed.


YouTube - When You And I Were Young Maggie - John McCoramck

Here's another great one from a great lady.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bIIZ0y1wV9Q

Another rendition from Virginia Bruce. I've been trying to find this movie. It's worth it for Adolph Menjou, that dandy of all dandies. The sound is excellent on this one.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XAo0oy-Q_iE

Don't think the good old days existed? They sure did. Would that 1933 never happened!

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