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Old 09-11-2012, 07:06 AM
 
Location: Virginia
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For those of you who have already retired--how did you tell friends and acquaintances? I always thought this was "not a big deal" but also not something to keep secret. I thought it was something to tell people as it came up but some people have suggested this could rub people the wrong way and it might be smarter to make a group announcement of some sort. Not quite sure how to do that or if I like the idea--wouldn't that come across as bragging? Also, was resentment a problem?
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Old 09-11-2012, 07:09 AM
 
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Why would you keep it a secret, retirement is a wonderful achievement and any real friend would be happy for you because you have reached this milestone. If they have any resentment toward you it is their problem and certainly not yours and I personally would no longer consider them a real friend if they take that sort of attitude.
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Old 09-11-2012, 07:12 AM
 
Location: in the miseries
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Just told people as we saw them. Or they asked how come you are around so much? Don't get any resentment because our friends know how hard we worked. Pretty much everyone is happy for us and can't wait to retire, too.
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Old 09-11-2012, 07:22 AM
 
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We never experienced any resentment.
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Old 09-11-2012, 07:22 AM
 
Location: NC
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I for one waited until I had told my employer. Up until that time I would make mysterious comments to my good friends like "don't be surprised if you see me asking to retire this year". As soon as I gave HR a retirement date I waited a couple days for them to let my bosses know, asking for confidentiality, then I either sent out an email to each group of people that I worked with, or I talked to various contact-people on the phone in person. Within a short time EVERYONE knew.
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Old 09-11-2012, 07:24 AM
 
Location: NC
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And Oh yes, most everyone wished it was them!
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Old 09-11-2012, 08:01 AM
 
Location: SW MO
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Resentment? No. Some envy? Yes. "Announced" individually (collectively for my employees) as soon as I made my decision and after giving my employer six month's notice. No big deal!
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Old 09-11-2012, 08:36 AM
 
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I always thought this was "not a big deal" but also not something to keep secret.
It's not.

Why would you think that people would be resentful?
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Old 09-11-2012, 09:16 AM
 
Location: Pennsylvania
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If they're your friends, they'll be happy for you.
If they're not, who cares.
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Old 09-11-2012, 10:22 AM
 
Location: Florida
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For those of you who have already retired--how did you tell friends and acquaintances? I always thought this was "not a big deal" but also not something to keep secret. I thought it was something to tell people as it came up but some people have suggested this could rub people the wrong way and it might be smarter to make a group announcement of some sort. Not quite sure how to do that or if I like the idea--wouldn't that come across as bragging? Also, was resentment a problem?
The first step is to tell your boss. If the retirement date is a few months down the road then I would mention it to other people as the opportunity came up. If your talking in a week or two then let everyone know ASAP. A group announcement would be OK.
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