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Ghostly1, question about the Veterans Cemetery. When reservations are made for you and spouse and she dies before you, what happens? Is her urn buried and they just save a place for you? I am assuming you are a veteran and she is not.
Yes, I believe her urn is buried and there's only one plot for the two of us so my urn will join hers when the time comes. As far as the headstone (a typical cross) goes, my guess is that both sides will be carved except for my date of death.
On second thought, maybe not. They might just hold her until I achieve room temperature or require me to, probably the latter on the chance that I might move and then wish to have us interred at my new location.
Bottom line is choice #3 - I really don't know. Thank you. You've given me good reason to contact them and ask. I'm leaning toward Door #3!
DH died February, 2012. Both his sons had given the book A Father's Legacy, Your Life Story
in Your Own Words. Fortunately, I would ask DH questions from the book in his last three weeks of life. It means so much to me. Wish we had begun earlier.
DH lived six months from the diagnosis of his last illness, we knew in our heads it was his last illness, though in our hearts we did not accept it.
DH did teach me in the last six months, how to operate the dishwasher---I cooked, he cleaned! and how to operate the coffeemaker, grinding the coffee beans.
Most of all do appreciate your loved ones, treasure the moments, forget the little annoyances. DH last question to me "Any regrets?" His last words, supposedly in a coma, I kissed his cheek , said "I love you", he replied "I love you."
You are very lucky to have had this experience with him. Something you will never forget.
I feel the geneology stuff is very importat to keep. It wasn't until people were gone that I became interested in it. I wish I had sat down with my grandparents (father's from England; mother's from Norway) and learned more about ther earlier days and also more about their parents/grandparents.
Computer passwords - very important in today's world.
Computer passwords - very important in today's world.
I do not keep anything financial or anything I don't want family to see on my Mac or laptop, so I don't use passwords. I am pissed that my new cellphone is requiring me to use a password to get into my messages. I wish I could figure out how to un-password it, as it's a pain to have to punch in the code just to get the kinds of messages I don't care if anyone hears. Nothing secret going on in my life.
But it does bring to mind some thoughts....someone posted a while back something about a son going through his deceased dad's computer and finding "stuff." That is in itself interesting, but more interesting is that many surviving family members who are not computer-savvy may, if they cannot get into the deceased's files, just give up and give the computer away. Smart people who pick up used computers know how to get past passwords and retrieve someone's files, so that's some food for thought. The best thing to do when you "inherit" a computer is to bring it to a service that erases all files from the hard drive. Then you can safely ditch or sell it.
I do not keep anything financial or anything I don't want family to see on my Mac or laptop, so I don't use passwords. I am pissed that my new cellphone is requiring me to use a password to get into my messages. I wish I could figure out how to un-password it, as it's a pain to have to punch in the code just to get the kinds of messages I don't care if anyone hears. Nothing secret going on in my life.
But it does bring to mind some thoughts....someone posted a while back something about a son going through his deceased dad's computer and finding "stuff." That is in itself interesting, but more interesting is that many surviving family members who are not computer-savvy may, if they cannot get into the deceased's files, just give up and give the computer away. Smart people who pick up used computers know how to get past passwords and retrieve someone's files, so that's some food for thought. The best thing to do when you "inherit" a computer is to bring it to a service that erases all files from the hard drive. Then you can safely ditch or sell it.
I was thinking more about my online bills/accounts/email, etc... Since no paper comes to the house, online is the only access.
Also, CD, of course.
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