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"Octopi tastes like snake"
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Believe it or not this topic of conversation comes up frequently.
Most of the older people I know don't want to live alone. I don't.
One of the easiest ways to find someone is joining an
online dating service. I know quite a few people who
have had success.
A cousin who is seriously overweight proved size doesn't
matter; she went on 250 dates (she's over 60) and wound
up with this cute British guy..
A romantic (I guess) story in the newspaper was
two people met in the cemetary. They were visiting
their spouses and started talking. They got married.
Believe it or not this topic of conversation comes up frequently.
Most of the older people I know don't want to live alone. I don't.
One of the easiest ways to find someone is joining an
online dating service. I know quite a few people who
have had success.
A cousin who is seriously overweight proved size doesn't
matter; she went on 250 dates (she's over 60) and wound
up with this cute British guy..
A romantic (I guess) story in the newspaper was
two people met in the cemetary. They were visiting
their spouses and started talking. They got married.
I hear you. We all know the facts. There are more single women at our age, and the men our age often marry younger women.
For me, I have no desire to be half of a male/female couple again. My neighbor tells me that I should be looking for a husband. She told me once that she thought I didn't like men. I told her, "Good. If you ever meet anyone who use to know me, you won't believe a word they say."
The truth is that even though I am no longer attractive, I am still as particular as I ever was. I look around at what's available and I am happy to be on my own.
As far as loneliness, I make an effort to join any group that looks interesting. I love my book club and I am going to a geneology club meeting tomorrow. I make a point to speak to and try to get to know my neighbors and people I see regularly at the library, grocery, walking the dog, etc.
In the past, I met men by chance. Something clicked and we both knew it. Online dating works for some. I'm not against it in principle. I have tried it and it didn't work for me. I move too slow.
It sounds trite, but I think being the most attractive and interesting person you can be, and then getting out there where you can see and be seen is the best thing to do............. maybe not quite as out there as Escort Rider suggested.
Last edited by newcomputer; 07-12-2013 at 11:33 AM..
Reason: spelling
Do you live in an active adult community? Even though I'm married, my wife and I both believe having a network of close friends may be more important than a romantic relationship. Spouses and romantic lovers will eventually die/leave leaving you lonely again. Good friends with solid relationships may easily outlast significant others.
Another thought. It is easier since I moved. When I lived in the town where I became a widow, I once heard someone refer to me as "Herb's poor little wife." So, even if you don't move, find some new activities and fresh faces who didn't know you only as part of a couple, and don't automatically think about your loss when they see you.
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