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Old 08-26-2013, 07:36 PM
 
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By regrets I meant any type, whether it has to do with saving more money, travelling more when you were younger, getting a different career, taking better care of your health, spending more time with love ones, etc etc etc etc.

Just like to hear about the opinions of retired people and how you might have lived your life a bit differently if you were younger.
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Old 08-26-2013, 08:41 PM
 
Location: SW MO
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Pretty much all of the above, for a moment. But the lasting regret is that I married too young and in haste after returning from overseas, compounded the error by having five children, although I don't regret any one of them, and it all ended in divorce 25 years later because I'd married the wrong person to begin with. The divorce I don't regret, just that it didn't occur sooner.
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Old 08-26-2013, 11:38 PM
 
Location: Southwest Washington State
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I don't regret my marriage or having children. I had the great luxury of staying home for 11 years before going back to work. My chief regret was not recognizing that I had a career. I considered it my job, but didn't take seriously the fact that it was a career, until very far along.

I do regret that we didn't do more travel. Now that we are older, DH feels less interested in travel. I remain quite interested. So, there is a little bit of negotiating there.

I did do some basic things before retirement that I wish I done more of. I had some of my jewelry (such as it is) repaired and restyled. I was concerned that I wouldn't have the disposable income to do it later. And I have been right. I recommend having things like that done before retirement, if possible.

I enjoyed my children immensely. But sometimes I feel that I wasn't playful enough with them. I took everything pretty seriously. And I wish I had lived in the moment more.
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Old 08-27-2013, 01:24 AM
 
Location: Pennsylvania
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I guess for the me, biggest regret was investing a whole lot of money in retirement accts (stocks and bonds) that got poofed away. Hindsight: would have invested in real estate, as in a couple more rental properties. There's several discussions on the board of the pros and cons of real estate investing. I've got one, ideally would have 3 total, all paid off by now.
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Old 08-27-2013, 03:29 AM
 
Location: Cushing OK
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Well, the health issues were not things I could decide about, but would have loved it if they didn't happen. Alas...

Most of my issues come from the effects of that. But then the boyfriend,fiance who is now a good friend. It was a lousier relationship than I like to remember, but can't imagine what would have replaced it then. And should have agreed to a divorce with hubby when he wanted to. I wanted to hang on but it was already past time.

I think I'd like to have made less decisions grounded in fear. Of course without those being bad ones and having to face the results and learning its not a good base to use I wouldn't understand.

Likely without that I wouldn't have relocated myself like I did which was one of the best ones I've ever done.
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Old 08-27-2013, 07:02 AM
 
Location: SW MO
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Likely without that I wouldn't have relocated myself like I did which was one of the best ones I've ever done.
Riverside (bought my first house in San Berdoo) to Cushing. How did you decide on there? That seems almost as improbable as our move from Sacramento to the MO Ozarks.
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Old 08-27-2013, 07:25 AM
 
Location: Port St Lucie
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I agree with Nightbird47. I wish I made fewer decisions based on fear. I wish I had thought things through or waited a bit longer to see what else was coming around the corner.
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Old 08-27-2013, 08:30 AM
 
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Not putting all my money into 30-year Treasury bonds in the early '80s when interest rates were 16% or so. Of course, I didn't have a whole lot of money back then, so it's not like I'd be wealthy beyond my wildest dreams, but even still....

Other than that, I really can't think of any regrets. I married the love of my life at 22, enjoyed my 32-yr. career, and we were both able to retire at an age when many people can only dream of doing so. I've had several serious health issues throughout the years, a couple of which were touch-and-go for awhile, but there's nothing that I could have done to alter that, so no regrets there either.
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Old 08-27-2013, 08:46 AM
 
Location: Chicagoland
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I don't do regrets. Like most people I did when I was younger, but I finally realized that regrets accomplish nothing, they're just pointless self induced misery and worrry. However, it is important to learn from your mistakes, adjust/improve so as to not repeat mistakes - but then just move on. Spend just enough time to learn from the past and plan for the future, but focus all the time you can on the present...YMMV
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Old 08-27-2013, 11:59 AM
 
Location: SoCal desert
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Not buying shares of Google
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