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As I am going to be celebrating my 45th anniversary Next week [I married at 16] I find this thread very sad.
I also take exception to the idea the "most everyone" has been divorced at least once.
I'm still with the woman I began dating at age 14. (I'm 37 now.) Unless one of us dies, I'm sure we'll still be together when we're retired. She's the one for me. I realize this is somewhat rare in today's world though.
I find it interesting that everyone's ex is apparently either abusive, alcoholic, neurotic, "fugly," lazy, a spendthrift, or a combination of any and all of the above. It seems that everyone here represents the good half of the formerly married couple. I wonder how your exes would describe you?
Ha! I was starting to feel bad that I may have painted my Ex as a horrible person. He is, in fact, a good man and one day I may find it in my heart to send him copies of the family photos.
BTW, it's not how long a couple is married that is of importance... it's the quality of the marriage. Looking back on thirty years of marriage, I see that most of it was good, some of it was "good enough" and some of it "not good enough".
I find it interesting that everyone's ex is apparently either abusive, alcoholic, neurotic, "fugly," lazy, a spendthrift, or a combination of any and all of the above. It seems that everyone here represents the good half of the formerly married couple. I wonder how your exes would describe you?
I find it interesting that everyone's ex is apparently either abusive, alcoholic, neurotic, "fugly," lazy, a spendthrift, or a combination of any and all of the above. It seems that everyone here represents the good half of the formerly married couple. I wonder how your exes would describe you?
Well if you read the thread, you'd see that's not true.
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Originally Posted by cindersslipper
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I have far, far more needs met as a single woman than I ever did as a married one.
Thanks for the words I knew, someone had to say it, and I have no friends, so... Hope I have the ****S to do it. I wish she would come to me with a plan, but she is very afraid of being an old woman alone and won't talk about it. We have been to counseling for a year, she finally stopped going thought it was foolish.I kept going, now I have stopped.... Its tough when she is 8 years younger , not on SS till next year and has picked up the remains of our failed business of the last 40 years...and has made a sucess of it, which is a good thing, we have a lot of toys and those trips to the Keys this winter. Sometimes I wonder if she keeps me around for security, the non financial kind. and feeds me just enough toys to take my mind off the real problem. Its very frustrating living with a person that will NOT talk about our problems. If I could find her a Boyfriend, that would be great, might be enough to get her to talk....So for now, we are just friends, do everything social together like there is nothing wrong...its frustrating behond the pail.
Maybe have that talk sooner or later. Tell her you'll always be her friend and will always be there for her even if you remarry. Give her what she reasonably needs financially and go find a manageable apartment or whatever. Tell her it's for a year's separation to see how you both make out. I don't know how old you are, but you have posted a number of times about being miserable in your marriage. if you need support in this forum, we're here to do that. Courage is a great thing when we can muster it.
I find it interesting that everyone's ex is apparently either abusive, alcoholic, neurotic, "fugly," lazy, a spendthrift, or a combination of any and all of the above.
I find it interesting that everyone's ex is apparently either abusive, alcoholic, neurotic, "fugly," lazy, a spendthrift, or a combination of any and all of the above. It seems that everyone here represents the good half of the formerly married couple. I wonder how your exes would describe you?
I said nothing of the sort, nor did a number of others. If you're going to judge at least try hard to be accurate. Thank you!
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