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As I age (67) I am less concerned with how I look and more concerned with how I feel...
The best I can do is look good for my age...
It's sad for the movie stars trying to preserve their looks from decades ago...
Oh man, to quote Orange is the New Black, Who the f---- cares?
It REALLY is inner beauty that counts. Humor, kindness, empathy.
I remember one woman from ages ago who was just the sweetest lady you could imagine. I still think about her and wonder where she is! She wasn't pretty, average at best, but I'd do anything to have her personality.
A pretty face only carries you so far in life, and it sure isn't into retirement.
I am often astonished at hearing someone say to a person I have known ;you don't look 70. etc. I always kind of say yes he/she does; why lie? Its not uncommon to hear either. What they often are saying is you look good for your age but I think are hoping for return of same. I have said myself you look good but never lie as I hear so often.
In looking at photos of myself from 10 to 30 years ago, I think "damn.....I was really great looking"! But...back then I did not think that about my self. I wanted to be taller, thinner, blonder, tanner, etc.
I now have graying hair, crows feet, the beginning of the turkey neck, and when I look in the mirror I get a little sad. Not for how I look today, but for not realizing how attractive I was back 'then'.
And, I shall never again refer to my looks in the past tense. I am sure at age 80, if I am so blessed to live that long, I will look back and think "Wow...I was a total hottie at age 50"
Lena Horne, Gregory Peck, Lauren Bacall, Jessica Lange, Sean Connery....all looked better at 60 then the did at 30
Thank you, I needed those comments! My elderly mother use to say her middle age was the best time in her life. I thought, yeah right, whats good about it. Of course, I am middle age and cant see from her vantage point yet.
Upon reflection, I am glad I lost my looks. I have a sister who does not look like me and she has been envious all our lives. We are finally equal and can talk and laugh together and just be sisters. Men no longer look at me (gee, what a loss) and I'm enjoying being an 'elder'.
I think that those of us that were "Prized" for our looks, admired, and a large part of our identity was tied to our attractiveness have to make the most adjustments to seeing and accepting ourselves aging. I'm OK with it, but I think this is why you see some of the formerly "hot" actresses and celebrities having the most drastic plastic surgeries, etc.
I have the highest respect for those that DON'T go that route.
I'm doing my best to be the healthiest, fittest me for my age (or any age, for that matter. While I cannot stop the hands of the clock from turning, I can love and protect my body from lifestyle- caused disease.
Looking in the mirror, I smile. I'm "good enough." And that's all we can be-- at any age.
I bet you're all beautiful and good-hearted people.
Stop comparing yourself to movie stars and models in the magazines who have been Photoshopped into fantasy-land.
I am shocked to see photos online of how many celebs esp women have aged, pretty unimpressive even with all their makeup piled on and their hair/wigs. And I love seeing the online photos of the celebs caught on camera without any makeup. Yikes! I look as good if not better than a number of them...really. Some have aged really well, but definitely not all. I won't name names because I don't want to insult.
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