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We differ so much as individuals, and people who feel they are better suited to raising boys, or better suited to raising girls, are simply being honest with themselves. Many people may be equally suited to children of either gender; I say more power to them, and that their children are lucky.
I believe this is a common area for disappointment for parents, but that it is rarely talked about. I'm glad you have two wonderful girls, and I would bet that Golfingduo is glad too.
How do you know what you're better suited for until you have the kids there in front of you and you have years of experience?
You don't. It's all made-up speculation.
Ex. I have friends from high school and college who were the kind of guys who would rather play D&D or decode some program than EVER touch a ball. Who do you think would be more in touch with and more easily relate to and raise my son (an EXTREMELY ACTIVE, physical, agile, sporty, loves to hit and kick things kid)? Me (woman) - multiple letter athlete (basketball, soccer, track, volleyball, softball) with years of MMA training who now enjoys golf, tennis, and powerlifting or THEM (can't bounce a ball without getting a bloody nose)?
How do you know what you're better suited for until you have the kids there in front of you and you have years of experience?
You don't. It's all made-up speculation.
Ex. I have friends from high school and college who were the kind of guys who would rather play D&D or decode some program than EVER touch a ball. Who do you think would be more in touch with and more easily relate to and raise my son (an EXTREMELY ACTIVE, physical, agile, sporty, loves to hit and kick things kid)? Me (woman) - multiple letter athlete (basketball, soccer, track, volleyball, softball) with years of MMA training who now enjoys golf, tennis, and powerlifting or THEM (can't bounce a ball without getting a bloody nose)?
Well, I think many people do know in advance, even if not everybody does. We don't live in a bubble until our first child is born. We interact with and observe the children of friends, acquaintances, and various relatives. We know what we enjoyed as children, and what we are interested in now as adults.
In your example, you, as a woman, may very well be better suited to raising an athletic boy than a man who "can't bounce a ball with getting a bloody nose". It is an excellent example, and it serves to confirm and validate my idea about some people being better suited to raise certain genders of children. I never said that women are necessarily better suited to raising girls, or that men are necessarily better suited to raising boys.
I know a few men who had only girls and seem delighted and very involved with their daughters, but that does not contradict my idea at all.
As much as I respect your intelligence and experience, I found no reason in your post to modify what I posted.
Well, I think many people do know in advance, even if not everybody does. We don't live in a bubble until our first child is born. We interact with and observe the children of friends, acquaintances, and various relatives. We know what we enjoyed as children, and what we are interested in now as adults.
In your example, you, as a woman, may very well be better suited to raising an athletic boy than a man who "can't bounce a ball with getting a bloody nose". It is an excellent example, and it serves to confirm and validate my idea about some people being better suited to raise certain genders of children. I never said that women are necessarily better suited to raising girls, or that men are necessarily better suited to raising boys.
I know a few men who had only girls and seem delighted and very involved with their daughters, but that does not contradict my idea at all.
As much as I respect your intelligence and experience, I found no reason in your post to modify what I posted.
Apologies. On a phone and did not finish.
Two of these guys said they required male children to "understand" and relate to.
One of them has a daughter he adores, princess parties and all.
I remember when he said to me, "Stan4, it's nothing like you think!" Gleaming and happy.
Neither of these guys would be as in touch with my son as I am, and I would be a little lost with a kid who was like artsy or musical. I do academics and athletics. I only dabble in writing and piano/guitar.
This part I agree we can kind of predict.
Genders...more variables there.
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