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Old 02-07-2014, 02:49 PM
 
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Since I retired, I have thrown caution to the wind and let my true personality come out. I am still nice to people and try to be polite, but I am far less concerned with what people think of me. As a result I start conversations with lots strangers just to visit. Many times I get no where, like with my neighbors, but I am shocked how open and candid other middle aged- or older- people can be if you make the first move.

When I was younger, I generally would not talk to people unless we shared a common activity, were neighbors, coworkers, relatives or shared friends. The rest of the people were invisible to me.

Now I am getting into interesting conversations with people who sit next me at the shopping mall, service people, repair men, hairdressers, and people who are waiting in line with me, etc. Many of them react somewhat defensively initially but when I keep talking and they see I don't need anything from them, they suddenly get more relaxed. I can tell they wish more people were friendly like me but initially don't know what to make of it in the normally unfriendly DC Metro area.

How about you, do you chat to more strangers since you retired?
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Old 02-07-2014, 03:07 PM
 
Location: Near a river
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I tend to get into casual conversations now around kids, grandkids, and dogs. I didn't do that while working.
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Old 02-07-2014, 03:59 PM
 
Location: Western Colorado
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I live in a small mountain town where everyone talks to you. So yes, it's kinda neat.
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Old 02-07-2014, 04:28 PM
 
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How about you, do you chat to more strangers since you retired?
Nope. And I don't meet nearly as many strangers since I retired, either.
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Old 02-07-2014, 05:20 PM
 
Location: Henderson, NV
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I do, though I've always been pretty friendly to folks I've met along the way. I've apparently passed it on to my son who frustrates his wife by getting into lengthy conversations with cashiers and passers-by when his wife just wants to keep moving. I had a lovely conversation with the manager of the service department at my local car dealership the other day -- I guess I just have more time to "visit" than I used to.
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Old 02-07-2014, 06:40 PM
 
Location: Prescott AZ
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Yes. I am becoming my mother. She always would say " I can talk to anyone." and she could and did.
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Old 02-07-2014, 06:58 PM
 
Location: Out there somewhere...a traveling man.
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I have no choice, I live in a retirement community.
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Old 02-08-2014, 05:49 AM
 
Location: Florida
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Both my husband and I have always done so, not just since retirement.
What other reason to exist do all those other people that you run across every day have if not to entertain and amuse you?
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Old 02-08-2014, 11:30 AM
 
Location: Tennessee
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I have found that since I moved to the South native strangers will talk to anybody about anything. I like it.
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Old 02-08-2014, 11:40 AM
 
Location: South Minneapolis
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So which version are we to believe? This

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Originally Posted by I'm Retired Now View Post
Since I retired, I have thrown caution to the wind and let my true personality come out. I am still nice to people and try to be polite, but I am far less concerned with what people think of me. As a result I start conversations with lots strangers just to visit. Many times I get no where, like with my neighbors, but I am shocked how open and candid other middle aged- or older- people can be if you make the first move.

When I was younger, I generally would not talk to people unless we shared a common activity, were neighbors, coworkers, relatives or shared friends. The rest of the people were invisible to me.

Now I am getting into interesting conversations with people who sit next me at the shopping mall, service people, repair men, hairdressers, and people who are waiting in line with me, etc. Many of them react somewhat defensively initially but when I keep talking and they see I don't need anything from them, they suddenly get more relaxed. I can tell they wish more people were friendly like me but initially don't know what to make of it in the normally unfriendly DC Metro area.

How about you, do you chat to more strangers since you retired?
Or this?

I like to say weird things to people to see how they will respond!
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