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Old 04-11-2014, 09:26 AM
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Location: Hudson Valley, NY
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My parents were teenagers when I was born. I've never even met my father. Booze, drugs, unemployed, I am so glad I was never like him.
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Old 04-11-2014, 11:37 AM
 
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Guess I'm a little of both, which is good and bad.

Smart & classy vs. Common sense & white trash!

I just hope my daughter doesn't pick up too much of my bad side growing up.
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Old 04-11-2014, 12:24 PM
 
Location: Chicago area
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Nope not even close to being like my parents. I didn't drink myself to death at 48 like my father did. I'm not the air headed alcoholic my mother was either. Nothing like them, not even close.
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Old 04-11-2014, 12:49 PM
 
Location: in the miseries
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No. Even though I looked like my mother, I always thought I was dropped off at my parents' doorstep. I still feel that way.
I used to tell my friends I was adopted.
But I looked just like my sisters with darker skin.
Hmmm?
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Old 04-11-2014, 02:51 PM
 
Location: Near a river
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No offense, but sounds like she had a few personalities.
No, that's me.
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Old 04-11-2014, 05:21 PM
 
Location: State of Being
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I have kept many of the same life values as my parents (moral compass) but as far as philosophy on life and personality and habits . . . as years have gone by, those differences have become more polarized.

My father and I have always shared some traits (love of history, writing, fine art) but it is still baffling how my mother could actually be my biological mother, lol. My husband and son agree - we will forever be scratching our heads on that one . . . b/c there simply is no connection there. We don't look alike, think alike, process info alike, share no common interests and would never choose to be even the most casual of friends.
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Old 04-11-2014, 09:04 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles area
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More different than the same here, yet sharing a trait or two. Shared trait with both parents - frugality (although I am not as extreme). Shared trait with father - conscientiousness, especially with regard to work ethic. Shared trait with mother - interest in books and reading. However in many respects my parents were role models in how not to be - mother highly irrational and emotionally volatile, father a religious fanatic.
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Old 04-12-2014, 03:47 AM
 
Location: Cushing OK
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Mom and dad smoked themselves to death. Horrible habit and I opposed it. My son does too knowing it took away any chance of him ever meeting his grandparents.

I feel more like I'm harking back to my grandmother. And I think when the anti ageing stuff quits working I'll look like her, which isn't at all bad. Tough lady she was.
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Old 04-12-2014, 03:49 AM
 
Location: Cushing OK
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I think in many ways I am much like my father; but of course with times changing not exactly.
The problem I had with Dad growing up was that I am dad. Same temper, same instant trigger system we set off on each other. Mom was the one who got in the middle.
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Old 04-12-2014, 05:51 AM
 
Location: SW MO
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In my younger years I was too much like my father. But as the years passed by I became less and less like him. That's a blessing. He did have his good qualities, however, and I seem to have inherited some of them. Fortunately, there's very little of my mother in me. Unfortunately, that also includes her artistic, creative skills.

Both of my parents were alcoholics who literally determined to drink themselves to death after Dad retired. Pancreatic cancer beat my mother to it and my father followed a year later.
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