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Old 04-17-2014, 12:33 PM
 
Location: delaware
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i don't really think of myself as old, even now at almost 71. for many years, i thought of myself as about 37, though not that for many years now. i'd say currently, i think of myself as about 55-57. these ages are a reflection of how i see myself; i've never told anyone i was younger than i was. i see no point in lying about age.

my own feeling is that those people- specifically women- who don't have children, and don't have any roles- mother, grandmother- by which to define themselves, might tend to think of themselves as younger. i base that on nothing but observation and friends who are without children and those who have adult children and grandchildren. i think in my case there might be some truth in that- for others??. i don't know.

catsy girl
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Old 04-17-2014, 06:15 PM
 
Location: Tucson for awhile longer
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When any doctor I went to seemed to be too young to know what they were doing. Coupled with my hairdresser's conversation boring me out of my mind.
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Old 04-17-2014, 09:32 PM
 
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if I decide to return to the work force I have to figure out how to get through the work day without a nap.
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Old 04-18-2014, 10:55 AM
 
Location: middle tennessee
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I thought of myself as "young" and healthy until I was in my early 50's. I could still do anything. Then a chronic illness appeared and knocked me flat. I couldn't slow down regardless. My husband died of leukemia when I was in my early 60's after a twenty year endless round of treatment and the side effects that followed. After his passing, I dealt with a lifetime of stuff, sold our home and moved to my present location.

I planned to have a life again once I got rested up. I looked at myself one morning and realized that I wasn't just tired..... I was old.
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Old 04-18-2014, 11:42 AM
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Location: Hudson Valley, NY
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if I decide to return to the work force I have to figure out how to get through the work day without a nap.
Don't try to fight it. Every now and then I look at my monitors and the screens are full of nothing but the number 4 like this 444444444444444444444444444444444444444444444 . . . .

It's then I realize I started nodding with my fingers on the keyboard again.
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Old 04-18-2014, 12:00 PM
 
Location: Rosa’s Cantina
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I'm 51. Within the past couple of months one older guy at my gym asked me if I was retired yet or still working and a helpful waiter at Dennys asked if I was 55 yet as that would allow me some discount. (Also, my little brother's nickname at his work place is grandpa. I think that makes both of us feel old). Still doing OK healthwise but my feet always seem to hurt.
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Old 04-18-2014, 12:47 PM
 
Location: Albuquerque NM
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my own feeling is that those people- specifically women- who don't have children, and don't have any roles- mother, grandmother- by which to define themselves, might tend to think of themselves as younger. i base that on nothing but observation and friends who are without children and those who have adult children and grandchildren. i think in my case there might be some truth in that- for others??. i don't know.

catsy girl
I agree with your observation. I'm 58 and never had children and do tend to think of myself as younger. Of course, I'm the "short cute type" and have always looked younger than my age. I see my friends with children starting to turn into the matriarch of the family as they become grandparents - partly because some of them have their adult children and grandchildren living with them. Also people say that having children ages you while others say that being around young people keeps you young.

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Old 04-18-2014, 07:14 PM
 
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It's sort of ruined my day the day I got an invitation to join AARP.

Otherwise, I don't seem to have the problem. Even though I'm 62, I still feel like I'm 27. Sometimes, that's problematic, though. Some of my friends don't seem to have the energy they used to have, while I'm ready to go. For example, sometime next year I'm going to take the Mt. Everest base camp trek. None of my friends seem interested.
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Old 04-18-2014, 07:58 PM
 
Location: Near a river
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When we first installed grab bars in the bathroom.
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Old 04-18-2014, 08:05 PM
 
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I'm not a retiree, but I've had some recent events remind me that I'm not as young as I feel or once was. What events caused you to realize that time is passing and you aren't so young?

For me, it's been like this.

1) Great aunts and uncles are all but gone. My grandmother's side started with ten, now down to three. The other set of great aunts and uncles are probably 60% deceased. My own grandparents are pushing 80.

2) My parents helped me move this weekend and they asked tonight if I had been to the gym lately. I remember my dad got me my first gym membership when I was 14...in 2000. He was 42 then, 56 today, and in fourteen more years, will be seventy.

3) My first girlfriend out of high school was 35 then and had an eight year old at the time. That girl turns 18 next month.

4) I'm closer to 30 than 25.

When did you know you just weren't so young anymore?
It hit me on my 35th birthday that I wasn't really "young" anymore and that there is a certain window of time for certain opportunities...and if you miss that window, you miss it and there's nothing you can do about it. I was completely clueless of this concept in my 20s. It started coming into focus for me at 28, but only vaguely. It hit me like a ton of bricks at 35, because of some relationship problems I was having.
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