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Old 04-21-2014, 09:34 AM
 
Location: Verde Valley AZ
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That they did not pay rent is whose fault really? Generations have lived together for hundreds of years. Freeloading is the issue there really. kind of like a married couple who goes broke ;its not marriage itself but the people involved.
I agree. There should have been some ground rules from the start but my mom has a HUGE heart and freely gives to her family. She didn't think they'd be here that long, I'm sure. Finally it just got to be too much and she 'blew'.
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Old 04-21-2014, 12:34 PM
 
Location: Orange County, CA
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^^^^^How sad that she hasn't yet learned to say No.
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And how sad that they have never stopped asking.
When she is gone they are going to get a very nasty reality check. For the first time in their lives, these middle aged "Babies" will be forced to assume responsibility for their lives, instead of thinking that it was Mom's obligation and duty. I tried to reason with her many years ago, stating that she was not helping them, but rather doing them a great diservice, but she would not listen.
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Old 04-22-2014, 09:30 AM
 
Location: Verde Valley AZ
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When she is gone they are going to get a very nasty reality check. For the first time in their lives, these middle aged "Babies" will be forced to assume responsibility for their lives, instead of thinking that it was Mom's obligation and duty. I tried to reason with her many years ago, stating that she was not helping them, but rather doing them a great diservice, but she would not listen.
I have cousins who are 'trust fund babies', all in their 50s and pushing 60s now. My aunt NEVER learned how to say "No" to any of them. Now she's gone and they are in the middle of a HUGE fight over "the Will". My older cousin was executor and he died, unexpectedly, last October. Now a couple of the cousins have hired attorney's to 'get their share'. It will take half of forever to sort it all out as there are multiple properties, homes and a business but the attorney's will make out like bandits. ALL but one of her kids homes were paid for out of the trust and are part of that trust. Two of them have never worked a day in their lives and the others as little as they HAD to. I told my aunt the same thing about doing them a disservice but she just shrugged. Her monthly income, after my uncle died, was over $4,000 month and she was always 'broke' because of her kids. When we were growing up I admit to feeling a little 'envious' over all my cousins had/were given but as I got older I realized that I was better off than they were/are in many ways. At least I'm independent and know how to take care of myself no matter how little or much I have.
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